Just miserable where I live: rant

[WantsALittle1]

I live in a big city in the southern central US. It's hot, humid, polluted, and seems to completely lack local/organic businesses and small-scale culture. It's all restaurant chains, car chains, grocery chains, strip malls, ugh ugh ugh! It's also a car culture which goes against my social beliefs--I believe in small scale, local everything. I support farmer's markets, fair trade, organic, sustainable communities. I want to be able to walk out my front door and get to shops, coffee, food, and markets. I want to know local business owners. Here, you have to DRIVE 15 minutes to get to anything, and it's likely to be a huge chain of some kind.

DH and I fight constantly about this. He loves this area because he grew up here. I think it's absolutely horrible. I fought tooth and nail for us to move somewhere else, but he won and so here we are. It's been 2 weeks, and I'm trying to make the best of it but it's everything I thought it was--a hot, muggy, cultureless car-air-conditioning-addicted place.

Can anyone help me think through this differently, or provide any personal stories about similar situations and how they turned out?

Thanks!

 

[Belle25]

Hi,
Although I am in the uk, I feel like I'm living in our equivalent!

I hate it too. We are planning on moving as soon as my partner gets a new job elsewhere. I want countryside and a big garden! Currently live in a densely populated area, I just can't wait to move!

I would give it a little longer than 2 weeks to form a real opinion.

Is there nowhere near you could that would be a happy medium?
Xx

 

[seoj]

Maybe, give it time- if not for you, but so you can at least tell OH you gave it a go! Maybe even 6mos- I know that prob seems forEVER... but it will go fast, then you and OH can have a good sit down talk about compromise. You should both be happy where you live- as it's such a big part of your daily lives. When my hubby and I moved, he mentioned a few times an area (farther out) than I orignally wanted... tbh, I'd love to live where I can walk out my front door and be within walking distance of shops/restaurants etc... BUT, where we live, the cost for that lifestyle is HIGH. I eventually caved and looked at a house in the area he suggested- it's a lovely area, again, just farther from the city than I'd have ideally liked. But I ended up loving the house- and we can drive to many places (close by- like within a mile or two)-- and I can walk to them as well, just a bit of a longer walk. haha.

It ended up being a good move for use both- he drives much farther for work, but the area was his ideal- well, he'd have moved even farther out (if I'd agreed!)- as he would love NO neighbors and lots of land... but that was not an option for me, so this was a good compromise for us both. Sorry for the tangent- it does suck you hate where you live so much. And your OH should take that into consideration for sure! I'm sure you can find a compromise- just maybe tell OH you'll give it 3 or 6mos- and if you still hate it, then you both need to find a middle ground... ? Least he'll see your giving it a chance, and hopefully be more open to change at that point. I can't imagine he'd want you to be miserable.

Best of luck!