Just seen FOB!!!!

[Ash_P]

I got reall bad pains earlier (similar to last week) foned hospital and they told ,e to come straight up (due to my risk of early labour they wanna be sure) my sister couldnt get her son minded, my MIL was in bed and had fone off and had no1 else to take me and I was in too much pain to drive.....so last resort i had to fone FOB. He answered the fone within 2 rings (which is surprising as he never answers the fone to me)
I said to him " ru busy, I need to go to hospital, no1 can take me so u are going to have to" he replied "ok Im on my way I wont be long" (he sounded really concerned)
5 minutes later he was at my house. Helped me into the car, drove like a mainiac to get me to hospital quickly, ran like hell to get teh car parked and get me into labour ward.
I cant believe how concerned he was!! Put his arm round me when I was walking, helped me getting up onto bed etc. Hang on every word that the nurse said in regards to baby. Thankfully baby is fine, they said that because baby is sooo big, and its lying with its head right down low, its putting so much pressure thats why I am getting the pains.

As we were leaving the hospital, he told me he is going to pay the extra money to add my sister onto my car insurance so that for whatever reason I cant drive, then she will be able to drive my car without the worry of being stopped by police etc.
He gave me his fone to ring my sister to let her know I was ok, and his screen saver is of the pic of the teddy he bought that wears a bip saying "I love my daddy"
I laughed at him when I saw it, is he actually accepting that he is going to be a father??

My sister seems to think that he genuinely cares, and just pretends that he doesnt. But I guess time will tell. Words and actions are a totally different thing.
What do u think? Do u think that thers a possibility that its hitting him that theres a baby in my tum tum and that hes responsible for it?

Sorry for long post

 

[tinkabells]

It sounds like he has now gotten over the shock that he is going to be a dad, with evrything his said and done over the last week, but i would be careful with getting hopes up for when baby is here cos he could freak again, but for the time being it seems his turning around xxx

 

[Welshcob]

Oh I thought that was lovely to read. I am hoping that maybe he sticks with this mode of behaviour and maybe all will turn out lovely. I thought he did all the right things! Really happy for you and glad that you could turn to him! xxxx

 

[Ash_P]

Unfortunately it was a last resort. And baby is more important that my pride. Im a bit more level headed today than I was last nite, He is probably suggesting about the car insurance thing, because he knows that he is going on holiday on the 30th and if anything happens to me that I have to go to hospital, He knows i have a lift if my sister can drive. And I cant throw it in his face that he couldnt take me.
But saying that, im not actually holding my breathe about the car insurance thing, Its only words. Chances are its not brought up again, his holiday will be more important than him paying to insure my sister on my car.
To be fair he was with me in 5 minutes, (our old house is only 10 mins drive away) So he must of hammered like hell up the road. If the girl was there, hes obviously just left her sitting. Which is that is the case, at least he is showing abit of responsibility towards his unborn baby.
He told me about how excited he is about the baby but time will tell exactely whether that is true or not.

I tested him last nite to see his reaction, and said Oh if baby comes early, will u mind it on the 10th feb (thats my birthday) and his face lit up, he was grinning from ear to ear. Yes of course I will. I will keep baby anytime u want, u just have to ask and Il do it. That surprised me, but come the time I mite not actually want him near the baby.

 

[Welshcob]

Unfortunately it was a last resort. And baby is more important that my pride. Im a bit more level headed today than I was last nite, He is probably suggesting about the car insurance thing, because he knows that he is going on holiday on the 30th and if anything happens to me that I have to go to hospital, He knows i have a lift if my sister can drive. And I cant throw it in his face that he couldnt take me.
But saying that, im not actually holding my breathe about the car insurance thing, Its only words. Chances are its not brought up again, his holiday will be more important than him paying to insure my sister on my car.
To be fair he was with me in 5 minutes, (our old house is only 10 mins drive away) So he must of hammered like hell up the road. If the girl was there, hes obviously just left her sitting. Which is that is the case, at least he is showing abit of responsibility towards his unborn baby.
He told me about how excited he is about the baby but time will tell exactely whether that is true or not.

I tested him last nite to see his reaction, and said Oh if baby comes early, will u mind it on the 10th feb (thats my birthday) and his face lit up, he was grinning from ear to ear. Yes of course I will. I will keep baby anytime u want, u just have to ask and Il do it. That surprised me, but come the time I mite not actually want him near the baby.

Yes I guess we need to wait and see. I'll be ever so happy for you though if he does pull his finger out

 

[lou_w34]

Oh wow! It sounds like he's finally got that kick up the arse he needed

It sounds like he does genuinley care

Oh and im glad you and baby are ok too

xxx

 

[sweetlullaby]

Im glad you and your LO are ok

It does sound like he is beginning to come around and is accepting responsibility but as you yourself have said your LO isnt here yet and he could change his mind or react very differently once your LO is born.

But it was good of him to be supportive and come straight away.

As others and yourself have said only time will tell

xx

 

[purpledahlia]

It does sound like hes accepted the fact hes gonna be a daddy now... But i agree with you that untill you see actions.. it is only words.. Ive learnt to not take anything seriously till theres actions to back it up. In my case there has never been such actions, hopefully he will sort out the insurance for you and your sister.

I have to say tho, i did giggle at his picture on his phone...

Let us know if he follows up! and glad its all ok!