Just struggling...

[BrokenfoREVer]

I'm sure some of you have read my other post's about FOB & what an idiot he is.

Short back story... I fell pregnant while living with FOB, things were rocky. He's very selfish & only interested in himself. He had me arrested when I was 5 months pregnant & then told me to get over spending 4 of the scariest hours of my life in a police cell. Anyhoo, things got worse, & he got more selfish. So last week we left our flat & went home.

Now, as far as I'm concerned we're over. I'd be happy never to see him again. But he thinks its all okay & wants us to move in together in after our son is born.

I'm so happy at my moms, but he won't leave me alone. He's always texting & calling me, asking about LO (which I feel I have to answer) & telling me he loves me & can't wait to be a family.

I just want to scream at him to leave me alone, but if I do that, he'll never see my son. He seems to think he needs to be with me to have any bond with his child. I just want him to see that its not like that.

I'm trying to be nice and civil to him, I speak to him & I meet him, cos I'm so scared he'll just vanish & my child will be without a dad. I grew up without my dad & I wouldn't wish that on my child. I feel like if I'm not nice to FOB & he disappears, I will be responsible for LO not have his dad around.

He goes on & on about all he's done for LO. All he's done is throw money at the situation. He's bought things that he tells me he wants back when we fight. He's not interested in LO & what he's doing to him by having me stressed out every waking second.

Any time I mention us not 'being a family' he gets really defensive, telling me I used him for a baby, & threatening court & social services & telling me he'll take LO away from me or that he'll never see LO & it will all be my fault.

I know what I need to do...I need to not tell him LO is born until I've registered him. Then FOB wouldn't really have a leg to stand on. But I'd just be accused of using him...& I guess I would have.

I really want him to be a different person, I miss the person he was & I can't stand the person he is & I just...

Am I just looking for excuses not to cut him out of my life?

I'm sorry this post might not make much sense, my mind is very scattered atm. Thanks for reading.

 

[Scarletvixen]

For a start no court in the country would take a baby off its mother and give it to the father!
Itsjust him bullying you stay strong xx

 

[jessrabbit]

Sorry to hear you are having such a bad time. I understand how hard it is to try your hardest to maintain a relationship for the sake of your LO and its hard when your heart is broken and your are missing someone that no longer seems to exist.

Keep strong and keep trying and feel free to rant away anytime.

xxx

 

[Laura2919]

Sorry to hear your having a bad time of it.

It would be 100% wrong to get back with him for the baby's sake. That almost never works out. If you really dont want to be with him then dont do it.

I would say just ignore him if he keeps on, you cant be forced to be with him.