just want to cry....

[rabbitswife10]

a little while ago i wrote about a certain ex posting comments on my husbands facebook page. i tried to just chalk it off to nothing and i was only getting upset cuz of hormones... well the shit hit the fan last night. i was looking at his page and he has this "answer a question" thing on there and her answers were pissing me off... one question was "if mr rabbit called you in the middle of the night, what would he say"... her answer "with mr rabbit you never know lol" wtf does that mean???? then the other one was "could you sit alone in a room with mr rabbit without saying a word?" her answer "yes until we started laughing.. lol" ok so maybe its harmless so i thought id just ask him about it and move on... no sense in getting all worked up over nothing. come to find out they still talk, from time to time via facebook but according to him he jsut says hi now and then... hmm... i told him i was pissed cause i had no idea and me being his WIFE i think i should know since he knows everyone i talk to and where i am all the time (not cuz i have to tell him, just i have nothing to hide). a few moments later it turned from just saying hi from time to time to talking about her baby daddys, his parents, work, ME, MY PREGNANCY... what happend to just saying hi??? then he started to ask why i was mad, he wasnt doing anything wrong.... seriously??? keeping stuff from your wife IS wrong in my book and weve had that talk many times... i'm finding myself not trusting him at all anymore. i cried my eyes out last night til i finally fell asleep. i am getting prepared to raise my daughters on my own. i cant be with someone i dont trust and how can you trust someone who keeps things from you? ya know?? like what else is he keeping???? this isnt the first time he kept things from me, money is always an issue... he told me he sold some of his stuff so we could use it towards baby things... he gave the money to his parents to pay back a loan... so for weeks i was thinking we had $400 for baby items and it turns out we dont have shit. sorry for all the cussing... i'm really upset about all of this and i'm super tired of it. i dont know how to trust someone who keeps things from me. we are married, we are having a baby in 59 days and i dont trust him. i love him with all my heart and the thought of not being with him kills me... i dont know what i'm going to do

 

[natty1985]

I didnt want to read and run but i dont know what to suggest .

I totally feel for you thought and i would be pissed off at everything too its the not knowing that would annoy me more than anything else , talking about you is one thing, to an ex is another xxxx

BIG HUGS X

 

[bekki_d18]

At the end of the day your pregnancy is nothing to do with his ex and it seems like she is not to be trusted either. Sorry you are going through this upset hun and you will have to do what is best for yourself and LO.

Sorry no advise but plenty of hugs for you xxxx

 

[layneeleigh]

I would ask him to remove her from his friends list! This is a bit off topic but boy some of thee websites like FB,twitter,and myspace seem to cause lots of problems for relationships!
Tell him how you feel even if he doesn't want to hear it atleast he knows where you stand on it! As for the money I can only say that maybe it was a burden off his shoulders to know he could give back what he had borrowed and maybe felt like you had enough time to purchase baby things and he is planning on coming up with more money.
The biggest thing I can say is don't leave things unaddressed as I think that would drive you even crazier!
Good luck hun!

 

[rabbitswife10]

its not working out... he doesnt get why i'm upset, yes i'm hormonal but i still have feelings and all of this is breaking my heart. day two of fighting with him over this and he has yet to say hes sorry without a but at the end.... like "i'm sorry, but i'm not doing anything wrong"... once you say "but" you cancel out everything said before that. he called his parents and they came running over to get all involved.. his mom told me if i keep accusing him of cheating he is going to cheat... nice!! so if her theory is true, then i can accuse him of cleaning the flipping house and eventually he'll do it... how dumb!! if a man is going to cheat he is going to cheat. right now i could care less and i'm going to focus on my two princesses and keeping the LO inside til she is fully cooked. i'm going to surround myself with my friends and keep myself happy. ive done it before with no help from a man, i can do it again. we are supposed to hear if we got the house we've been wanting tomorrow....
oh and on an immature note: since my husband wouldnt delete her or tell her to flip off... i sent her a nice email.. i know its childish but at the time it seemed like the right thing to do. from what i've heard of this girl she has no respect for me what so ever.. so flip her!!! welp i'm going to shower and try to get some rest.. not sleeping too well lately... hmm wonder why.... thanks for reading this ladies, this is kinda my only source of "therapy".

 

[layneeleigh]

Don't blame you for sending her an email! That she knows you are not oblivious to the fact that he has communicated with her!
What a B**th!

 

[mrs_park]

Aww I'm sorry your going through this. I don't blame you for bring upset. Sorry I don't have any advise but I think your right, you just have to concentrate on looking after yourself and you lo.

 

[happigail]

he really needs to understand that he has to remove social networking sites and all communication with this woman to save his relationship.

he will regret it if he puts that fake part of his life before his flesh and blood and beautiful woman xxxx

 

[FireLight]

I have had this same situation, and I too hate that "but I haven't done anything"

Do they not see that whether they meant to upset you or not they have done and for that they need to properly apologes and stop doing whatever it was!!

Me and husband (although he wasnt at the time just bf) worked things out and when she started sending me emails saying that he wanted her not me and how he was texting her and emailing her about having them DTD he soon realised that this "innocent" friendship wasnt so innocent at all in her mind.

I believe that he didnt intend to cheat on me, but was naive and thought she was being friendly but I dont think its possible sometimes. And the most hurtful part was that he kept it from me!

Anyway everything is fine now after he realised how destructive these things can be. Try to keep calm, take care of your LO's and try to work things out.

Hope things work out OK PM me if you need a chat x

 

[rabbitswife10]

thank you ladies so very much, i havent heard back from this chick yet, but DH deleted his whole facebook page . then last night he said "i'm sorry, but do what you have to do"... WTf does that mean??? then he asked me if what I wanted to do I told him i was heartbroken and I needed time to think. so he slept in the computer room last night and i havent seen him since..