Just when I thought he was coming to terms with it...

[ella170]

he's talk about putting the baby into foster care until he has a job and i've finished uni and got a job (which would be in like 5 years)..!! so i told him hell no i'm not letting my baby get attatched to some carer and then thinking i'm a complete stranger- it doesn't work like that!
then he started playing the sympathy card and saying he isn't ready to be a dad and that it's always me making the decisions, like when i said i wasn't having an abortion. so i told him it's my body and baby, i'll do what the f*** i like with it. what a complete knob- if you're old enough to get someone pregnant then take responsbility (he's 18 not bloody 10 years old). how could anyone possibly think it's so easy to give your baby into foster care, it's not like i would give it a crap life anyway.
now i just feel completly alone with this, it's like he's not even part of it!

 

[youngmomma100]

Men dont understand do they! Dont worry your not alone were all here for you!

Im sorry you have to go through this tho! Its very hard to go through it when the dad doesnt seem to want to be involved but he will come around soon dont you worry. my fiancee has his moments with this pregnancy to! so dont worry!

 

[AppleBlossom]

Too late for him to decide he isn't ready to be a dad. He has to take responsibility x

 

[sam's mum]

I can't believe he would even suggest it! It's one thing to say before you're pregnant that he's not ready yet but in 5 years he will be, but it's a bit late to be deciding that now! Tell him he needs to grow up and take some responsibility! It might not be the best timing for either of you, but I'm sure you'll be a great mum

 

[Pyrrhic]

I would tell him that unfortunately you cannot just offload your child onto social services and then pick them back up when you want to. It just doesn't work like that. He needs to take responsibility for his actions. If he's man enough to get it up and make a baby, then he should be man enough to look after one.

 

[leeanne]

Shocking that someone would suggest putting their own baby into foster care. My god!

Hope he comes to his senses!

 

[trickysgurl]

Too late for him to decide he isn't ready to be a dad. He has to take responsibility x

THANK YOU! And good for u luv it is ur body and ur baby! Maybe he will come around just make sure u are ready if he doesnt BUT no matter what DONT let him take away ur joy this sould be a happy time AND for the record the very second u became pregnant was the same second that u would never be lonely again.. U have ur baby!

 

[nikky0907]

Thats the most immature behavior I have seen so far...

Ship off the baby and then just take it in when he feels like it?!
What the hell?

Idiot.Seriously honey,he needs a reality check.

Make sure you show him your 20 weeks scan pics so maybe he realizes that it's a child not a puppy.

 

[Rachiebaby24]

for f*cks sake - why do men think they dont have a choice when it comes to pregnancy....IF YOU DONT WANT A BABY THEN WEAR A BLOODY CONDOM!!!

he is probably scared and trying everything in the book to shy away from his responsibility rather than have to deal with it...

He may come round....in the meantime try and enjoy your pregnancy! x

 

[polo_princess]

Too late for him to decide he isn't ready to be a dad. He has to take responsibility x

I agree with bexy hun

 

[Jodie__x]

what a Bast@rd :-O !!!!
Ella i think your make a brilliant mum .. he needs to take responsibility and sort himself out !! i cant believe he would even suggest sucha thing !!


xxxx

 

[Sophie1205]

Omg thats so ridiculous that he has even thought about that! As everyone else has said he should have thought about his actions before hand if he's not ready for a child!
Men are so immature!!!
Hope everything works out for you
Be sure to try and relax (i know its hard when ur OH is acting like a tw*t, i know how that feels)

xxxx

 

[ella170]

thanks girls, i already told him that if your mature enough to be having sex then you have to be mature enough to deal with any consequences that might happen..i know its really hard for him, but what's done is done and it isn't going to go away- you can't erase a baby from your life and then take it back when it suits u..he's so selfish!!

 

[trishawootton]

ella give him a choice say either he gotta face up to the responsibilty of bein a dad or if he cant then he dont have to stick around he can leave if he wants and also tell him under no circumstances are u givin ure child away
loads of hun xxxx

 

[Sophie1205]

yeah exactly. its happened now and he cant pick and choose when he wants the baby. i was supposed to start uni this september but now its on hold for a year. its no big deal. u can still go to uni and have ur baby
i really do hope he comes round for urs and the babba's sake.

xxx

 

[dizzy65]

aww men have doff views on this sorta stuff.. it will all be ok

 

[ella170]

well it looks like he's finally changed his mind! after the scan on friday, he's been so good about everything and he said he needed to see it in order to properly come to terms with it, which he finally has! now he really loves his little boy and he will happily talk about anything to do with him

 

[nikky0907]

You didn't tell us how your scan went!

It's a boy? Awwww,congrats sweetie,thats so amazing...a little boy...

 

[ella170]

You didn't tell us how your scan went!

It's a boy? Awwww,congrats sweetie,thats so amazing...a little boy...

thanks you! sorry about not posting, these last couple of days have gone so quick! he's measuring perfectly and the scan didn't detect anything physically wrong with him, so i'm really happy that he seems ok, another milestone out the way..!

 

[xXx Vamp xXx]

Aww congrats on the scan news sweetheart, and I'm glad he's seen sense!