Keeping freindships and a brave face

[LoveCakes]

How do you keep friends in your life when they move on without you?

I think fate has made my friend's fertility timed just to be most hurtful to us, we started ttc when they had their first, found out we were having problems around the time of the christening, they conceived the week we found out about the hyperplasia, and now had the baby our first cycle of clomid.

They are good friends and we want to keep them in our lies but I don't know how much longer I can pretend. They do know what we've been going through, but got pg first or second cycle so when they say "I understand" it just makes me want to shout. With 2 LO it's not like we can spend much time with them as adults either

 

[echo]

You don't have to lose any friends, but sometimes you have to step back a bit and realize that the friendship is changing. Give yourself space. And don't compare your journey with hers. Good luck, hon.

 

[heres_hoping]

It is hard. I have a good friend due with her first next month, I was trying for a year already when she announced, and I know it was her first month trying. I have taken a step back from her as seeing her just makes me cry. I hope that with time I will be gradually more ok, but until I am I won't beat myself up over looking after my own mental health.

True friends understand that you need to step back, even if they can't understand the journey you are on.

Hoping you et your wish really soon x

 

[peachaeo]

My best friend conceived on her first try one month after I was diagnosed with endo. It was really hard for me, but she is my BFF and as much as her situation makes me realize that there is something wrong with me, it hasn't really impacted our friendship.

No, she will never be able to understand what I'm going through, but she listens to me cry and always knows the right thing to say. I have also been very focused on not letting TTC become my life...I live my life to the fullest. If IVF, IUI all fail, and we don't get a surrogate, I will re-evaluate everything. But I am not at the end of my road just yet.

Good friends are so hard to find, but only you can make the call on whether the benefits of true friendship outweigh the pain you feel :/