Keeping gender a secret?

[mystika802]

What do you guys (girls) think about keeping the gender of the baby a secret from everyone? We are going to find out (hopefully in 16 days) and I was thinking since I canceled my baby shower that theres no reason really for anyone to know......is that mean?

 

[frsttimemommy]

not really! if you aren't having a baby shower then the only people that need to know are you and your OH let it be a surprise to everyone else! i'm having 2 baby showers so there's no keeping ours a secret but i would be too excited to anyways!

 

[misscream]

I thought about this then I figured people would find out because I plan on buying boy things

 

[kazzywazzy]

We found out the babys gender last week, but our parents wanted it to be kept a suprise.

I slipped up within 5 mins of talking about the scan by saying 'he had his mouth open'
I know i'm going to slip up again at some point!

 

[aob1013]

It's not mean as it is your decision, but it think it will be very hard to keep it a secet x

 

[DreaminOfBaby]

I don't think its mean, I think its fun. I'm finding out and telling my mom, one friend and some family out of state but other than that I'm keeping it a secret but only until my baby shower. Then at my baby shower when they cut into their piece of cake its either gonna be pink or blue I think its a cute way of telling people what your having instead of just saying it. But if you want to keep it a complete secret until birth I think people find it a great surprise. I'm not worried about not telling anyone until my baby shower, I want some gender neutral stuff. Plus I am NOT a fan of pink and if I find out I'm having a girl everyone's gonna go out and buy pink stuff and I don't want that so I'm not telling for a bit.

 

[zimsha]

why not have a baby shower???? good time for you and friends to celebrate you and your soon to be baby!

I think familys like to be involved .. but teasing them is fun too... hehe

 

[babymad]

With my first pregnancy we found out the sex but didn't tell. We're Indian and having a boy is a big deal and he was the first grandchild on both sides making it even more of a bigger deal. We knew my MIL and dad both wouldn't keep their mouths shut and plus we didn't like the sexism anyway because if it was a girl we'd have been just as happy.

We just got used to saying we didn't find out and by the end we'd convinced ourselves we weren't sure despite having his bits pointed out to us. When he was born I asked my husband what sex the baby was! This time round we tried to find out but couldn't. We decided against a private scan as we knew we'd love it no matter what. I'm hoping for a girl but if it's a boy I'll love it too.

It's not mean at all to keep it to yourselves. Plus it keeps everyone interested until the end. Good luck with whatever you decide

 

[bobloblaw]

Not mean at all - but it is hard!

We found out this morning (about an hour ago!) and I'm finding it a struggle already! I just phoned my mum but didn't tell her as I want to tell them in person at the weekend. And everyone in my office is dying to know. It's nice to have another little secret with my husband though, if only for a few days.

 

[ivy-pickle]

We found out with our first but we didn't tell anyone.......and we told them we didn't know either so they wouldn't try and get us to tell them.........i know whats to come this time so we found out again and have told people this time round!

 

[mystika802]

It's not really that I dont want to have a baby shower but theres some "issues" that I dont feel like dealing with. To make a lot of long stories short, my one sister in law and I dont get along, we have a long history together, were best friends before we met our husbands (who are brothers) and she has done a lot of bad things to me over the years.....I dont want the drama of having to say she's not invited and I dont want her there. A lot of my friends are far from me, I kinda live in the middle of nowhere and even having it at my best friends house (2 hours away) is still kinda far, I just know most of them wont come. I have TONS of drama with my in laws (who are divorced) so then theres that as well, we are sorta cutting people out of our lives slowly and just dont want to deal with it. Its disappointing for sure and Im a little sad about it, but it is what it is.
I will be telling my best friend the baby's gender if we can find out because she has already started shopping lol and I would like her to be able to buy gender specific things. Other than that, Id like to at least attempt to keep it a secret

 

[MrsJ08]

It's not mean - it's your decision.

DH and I didn't intend to find out but on the day curiosity got the better of us. We decided to keep it between the two of us and haven't told anyone. I haven't found it that hard not to tell, I quite like the fact that we know and our family don't. Especially when they keep telling me how convinced they are I am carrying a certain sex and I know that they are wrong. I have got a separate bag that I have put the colour specific clothing/blankets etc in and have hidden it. Our bedding, pram and most of the toys we have bought are unisex so it hasn't been an issue from that perspective. x

 

[upthehammers]

its not mean, i thought about keeping it a secret but in the end i was so happy i barely contained it for 2 minutes lol x

 

[AimeeM]

no i think it is a nice idea so you can save something to announce and keep everyone guessing!