kids who have their fathers surname..

[Laura--x]

Is anyone else wanting to change their name to yours? Or thinking about it?

Maisie has her dads second name, i thought it was the right thing to do at the time even though everyone warned me its a bad idea.

Now im really considering changing it to mine. I know, his name is the one that will be on the birth certificate, and i cant change that, but i can change her name be depoll and im really thinking about going for it!

 

[AppleBlossom]

hey hun I have the same problem, i thought at the time it would be a good idea because he convinced me too even though all my family asked me not too. I kick myself everyday about it. Unfortunately unless if his name is on the birth certificate you can't change her surname unless he says you can even by deed poll. I went to the CAB and they told me there was nothing I could do without his permission. Is he likely to let you?

 

[woadie]

Everyone has been brilliant at offering advice about surnames; there's no way my child will get FOB's surname, especially given that I haven't heard from him or his family (who I am sure also know), since five days after I found out I was pregnant...

I know that if you registered the birth with the fathers name on the certificate (ie he was there), you'll have a hard time changing the name without his permission...

I wish you girls luck and hope you manage to do it ((hugs))

 

[tinkabells]

My LO hasnt got FOB surname, as havent heard from him, plus he cant contact me anyway, and as he has to be there, but i didnt want her to have his name anyway, even if we was talking xxx

 

[babybaillie]

My daughter does have her dads surname and he wont give me permission to change it, and as im pregnant with our 2nd daughter i either give this baby his surname too or both my kids will have diffrent surnames but same dad

 

[isil]

I printed a letter for FOB to sign. he came to pick him up (last time he saw him which was July!) and I held A in my arms and asked him to sign it. Ok so I would've handed A over anyway but... I guess he didn't know that. A now has a doublebarrelled surname. His name is now 21 letters long not including middle name! Poor boy!

 

[McLovin]

personally ladies I would work forgery - screw them..... all!
what's he going to do about it anyway? I don't know a man organised enough to take any action

 

[McLovin]

.... and that's something I THANK their' mothers for! : ) x

 

[starbucks101]

personally ladies I would work forgery - screw them..... all!
what's he going to do about it anyway? I don't know a man organised enough to take any action

And end up with a fine that leaves you without being able to feed your children for 6 months?! or in prison?!

Forgery especially of a goverment form is incredably serious! You could potentially be investigated for terrorism doing something like that! You would "technically" be falsifying your child identity...

You needs FOB's permission unfortunatly and if you don't have it, then its just something you have to lump... One thing FOB's still do have power over!

 

[Perdita]

I don't think Mclovin was seriously going to forge a birthcertificate (at least I hope to God not!!!!) but as far as I'm aware the name on the birth certificate only has to be used for anything official until changed by deed poll. I can call myself anything I like as long as the appropriate people know my birth name as well as any other alias. I'm legally still married (long story) so can use both my married and my maiden name interchangably which has caused some confusion but as both names lead to me it's not been a problem so I'm not sure if the rules are the same for children - ie both your children can be known by the same surname but have different ones on the birth certificate until you can can sort out a deed poll or your daughter can decide for herself which name to use? It's worth checking out the laws about birth names and 'known as' names - after all actors do it all the time! My little one will be having my surname and as the FOB has made no indication of turning up to sign the birth certificate there's no discussion - and if he changes his mind and wants to be there then he'll just have to like it or lump it! I'm not in the mood to negotiate with someone that has treated me the way he has recently!

 

[Laura--x]

I know i cant change her name on the birth certificate... i wouldnt do that but i mean for example at the doctors.. and on forms and that? x

 

[Perdita]

As I said, you need to check out the rules on 'known as' names as opposed to birth names for children, it's different when you make the choice for yourself! Ask at CAB or try and get some free time with a solicitor to get the full story then at least you won't run the risk of getting into trouble!

 

[sophxx]

My friend was registered with her dads last name he left her mum met and married her step dad and she went to school with a double barlled last name she used tfat for doctors and school nursery ect! Maybe look in to that!

 

[starbucks101]

https://www.ukdp.co.uk/changing-your-childs-name/ & https://www.oneparentfamilies.org.uk/dr_media/opf/changing-your-childs-name_19-Feb-09.pdf

It look like its a no go really, but if you can get him to agree it seems relitively simple, my bio dad agreed to have mine changed

 

[isil]

I had to show the deed poll at the doctors. It was a bit of a faff getting him to sign it and all but I'm glad I did it.

 

[purpledahlia]

I wont be giving baby FOB's surname, not if its so hard to change...

 

[JRNH]

My eldest boys has 2 birth certificates one in my name name n one in the sperm donors name (i hate him) n my youngest is also in his name but in school, dr's, dentist etc they r known in my name n call themselves by it.

This baby is having my new partners name and we're gettin married next year so il have it as well n my oldest has said he'd like to change his name to wot ours wil b n my youngest can if he chooses to as well.

I have asked him to sign the forms b4 but he hasnt itl b 2 years in feb since he has seen them n the longer the better cos i wil eventually confront the courts about it. I don't really have to do anything about my eldest cos he can use the birth certificate that is in my name but my youngest will need the deed poll.

Or i may leave it till they are 16 and give them the option of wot they want to do. Its just frustrating for things like passports, a friend of mine got stopped n interviewed at the airport cos her kids were in a different name to her!!

 

[starbucks101]

If the father isnt involved with the kids im pretty sure you can get it changed, all you'd need to do is show proof that you've tried to contact him, via, phone, email, post and research through the internet... and then take that evidence to court and you could change all your childrens surnames.

I'm really lucky i gave Em my surname (smith) and my partner surname is Smith too lol so when we get married we'll all be Smiths still!

 

[babybaillie]

u can change the babies name at docs etc, and once they have been known for 2 years with new name apply to have it changed. if u did not know where fob was u can tell courts u did everything u could to find him, and then they would decide wether to change it or not.

 

[broodylocket]

bean is having my surname, i would regret it if it was the fathers surname.