Kinda embarrassed how close together miscarriage and subsequent conception are

[LadyHutch]

I never even had a normal cycle between. My best guess is I got pregnant again just 2 weeks after I lost the last one.

I'm shocked...and kind of embarrassed. I am inclined to lie about it even. I don't understand why.

 

[Pippin]

We have a group in here (see the one by me in this section) and we're all in the same boat. Most of us caught the same cycle or the cycle after. Come on over if you fancy it. We're all having summer babies. Congratulations

 

[hb1]

I don't see why you should be embarassed

It's wonderful that you are pg again.

hx

 

[buddabun]

After my first loss I was like you, I caught again straight away. Then I lost that one and we decided to take a month off from TTC. The month after that break I was pregnant again (with my DD).

People didn't know about the second mc and even then they were commenting on how quickly I caught again and I kind of felt embarrassed that it should have happened again so easily. Twice.

I still don't know why I felt that way. I suppose people expect if you've had a loss that you will be trying again for ages (it took us 6 months to get that first BFP) but then I've read in so many places that you are much more fertile after a loss so I don't know.

Try not to feel embarrassed. If someone makes you feel odd about it maybe just laugh it off and tell them how lucky/grateful you are that you didn't have to wait too long for it to happen again.

Congratulations and a happy and healthy 9 months to you

 

[LadyHutch]

Thanks. Its reassuring to see a number of women have been through this also.

It's a combination of guilt (for the lost little one, that i somehow didn't wait long enough, etc.) and embarrassment (a number of people are shocked, have even asked if i am "sure" i really lost the first one ...idiots).

It feels strange. There isn't a good answer why. I'm adjusting though.

 

[LittleGriffin]

The same happened to me.....2 weeks after our MC I was pregnant again!

Don't feel embarrassed, feel wonderful.....your having a baby again!!!

Oh, and come and see us in PAL - from 1st tri to MC and back again in 1 go!!!!

 

[secretbaby]

You have absolutely NO reason to feel guilty about concieving quickly. People have opinons about EVERYTHING - even those who have (luckily) never suffered loss themselves still manage to have an opinion on the subject.. Only you and your OH can decide when you are ready to TTC after loss and it is yours and OH opinons which are the only ones that are important.

Congratulations on your pregnancy, I wish you a very happy and healthy 9 months x

 

[Smudgelicious]

I think you'd be surprised how many of us there are who fell pg the next cycle ie two weeks later. It's not unusual and I can't imagine being embarrassed about it. I know I lost a baby and I know I got pg immediately afterwards. If anyone was to have an 'issue' with that, sod them, they're not worth my time.

People react to pregnancy loss differently, it's one of those events that lets you know who your true friends are.

 

[Rebaby]

Congratulations!

Please don't feel embarrassed

My first miscarriage started 13th Feb 2009, i ovulated exactly 2 weeks later and our little boy was conceived that night

Our original EDD would have been 21st October, and then our due date for Tobias was 19th November. It was a little strange in some ways as whenever the midwives asked about my LMP etc i had to bring up the miscarriage and they would say "Oh i'm so sorry" but i almost thought "Well don't be- if we hadn't miscarried then i wouldn't be having this baby now" (iykwim?) and when our son was born i knew he was the baby we were meant to have.

Hope you have a happy and healthy 40 weeks

 

[lucy_lu10]

Same thing happened to me. I miscarried at 6 weeks at the end of April 2009, conceived 2 weeks later without a cycle inbetween (the doctor said that my miscarriage bleed was equivalent to a regular period when dating the pregnancy), and found out I was pregnant at the end of May. The second pregnancy stuck and I got a beautiful little boy out of it. I wouldn't feel bad in any way. I believe that miscarriages happen for a reason and all the more power to you if you're fertile enough to conceive right away!!

 

[kimbotrav]

ahhh dont feel guilty i would have felt wonderful to have fell pregnant agian so quick after my mmc hopefully this is the one good luck xxxxx