Last Ditch Attempt

[Younglutonmum]

Well today my ex called & said 'yeah Kelly, you were right, we do need to chat'

Im fuming because I asked him for us to meet about 2 weeks ago & got no reply. When I asked his mum if she wanted a chat about what's to happen she said point blank no.

Although I said that was it in terms of my ex having contact.....well he's still the dad & I think that I should here him out I suppose. Just angry that it has had to be when he's ready.

So i'm meeting him on July 20th. He's not great at serious conversation though so any tips on how to start the ball rolling??

Really nervous

xXx

 

[Carolyn]

didn't want to read and run...maybe you could jot down somethings that you definitely want to discuss with him and then pick the three most important ones and make sure you get his views on those...? sorry i;m not much help, knackered!

 

[Younglutonmum]

Lol thank you hunni

Thats a good idea

I know when I see him my mind will go blank & i'll see cloud of red mist descend in front of my eyes

 

[demonmadcat]

Yeah... carry a note book, and when you think of something just jot it down..

That's what I'm doing with my ex at the moment...

I always forget something.. lol

 

[nikky0907]

A bat will make the conversation roll on....

Kidding,I don't know.Jot something down or make him start the whole thing.You could play cold and then see him squirm while trying to say something meaningfull.

Very good that you decided to hear him out,I hope it goes well for you guys!

 

[Younglutonmum]

A bat will make the conversation roll on....

This has crossed my mind to be honest

 

[Irishmum]

IMO because he wouldn't meet when you wanted to and now he decides like a spoilt brat that he will meet you on his terms you shouldn't be the one tearing out your hair trying to figure out where to start. There is probably something that he has realised needs to be discussed so he may get the ball rolling himself!

One way or another I salute you for being the bigger person and agreeing to meet with him! Well done! And good luck!

 

[xXx Vamp xXx]

Hey hun. Good luck with the meeting, I hope he behaves and is finally going to be responcible. I'd do a list of things that you need to know. Like when he's going to have access. What days, for how long. How is he going to be involved, like financial support etc etc?

 

[stop&stare]

hey im new here, just hoping to wish u good luck and give each other a chance to start afresh

 

[brownhairedmom]

You're much more patient than I am. Adam asked to talk and I shot him down haha

 

[cuddles314]

I agree that a list is a really good idea. It will help you to focus on what you need to say to him, and hopefully help you to keep emotions under control. Just be firm about what's expected of him, and don't let it turn into an argument. Good luck hun, let us know how it goes.
xx