Last RE visit for a while..

[Mrs. Vet]

We got DH's last SA back on wednesday. We expected bad news and it was bad news.

The motility is a big problem, after 24 hours he has 0 sperm that is alive and moving forward.

There are other problems, I can't recall it all right now.

The RE recommends ICSI which is not an option for us, we decided early on that we do not want to go any further than IUI. And even that I am having some issues with but would try to get through it.

We will have to save up for the IUI and only do on cycle as the chances for it to work are very low (7-14%) and we don't want to spend everything we have on it under those circumstances.

So we decided to keep trying naturally until the end of the year and then go for IUI.
He will only do it with stimulation and trigger shot which I have a big problem with, I am so scared of side effects because I am so sensitive with meds.
I am not sure how to do it, but I know we need to try so we can say we tried everything that we feel we can do.
If it all fails we will most likely try to accept a life without kids.

DH is torn about adoption, yesterday we agreed that it is not what we feel is right for us, today he was talking about wanting to adopt a second child if we are able to conceive one. I am worried about how this will affect our marriage as I am 100% that I can't raise someone else's child. And I am very sure that we are not eligible anyway as there is a cut off age and I think DH is over it already. Plus we really can't afford.

I feel like we just can't win in this situation, I can only hope that we are able to conceive naturally. I am numb right now and somewhat still in denial about the situation. I am scared about that this could take a toll on our relationship. I have no idea how to make it through IUI. I already hated going to the RE in the first place, I just can't accept that it is what we need. Maybe it will sink in over time.

Sorry for the rambling, going on 3 hours of sleep and just having a hard time tonight..

 

[Myshelsong]

Hey hun, if motility is the issue I would suggest getting him to try some motility boosters. You can get some from fertilaid, it was about $20.00 a month. My hubs had horrible motility and over the three months his motility went to 90% from the 20% and lower fro our first IUI. We also added CoQ10 to help longevity.

Good luck.

 

[Mrs. Vet]

Hey hun, if motility is the issue I would suggest getting him to try some motility boosters. You can get some from fertilaid, it was about $20.00 a month. My hubs had horrible motility and over the three months his motility went to 90% from the 20% and lower fro our first IUI. We also added CoQ10 to help longevity.

Good luck.

Thank you! We still have some German stuff but when it's used up I'll order fertilaid! I heard good things about it!
All we can do is try!

 

[waitingongod1]

Good luck! I always say god is bigger than these diagnosis and percentages! Don't loose hope!

 

[bunyhuny]

It's a big change going from TTC naturally to all sorts of interventions. Don't beat yourself up over not being ready of comfortable with things. When DH and I went to the RE for the first time, they said we needed IUI and we said no. We didn't want something so unnatural. It was something I was not spiritually comfortable with. It seemed like just too much.

We did multiple Clomid/Femara cycles and when that didn't work, I went through some major soul searching. Finally DH and I decided to do a round of IUI. When that didn't work, and we were recommended IVF, I said no way. I was not comfortable going such a medical route. Six months later, after another round of major depression and a lot of soul searching, we did our first IVF cycle. We got pregnant, but lost the baby.

Then DH's numbers went bad. His morphology dropped, count dropped, everything went terrible, likely due to him being exposed to all my progesterone supplements. The RE recommended ICSI. We said no and tried standard IVF again. That was a mistake. We lost all but one of my eggs to non-fertilization. The next time around, we agreed still said no to ICSI, but agreed to PICSI as it seemed more natural in selection.

I guess what I'm trying to say is to take things step by step. Don't do more than you're comfortable with, but be open to changes in how you feel about things. Right now I can say I am 100% certain that I don't ever want to adopt, but if it gets to a point where they say that there is no way I will ever have a biological child, well, who knows. I will likely change my mind when the time is right for me.

You just focus on getting through the IUI and just go from there. Hopefully, the IUI will be a great success and you won't have to worry about any of this anymore1