Lawyers letter what would you do?

[xKARENxBABYx]

Sorry.. Deleted

 

[littlekitten8]

What in the hell?! That lawyer is insane lol. No court would allow that much contact in a baby that young. Tell him to go for it lol.

 

[xKARENxBABYx]

^^ yeah its deffo going to court best of it all its usally his mother that looks after aiden shocking really. and he pays child mantiance so i have to take aidnen there? and i offerd to pay for nappies ect.. but nope he wanted to do it.. shocking really? xx

 

[emalou90]

i wouldnt put stuff like this on an open forum hun, if anyone finds out about it, thats major legal stuff! (ive no idea but im sure they'd be some sort of complications because of it)

hope everything works out xxx

 

[xKARENxBABYx]

never thought about that just so scared angry.. i mean 2 weeks??? im hoping he dosent get that,,

 

[emalou90]

be careful in future (probably nothing will come from posting it)!

for one..
''we would in actaul fact suggest that your client has more disposable income that our client ataually dose.'' - THIS WOULDNT STAND IN COURT - simply because it doesnt matter.... FOB needs to pay for baby if he is working. End of. doesnt matter how much money you have otherwise as you would use the money he gives you torwards housing/his needs.

as for two weeks at his age hun, i doubt this very much, just voice your concerns of a mother who wants to protect her child. they wont go against your word and physically take your son away from you and give him to FOB.. refuse until you are blue in the face.

make sure you are accepting reasonable requests such as.. ''can i see aiden next weekend for two days'' - or something, unless you have reason not to let fob do this or you have plans already


compromise is the word
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[xKARENxBABYx]

yeah i mean i dont mind him getting alternitve weekends.. but aidens clingy too me dunno whats going to happen im worried sick xxxxx

 

[emalou90]

Glad you deleted it hun...
just incase, you gotta be careful xxx

 

[xKARENxBABYx]

yeah i type it when i was in abit of a state xx

 

[emalou90]

no worries! At least i sort of know the situ, hope you're feeling a bit better x

 

[WhiteGeisha]

From what I can get the jist from the replies no court would allow a boy of 8 months to have days on end of contact. The child is still a baby and need to be with its mother, especially if the father is not living in the house and hasn't for a while. i.e was there was day 1 and just split up. if he's been absent for a while then he won't get more than a few hours a week in court.

I saw a solicitor back in January so if you PM me I can talk to you about what I was told.

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[WhiteGeisha]

Oh and I just remembered.

FOB was told to try and sort it with me as he wouldn't stand much chance in court but was told to approach me with the absolute most he wanted so that we could compromise on that to the point where I wouldn't agree to his demands right out (as no mother would) and then he would still get something rather than nothing.

Well I rejected his demands outright and after a couple of months of hearing nothing from him he emailed me to apologise and could we start again. He now comes to mine when in the country and spends a few hours a day with us.

So just because he threatens court, doesn't mean it will happen, but if it does, it no way means he will get all his demands met if even one.

You have to be smart now. Keep a diary of everything. You need to back up your reasons as to why he can't have XYZ.....

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