Letter to the ex after conversations this morning

[edinsam]

So another day - another bloody conversation with the moron. Gosh can someone tell me why I ever loved this man!!?? What the hell did I ever see in such a low life no morales person!!!

Anyhow spoke with him this morning as our house closes out next week and need him to deal with solicitors to get everything finalised. That was a perfectly normal conversation and all upbeat and well. Then the Lily conversation kicked in. I said to him ok Im giving you the last benefit of the doubt now that 2 weeks have passed. He was like no I dont feel any different and I am like well why the hell dont you just say never then. He said life changes you dont know what can happen in a year or so time. (basically reading between the lines he means oh I guess will just keep my options open to see how this relationship pans out - yeah bloody right no way) I said to him no way its now or never you are not walking up to my door in a year time and saying you want to see her. Please just let us go. You have moved on please let Lily and me move on. I got a bit emotional as I said to him I just want us to be free of you, please let us have that. He finally said yes. Woo hoo

So in record quick speed I was fast to get the confirmation to lawyers and a copy sent to him before he changed his mind again!

Here's the email I sent.

So in the words of films - "its a wrap"

Hi

Thanks for FINALLY agreeing that you have no intention of being part of lily's life. I have sent this mail to my lawyer as confirmation. I will get my lawyer to confirm that in writing to you. You have also confirmed that you will not walk into her life in a year or so time. You have also agreed your family have no intentions either to see their grandchild/niece etc.

I'm so sorry that you have chosen this route as your wee gorgeous girl does not deserve that but hey ho. I have given you 3 chances to see her you have declined them all. My lawyer confirms I've done enough. Your only options now are a court order and you are highly unlikely to get awarded one now as you have not demonstrated any committment to her.

I will keep this mail with all the other comms for lils so she doesn't blame me in the future for not trying. I am assuming you will be doing the same for Alex and your new baby as lils will be told she has another sister outwith Hannah.

I'm glad you have finally made peace with your decision, I know more than anyone how hard it is in life when you need to accept decisions. Good thing is that when you make peace with them they go. Hopefully now your anger will go and leave u in peace too.

Csa forms are now done so that will be winging it's way to you too.

Take care

Sam & Lils

 

[sweetcheeks85]

Just wanted to give u big think you and ure baby girl are better off with him out your lives and hopefully u will be able to move on now xoxo

 

[purpledahlia]

well done. well said. well put!! xx

 

[xJG30]

Well done

 

[DiddyDons]

well done and good luck x

 

[Welshcob]

Absolutely marvelous email. I hope its all right and that he can't change his mind. To be honest I can see my FOB being EXACTLY the same! Hes not said he wants nothing to do with me or bubs, but just cut contact and used the law to attain this. I hope he goes away and stays away!
I think I need to get to the solicitor too. What a fab email and well done honey! Proud of you as always!!!

 

[woadie]

That was very emotional to read... so sad, but all the mans own doing... I have a feeling I will be writing something along the same lines in several months time for legalities sake too...

Well done Sam you're such a strong person

 

[McLovin]

well done love. I wish I could get mine to bugger off (not best for my baby boy to be without a Dad, I know, but you know when you've just had enough!) x

 

[edinsam]

McLovin - there are times when they are better off -mines is definately the case!

 

[babybaillie]

That is so sad. God bless u xx

 

[edinsam]

Aw Hun thanks. It is sad yes but in the end I need to move on. I can't wake up every day thinking he is going to ring the bell. Not good for both lily and me

I so wish it could be different and I have tried way beyond what anyone should need to time to walk away now.

 

[edinsam]

Aw Hun thanks. It is sad yes but in the end I need to move on. I can't wake up every day thinking he is going to ring the bell. Not good for both lily and me

I so wish it could be different and I have tried way beyond what anyone should need to time to walk away now.