Letting FOB be apart of baby's christening.

[loveme_x]

I say it is going to be pretty late, I kept putting it off in hopes FOB would come around.
Okay here's the story in a few sentences,
At first telling me he didn't want this child, got jealous then wanted me back, then something happened and completely mostly ignored me for the whole pregnancy, his parents claimed me a liar even though they knew about us having sex, FOB called me a month before asking about the child saying he wants a paternity test, he changes his mind the day of my baby shower saying he really knows its his, Came to see me and josiah for 2 days then ended up in jail, basically he didnt want me to be with anyone else and when he saw a comment from a guy in my phone he didnt like, things when downhill from there.
As you can see, that was totally IRRELEVENT from the fact we have a child that needs to be taken care of. Recently he got into a relationship with this girl hes been seeing and she decieds to take a part in this by messaging me on facebook, telling me im wrong for not letting him see josiah blah blah me and her had an argument about that. We started beefing for a while and all the while im hearing people telling me about all the mean things he has said about me. She finally wants to apologize and the end.
He has had a job for going on 3 months now & the only thing he has contributed was baby bedtime wash n lotion, baby oregel, and a travel pack, he was only 2 weeks old then and just the other day gave me 20 dollars for DIAPERS!
I let him go to the doctors appointment last month, I was feeling generous.
Anyway, my mom has mixed feelings about him, he has finally apologized for back talking my mom awhile ago. He said he would buy josiah new clothes and a walker, but they are just gonna turn into some more empty promises. I don't even wanna put josiah through the whole "But daddy said he was gonna buy the new toy but never did" phase.
But I finally set a date for his christeneing in a month, and im still debating wether or to let him be apart. I know its up to me, but i just need opinions.
I would like to talk to him and tell him what I feel but im afraid it'll turn into an argument & he'll think im jealous...smh.

 

[teal]

If you're too worried about even talking to him incase he starts an argument it might be better not to invite him? I don't know, it depends on how comfortable you are with it and if you think you could both manage through the day without arguing? I hope you can come to a decision you're comfortable with Sorry I've not been there myself but didn't want to read and run xx

 

[Brionybaby]

It's my daughters christening next month too and I've decided not to invite FOB as he hasn't bothered for the past year so don't see why he should get the privilege to be at such a special day, if i was you i just wouldn't invite him, maybe not being at his child's christening might make him see sense and contribute etc? I know its hard knowing he won't be there though, hope you're okay xx