Letting them know?

[brownhairedmom]

Okay some of you are going to think I'm a complete and utter bitch for thinking this, and that I don't have any right to do this because it is his child. BUT....


I'm contemplating not telling Adam when the baby is born. Just for the fact that he doesn't care. He doesn't ask how she's doing, he wanted her "taken care of", he doesn't ask anything about her whatsoever. I doubt very much that his family even knows I'm pregnant. He just wants nothing to do with her whatsoever. I've called him after my drs appointments and both of my ultrasounds but he just doesn't care and rushed me off the phone because he had "other things to do". He knows my due date, I just don't know if I should make that last desperate attempt to contact him after she's born or of I should just let him call and ask himself.

And then there is his mother. I don't even think she knows I'm pregnant. I was considering sending her a picture and a letter in the mail after Jordyn is born. But, then I may open a new can of worms. If she didn't know then she'll probably get on Adam's case to be involved, and personally after how uninterested he's been I don't want him involved. I did before but now I don't think he deserves it. So I don't know if I should send her the picture or let it lie?

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Exactly the same went on between me an Jayden's dad when i was pregnant an i knew deep down i had to keep giving him the 'updates' because at least then when Jayden was born he couldn't say well you never told me or well you could have said something etc..

[Possibly] Give his mum a text and let her know about the baby, because who knows what 'can of worms' will be let out if she finds out of some stranger. Having a baby is hard enough without the stress of having babies dads family on top of you an biting your head off

*hugs* xxxx

 

[lfc_sarah]

If you tell him then he cant make up an excuse why he isnt bothered

And if he isnt.. you can say you tried so...

 

[brownhairedmom]

Bahh I wish he'd just drop off the face of the earth.


I just hate being that nagging person who is always there. I may just do a quick "the baby was born, its a girl, her name is Jordyn" *click*.

I'm just not willing to keep trying to make him care about his own daughter.

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Bahh I wish he'd just drop off the face of the earth.


I just hate being that nagging person who is always there. I may just do a quick "the baby was born, its a girl, her name is Jordyn" *click*.

I'm just not willing to keep trying to make him care about his own daughter.

thats all i done x

 

[Hollys_Twinny]

after reading that, I really dont see why u shuld tell him hun..! You'll only be disapointed if he doesnt wanna know..! MEN R ASSHOLES..!!!

 

[nikky0907]

"the baby was born, its a girl, her name is Jordyn" *click*.

Thats a good choice! Or just send him a note or message maybe that only contains the information that his daughter was born,period.

But not for him,for you.For your piece of mind and your conscience.So you know you did everything in your power even though that excuse for a human didn't deserve it.

 

[mBLACK]

I would just let it die down. He's shown you that he doesn't want anything to do with that precious little being, therefore he doesn't deserve to know! Besides you're much better off without that looney bin chasing you around, I think the last thing you'd want is to get his mother involved.. she might encourage him to stick around, etc.

 

[leeanne]

The way I am thinking right now if I was in your situation is I wouldn't waste my time letting him know.

However, is it the right thing to do? Eventually, he will want to know, he will find out and so will his parents. So is it best to get it all out now or later? Probably now because if his parents do find out and get involved they will hold it against you that you didn't inform them.

 

[brownhairedmom]

Maybe I'll e-mail him so that way I can keep the e-mail showing that I did tell him if he decides to be a jerk and say he didn't know.

 

[Younglutonmum]

In my case my ex is very similar to yours Rae. Ive tried keeping him up to date with all thats happening but he doesn't want to know.

He knows my due date so if he really wants to know if she's arrived then he'll pick up a phone, send an email etc Ive got more important things to do when LO is here than inform total Waste Men like him

But.....when I send out my birth announcement cards I will be sending him one!!

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xxx

 

[~ Vicky ~]

I'm having the same issues myself at the moment. I've had to go as far as deleting all Gav's numbers and stuff out of my phone to stop myself texting him and having a go for being such a prick..

Like Adam he doesn't want to know a single thing and if I ever text him to tell him how an appointment went he doesn't even text back thanks.

I spoke to his lovely cousin the other day (she called me to say happy belated birthday and to see how my scan went) and she knows my due date and that we're having a girl. She wanted to know everything so i'm pretty sure she'll want to be knowing when Ava is born, so he can get off his ass then and find out. Saying that, my option is slightly easier because Gav won't even be in the country when she's born and I doubt his mobile will be fully working in Afghan so there's no point in *me* being the one to tell him.. he'll have to make the effort.

If Adam wants to know, he can find out for himself x