salb10
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I have an 13 y.o SS who is constantly lying. About everything. And not even good lies, just pointless crappy rubbish lies. Its driving me BONKERS!!!!!!!!!!
I have known him since he was 2, and the annoying thing is that i could see this coming, even back then.
Just as a short background, he lives with his mum and step dad, and comes to me and his dad on weekends and occaisional week days. We all get along fine, so its not like he's in a strained environment or anything. His mum and dad split up long before i met his dad, so i didn't break up a family or anything.
When he was little though, if he told a fib, people would make excuses for him, and talk his way out of it for him
for example, one day he told his mum that we had a car accident with him in the car and he banged his head. His mum rang us up having a go at us for not telling her about it but of course this event never took place. Now instead of telling him off for making up stories, his dad and nan said, 'aww u just got confused didn't you, you meant that someone else had an accident and bumped their head, didn't u? Of course, he said 'oh yes, thats what happened'
Now they did this every time he made something up. He was never made to take responsibility for the fact that he lied, plain and simple.
And now, he does it ALL the time. Its getting to the point where i feel like a conversation with him is pointless, because about 70% of it is made up.
This weekend for example. I picked him up from school and within an hour of doing so, he had told about 5 lies, which over the course of the next 24hrs, all came to light.
Its more frustrating because he's not here all the time, so its not something we seem to be able to influence. We've tried every which way there is to stop him but its just getting worse and worse.
Tonight he put the bins out the front door and i asked id he'd locked the front door and he said yes. I go and check, and its not locked. I am very security concious especially as my 8 month old was asleep upstairs and we are in the kitchen at the back of the house. If that doors unlocked then anybody could come in and go straight upstairs without us knowing.
I HATE liars and i don't want him to be one. What can we do??
I have known him since he was 2, and the annoying thing is that i could see this coming, even back then.
Just as a short background, he lives with his mum and step dad, and comes to me and his dad on weekends and occaisional week days. We all get along fine, so its not like he's in a strained environment or anything. His mum and dad split up long before i met his dad, so i didn't break up a family or anything.
When he was little though, if he told a fib, people would make excuses for him, and talk his way out of it for him
for example, one day he told his mum that we had a car accident with him in the car and he banged his head. His mum rang us up having a go at us for not telling her about it but of course this event never took place. Now instead of telling him off for making up stories, his dad and nan said, 'aww u just got confused didn't you, you meant that someone else had an accident and bumped their head, didn't u? Of course, he said 'oh yes, thats what happened'
Now they did this every time he made something up. He was never made to take responsibility for the fact that he lied, plain and simple.
And now, he does it ALL the time. Its getting to the point where i feel like a conversation with him is pointless, because about 70% of it is made up.
This weekend for example. I picked him up from school and within an hour of doing so, he had told about 5 lies, which over the course of the next 24hrs, all came to light.
Its more frustrating because he's not here all the time, so its not something we seem to be able to influence. We've tried every which way there is to stop him but its just getting worse and worse.
Tonight he put the bins out the front door and i asked id he'd locked the front door and he said yes. I go and check, and its not locked. I am very security concious especially as my 8 month old was asleep upstairs and we are in the kitchen at the back of the house. If that doors unlocked then anybody could come in and go straight upstairs without us knowing.
I HATE liars and i don't want him to be one. What can we do??
