Light at the end of tunnel :)

[Kiki1993]

For those who feel miserable in their current job and want out, i want to say it will happen! I had been miserable at my work for 2 years, the last 6 months unbearable, my employers were cruel beyond beliefe, i had to work for 2 hours after getting a call saying my mum had cancer and they didn't know if there was a point in treating her due to her organs and meds she is already reliant on (she is disabled), had to work right after finding out my step dad who raised me was dying and had 2 weeks-4 months to live and when i told them they said "thanks for letting me know" not oh sorry to hear that :/,oh and when i said i want time off to grieve when it does happen they said legally im not entitled due to him not being my "real dad" but they will TRY give me the funeral (the man raised me since i was a baby) ... my best friend died last year and they werent going to give me funeral until someone fought for me, i had tot ake a holiday to shave my mums hair and take her to her chemo ... the same da the manager apparently went away while she was suppose to be working and got HIGHLIGHTS, they didn't play by the rules not following policies, i haven't had an appointment which hasnt been a holiday of the legal minimum holiday time in two years (even had to use a holiday to get my smear test which employers are suppose to give you off), being too afraid to phone in sick (a past employee phoned in sick and got fired, she had worked there 4 months and it was a doctors line, and should have had a contract but they didnt give her one) ... anyway after so much of nthis i had enough, someone told them how unhappy i was and they hauled me into the office for "Talking shit and bitching" their words, i told them what i thought and handed in my notice.. since then i have been offered my dream job and a aprt time manager post (they said i would never get my dream job because it is competitive when trying to get me to stay) .. so there is a light at the end, i quit without a job to go into, since then ive been offered 5 jobs and taken 2 part time so i never need them as a reference again i did have to threaten citizens advice when the msnager made a comment which sounded like i would get a bad reference to a following staff member so i went in and basically told them straight, i had been to citizens and know my rights and outlined them to her. Must have worked because i start my new jobs in January, one month after quitting..

 

[davidjoemum]

I don't want to r&r.well done I'm glad it all worked out for you!!!!

 

[Egyptiangirl]

That's fantastic and very reassuring to hear but I'm assuming you're very qualified? I'm facing having to resign a company I have worked for for 13 years and have loved it. But I'm a former flight attendant gone office worker and am not holding out much hope of getting any part time job elsewhere that would pay nearly as much as I would get if stayed where I am. But well done to you not least for standing up to them! Mine are treating me like crap at the mo too so will be fighting to the bitter end but just wish I has a better chance out there when it comes to other jobs.

 

[Kiki1993]

Honestly i'm not, i don't have a degree i have a hnc which is like first level of uni level! My dream job is a council nursery which i got and i was offered the manger position because they saw potential, i had no manager experience There is hope, if you had told me 2 months ago this would happen I would have told you to get lost and probably have a cry because i felt so trapped, humiliated, bullied and victimized and now i'm happy i finally took control
When i handed in my notice i was terrrified! Thinking i wont get another job but honestly at that point having no income seemed a better option, then i got loads of offers. My confidence was very low before that, i thought i will never get another job, no one will want me etc because my ex employers always said "its hard nowadays, you wont get anything better" whenever i broached the subject of leaving so interviews were terrifying for me but to be able to say i did it im so proud of myself i went in to return my stuff to my ex employers and to be able to tell them you will have 2 people contact you for a reference, one for council and one manager, it felt amazing to see her face. I know it sounds petty but it was a horrible experience there, the only reason i stayed as long as i did was because they amde me think i wouldn't get anywhere else, and tbh, before me and 2 other co workers who left the same day i did, we are the first to have left for another job (bar 1 other person 4 years ago) .. the rest got fired for ridiculous reasons but most of the people leave due to pregnancy. And i mean in 2 years as staff and 3 as student (there are only 9-10 staff who work there at one time) and have seen 9 staff members leave through pregnancy (one admitted to me she tried earlier than they were planning to get out of that place earlier) and because they dont offer part tie or help with childcare or flexibility youc an't come back to work after baby. I have seen 2 people leave due to being off sick (not taking the piss, they had sick lines but they didn't have contracts signed so they could lay them off no questions) and 3 people leave due to feeling bullied .. i really think you can do it, your obviously a loyal worker, have plenty experience etc which will look really good Good luck with your hunt xx

 

[janinvan]

Your old employer sounds just awful Kiki, I'm so glad to hear you got out of there! Stay strong, sorry you've had a rough go of things. Here's hoping things continue getting better for you.

 

[Egyptiangirl]

Wow, thank god u got out of there! it's sounds unbearable!! My place is normally very good at accommodating part time but my particular department is not due to one manager. Well, I feel much calmer about leaving too now. So I guess I'll just see what happens, your story gives us all renewed confidence! Good luck with your new job Kiki!

 

[teal]

I'm so glad you're out of there and everything has worked out

 

[Kiki1993]

Thanks everyone and i'm glad I could help It really was a terrible place to work, constantly paranoid! I once texted my OH saying i was having a bad day and they asked me about it, I was sick after I downed my milk (milk doesn't agree with me some times) and they hauled me in and asked if i was pregnant, if i was i was too tell them immediately I had diarhea at work and told them because i shouldn't work when you have it, their response "just hold it in you can't go home" And these are the minor things that have happened. Other than what i already told you, I got shouted in the face by a co worker who is known for doing this, told them and they threatened ME with a warning if it happened again, i had witnesses that said how i did nothing except ask "where have you been?" because she was half an hour late and i had seen her gossipping before coming in, she then shouts at me for 15 minutes (i stay quiet) because i know how easily it could escalate. I went to them for support and asked them to talk to her because she was coming in late, demanding i cant leave work when i already finished my shift to do her cleaning etc and she threatened to leave so i got in trouble even though they had been told by every staff member who witnessed it what had happened. A pregnant staff member sat down in the garden in the summer because she had been in the sun all day and felt woozy and they told her to "get up you look lazy" And there are so many more examples it was horrible, i think they are making changes to improve since there were 3 people to quit on the same day which amde the parents very angry so i hope they change for the better. Another staff member had taken legal action against them due to her treatment and is reporting them for their practice. Hope justice happens x