Limbo is a very sad place to be...

[charliesmom]

If you remember me, I'm the annoying one that kept posting about how long spotting has been going on since I had my miscarriage in Sept. I bled and spotted for a full 8 weeks before it finally stopped last week. Well, if I had a period in late October (wasn't sure if it was...since it was so light)... then my period should have come last Friday for November. It hasn't come yet. I have a pretty solid 28 day cycle.

I haven't had a period at all this month. I'm not pregnant either. I'm in limbo. Have no idea where in my cycle I am, when I have or will ovulate, when I can try again. I'm so sad right now. My last miscarriage wasn't like this. Normal period came back right away.

Even worst, my sister in law whose baby just turned 1 is pregnant again with #2. She had a m/c before the first born... and we sort of shared our m/c experiences... then I moved on - got pregnant, and then m/c'ed again. Now she's pregnant.

Just so sad that I'm not going anywhere and every day seems like a month.

 

[Smiler]

After my m/c, my cycle had a bit of a life on its own. I was always bang on 28 days to the hour, after my erpc I had a very light period on the 28 days, then for at least 4 or 5 months after that, my period hit randomly, usually between 30-33 days, or thereabouts.

Your body has been through a lot, mentally and physically, but will get back to 'normal' again when it is ready.

I struggled each month, praying i was pregnant and then crying when I wasn't. It was only when I relaxed a bit, applied for new job, settled into new house etc, that I fell pregnant again. It is still early days for me, but shows it can happen when your body is ready.

Take each day as it comes and make sure you have great support around you. Your time will come.

Thinking of you xx

 

[logie68]

Please don't worry. Your cycle will settle down and it's just your body's way of saying it's not time to try yet. Isn't it funny how most of our lives we dread our period coming then all of a sudden we need to see it?? Life is cruel.
I've had 7 miscarriages and all take a while to settle my cycle again. Relax and take some "me" time. My cycle went from a 28 up to a 36 day one for a while! Each month then went 25/27/28/25/27/28 - i could have set my watch by it! Your body is just doing it's own thing. As for how heavy it is, my period has never been heavy after any miscarriage so I don't think you should worry about that either.
take care x

 

[charliesmom]

Thank you for your comforting answers.

I guess the stress doesn't help my body recover. My mind is healed (in a way) and I want to get pregnant again right away. I waited 3 cycles last m/c to try again, and little good that did. But my body's just telling me it's not ready isn't it?

 

[Drazic<3]

I think your totally right. Whilst mentally your ready, your body needs to catch up.
Im sorry for your losses and that your feeling so bad. Just dont forget this will happen for it, and it will come around soon

 

[chanel]

I had a missed miscarriage with erpc on the 3rd November so am now waiting on a/f to show up. Before the mc I was regular 28 days so i am praying that they return to normal again on Monday so we can try again.

I have been having slight cramps for the past week and thought that it was maybe ov pains... opks say no though and no other ov symptoms. I hoping that i either i missed ov or didn't this month and that the pains are a sign that the witch is on the way.

Limbo is exactly where i feel i am though.

Sorry for your losses and i hope that things return to normal for you very soon, hopefully the witch is just round the corner.
take care Cx

 

[charliesmom]

I've been getting on and off minor crampings the early part of November... kept making me think that either I was ovulating or I was going to get my period soon. Well, ov tests were negative and my af never came!

I'm still waiting. I found a website that was pretty adament about saying your AF will not come until at least 20 days after your m/c bleeding/spotting completely stops. Mine completely stopped on Oct 31 for 3 days... then it started spotting again on Nov 5th up until about Nov 16. So I'm going to count from the most recent day it stopped. I've convinced myself to accept that AF might come in 11 days. If not, I'm definitely going to the doctor because my hormones are not right.

Good luck to you!

 

[chanel]

I think i stopped spotting around the 18th so maybe we'll end up cycle buddies... fingers crossed.
The cramps just seems to be a constant reminder that doesn't let you get on with anything other than counting the days til a/f might come... totally drive myself mad thinking about it all the time.
Do you know how soon you tested negative on HPT? I tested with an evening sample on the 17th and it was negative but was positive with a morning sample on the 22nd aarrgghhh! Not sure whether it has to be negative for so long before an a/f will arrive!

 

[charliesmom]

oh my! you tested positive? that's a good sign. There are false negatives but not false positives.

I started testing on the 15th up until a few days ago... we tried only on the 3rd and 4th. Every test has been negative and I have no constant symptoms. Sometimes I'll have boob tenderness and crampy sides, but they are barely there and never consistent. I'm 99.9% sure I'm not pregnant. I probably never ovulated this month.