Literally just had the WORST doctors appointment :(

[bsd]

Well I was having an extremely awful day to begin with, I was depressed and upset all day because living with my parents is a living nightmare (not even going to get into that part at all).

I decided this appointment I was going to have her check my cervix to see how dilated I was, I was holding it off this whole time because I didn't want to get my hopes up or anything.
I don't know what was going on but I sat in the room waiting for her for over 30 god damn minutes (she must have saw another patient before me by accident or something because normally I never wait longer than 5 minutes). So there I am with out pants on extremely uncomfortable table with my feet dangling off for almost 45 minutes (blood was rushing to my ankles).
I was really anxious to see the size of my baby because last week when I was 37+2 days I was measuring just under 36. So I was nervous to see if he was growing properly or not.
FINALLY she comes in and checks me and tells me my cervix is completely closed. (I was 80% effaced though so I guess that's good?)
She measured him and he was still measuring 35!!! So I'm obviously extremely worried about it, she wasn't though. She said because I'm small he's probably going to be a small baby, and since he dropped that could also change the measurements (because his head is so low).
I'm still really sad though because I've tried so hard to make an average size baby because I know how fricken tiny I am and didn't want that to effect my baby. If I'm still measuring 35 at my next week apointment (I'll be 39+2 by then) I'm seriously going to freak out!! I'm so upset I had such an awful day and that appointment was just even more awful.

OHHHH and might I mention that when me and OH were getting off the elevator to our floor a mother and her young daughter (probably 15 or 16) were getting on and as we walked by we both herd her mother say to her "See and that's why you need to be proactive!"


SERIOUSLY LADY, FUCK YOU! She's really glad I was in a sad mood and didn't feel like freaking the fuck out at her. I'm 20 years old I may have a little baby face but you don't have to just assume I'm a young irresponsible pregnant mother. I couldn't even believe she said that! She literally just assumed that this baby is an accident and me and my OH weren't ready for kids?? Lady for all you know I could be 25, have a house that's paid off, and both my OH and I making tons of money, so good fucking parenting skills YOU HAVE teaching your daughter its okay to judge and make a comment out loud like that to a pregnant person.

UGHHH what an awful day

 

[Chezzz]

Sorry she kept you waiting. Don't worry about fundal height it's very inaccurate, and just because your tiny doesnt always mean you will have a small baby. I'm tiny too and I'm expecting an average size baby.

If she was concerned she would have sent you for a growth scan. I know it's easier said than done though sweet, but don't worry yourself. There's nothing you can do to 'make your baby bigger' as such. Just carry on what your doing as long as your eating okay and everything then it's unlikely there's a problem

 

[skye93]

My fundal height always measures at least 3 weeks behind, when babys actually measuring spot on according to the ultrasounds. So don't stress about that
Did getting checked hurt??

As for that lady. . . Lucky it wasn't me she said that about lol. As you said she has no idea about YOUR situation lol. Stuck up bitch..

 

[bsd]

She did ask when my last ultrasound was but when I told her it was 26 weeks she didn't say much. I know if she's not worried then I shouldn't be.. but I just feel bad I do eat right but maybe I should be eating more? I am always hungry..

And haha thank you skye she seriously is stuck up using me as a "bad example" for her daughter. Normally I would say something but I was just in such a depressed mood I just walked away. My OH looked at me like "..uhh did you seriously just hear that and you're still walking away?" He was waiting for me to flip out like I normally do. I still can't believe she said that. "see honey look at that young pregnant girl that's why you be proactive and use birth control!"
stupid bitch that makes me so mad. I feel bad for her daughter if she's teaching her that is okay!!

thanks for listening to my rant girls I'm in such a bummed out mood I had such a bad day and nothing to cheer me up

 

[bsd]

My fundal height always measures at least 3 weeks behind, when babys actually measuring spot on according to the ultrasounds. So don't stress about that
Did getting checked hurt??

As for that lady. . . Lucky it wasn't me she said that about lol. As you said she has no idea about YOUR situation lol. Stuck up bitch..

Sorry I forgot to answer your question I just remembered!

No it didn't hurt it definitely was uncomfortable though. It's a LOT of pressure and I don't think my LO liked it much because he started poking out and kicking like crazy lol

 

[ClairAye]

It can be dropping I was 42cm at 36/37 weeks and then at 38 I went all the way down to 39cm I stayed that way too They can tell from feeling the baby, because I was huge so when she told me to expect a small bab I didn't believe her.. People asked me if he was preemie he was so small and wrinkly (born at 40 + 1)

As for the woman I wouldn't let it get to you! Luckily I haven't had that but I'd just laugh or something! Be proud of your bub!

 

[bsd]

It can be dropping I was 42cm at 36/37 weeks and then at 38 I went all the way down to 39cm I stayed that way too They can tell from feeling the baby, because I was huge so when she told me to expect a small bab I didn't believe her.. People asked me if he was preemie he was so small and wrinkly (born at 40 + 1)

As for the woman I wouldn't let it get to you! Luckily I haven't had that but I'd just laugh or something! Be proud of your bub!

Yeah she said it was because I dropped I'm actually relieved I have a small baby because I'm hoping it'll help me with labor!

And I did just walk away from that lady, it just makes me mad she can assume by the look of my face I'm a pregnant teen, and even if I was do you really want to teach your daughter its okay to judge like that??? It made me mad and honestly just look at her as the idiot because I'm 20 years old and you're using me as an example for your 14 year old daughter! If I was 16 my feelings would be a lot more hurt being judged liked that because you don't know what kind of 16 year old I am! Stupid lady she made her self look stupid though because she has no idea what kind of life I have. I could make more money than you you stupid bitch.

Sorry lol ignorance like that just pisses me off so bad!

 

[ClairAye]

Apparently bigger babies are easier cause they help push themselves out but I don't know lol

 

[bsd]

Oh gosh I've never herd that before that's weird lol

 

[Chezzz]

Oh gosh I've never herd that before that's weird lol

Yeah I've hear that too.. Apparently they help push themselves out

 

[bsd]

Why can't little babies push themselves out??

 

[littlemommy]

Little babies don't weigh as much as big babies (obviously haha) so they don't push down as hard on you and your stuck pushing longer (my daughter was 6lbs even and I pushed for 3 1/2 hours and had a 13 hour labor.) But sometimes its not true! One of my friends had a 7lb 13oz baby and only had a 4hour labor and pushed for 40mins. It was her first baby too!

 

[bsd]

yeah my mom had three babies.. one was 7lbs 15 oz and that one was stuck and she was in labor forever, her second baby was little 6lb 6oz and she said that baby apparently flew out, she couldn't even make it to delivery room! and her last baby was 7lb 11oz and was the worst of all. I've herd a bunch of stories like that so I always thought it was the opposite!

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Don't worry too much about small measurements.

I measured small during the last month and had to have 2 late scans to check it out. the 1st scan said the baby was only 4lb even though I was 36 weeks, this was on the small side so I was told to come back again. I came back at 38 weeks and was told the baby was now estimated to be 7lb 3oz! Very confusing.

Oliver was then born at 41 weeks at a healthy 6lb 3oz. I have heard countless times that bump measurements and scan measurements can be very inaccurate. A friend was also told she was measuring too small but went on to have a 6lb 4oz baby 3 weeks early. xx

 

[bsd]

Don't worry too much about small measurements.

I measured small during the last month and had to have 2 late scans to check it out. the 1st scan said the baby was only 4lb even though I was 36 weeks, this was on the small side so I was told to come back again. I came back at 38 weeks and was told the baby was now estimated to be 7lb 3oz! Very confusing.

Oliver was then born at 41 weeks at a healthy 6lb 3oz. I have heard countless times that bump measurements and scan measurements can be very inaccurate. A friend was also told she was measuring too small but went on to have a 6lb 4oz baby 3 weeks early. xx

Oh wow that really is inaccurate! I feel like I have a big baby lol but it's probably just because I'm so small I'm not used to carrying around the extra weight! I'm having everyone in my family guess his weight.. I'm guessing 6lb 7oz! I hope he's born soon it's getting so hard waiting!!!