Little mans bday was wednesday........

[Dream.dream]

And his dad showed, however he paid no attention to him the whole time. He spent it on his phone texting his girlfriend and talking to my brother in-law about hockey. My Boyfriend was horrified.Hes never really seen my son with his dad before, but he was disgusted. he said as soon as he left that If you asked his dad he couldnt tell you probably one present that he got. It makes me sad. My boyfriend has lived with me for 8 months now and has been having regular contact with my son. How is it that in 8 months he knows more about my son and is a better parent then his dad has been in 3 years?

I should feel happy that my son has a male role model in his life that cares about him and loves him. But i really wish his dad would step up of get out of his life. I dont understand how he can care so little about his own son? Yet some one else whos never been around kids before can step up and realize how amazing my son is?

 

[teal]

So sad that he's not bothering xx

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

its sad about his dad, but like you said, atleast he has a male role model who cares about him, can things with him, be there for him. & i'm sure your son had a brilliant time at his party regardless of his real dad being a complete & utter arse!!

My LO's party is in june & i'm already dreading FOB being there, if he shows. Told him the time/date last week & he just went 'ok' showed no interest at all. Some men just weren't meant to be parents hun xx

 

[Laura2919]

I agree it's sad that his dad pays very little attention. FOB is the same, spends all his weekend with the girls on the phone to his girlfriend. what can you do? Nothing.

Like you say he has a role model in his life and that's all that matters

 

[Jinty]

Sucks don't it? I'm having the same sort of thing. My ex is in the army and is only back on weekends. He spends it with his gf and after just under 2 years? He's only just decided to see our daughter 10-1 on the Saturday... Or should i say forced to decide after i had a go at him in front of his gf because he asked me if he could see our daughter 15 hours after he actually asked me...

I've had it going on for 2 years now and even when i was with him he was a rubbish dad. The way i see it, we as mothers get to watch one of the most beautiful natural things in the world. They miss out and when they realize it, its going to be too late.

When my daughter grows up shes going to find out how much of a crap dad he is and he will be suffering of the consequences not me. We can't do nothing but try and fill in that space or in your case found a guy that is so much better for them.

 

[BadassMom]

I don't understand at all how men's priorities can be so screwed up. Or how they can sleep at night after choosing their girlfriend or whatever the hell else over their own children?? I don't think I'll ever understand it.

 

[Dream.dream]

I cant comprehend it. I actually just want him to go away or to screw up big enough that i can get the court to take his visits away. Im sick of him being aloud to half ass being a dad. but the court wont take away his visits even though hes not physically hurting my son. him ignoring him and ditching him does hurt him. i dont understand judges.

 

[BadassMom]

I think courts should take emotional abuse into account just as much as physical abuse.

 

[Dream.dream]

I think courts should take emotional abuse into account just as much as physical abuse.

They should! but they dont. They dont understand that emotional abuse and neglect takes away a childs sense of security.