Little Update

[MommaAlexis]

Hey girls! Everything's still going fantastic on my end! Got promoted, moved into my apartment finally, etc. I haven't heard a peep from Sperm Donour since 9 weeks, so terrified that this is the calm before the storm, but he generally just doesn't seem to care. He hasn't posted a single thing about me on his FB (from what friends say), and won't talk to me at all. I don't know whether to fuel my hatred or just move on like he'll never come back. If he ever shows up, I don't want to just let him see her without a fight, just because I'm tired and over it. I don't want to forget how this feels, but I never want to feel like this again. Lara's nursery is all done too! I'll take some pictures soon for you girls! How are you?!

 

[Lemonflower]

Hey hun. Well done about your apartment and promotion!! Also please post your pics of Lara's nursery!!

Our stories are very similar aren't they. Like you I was prepared for a battle when LO arrived but after being ignored for 5 months and him visiting LO once I haven't heard from him since. No posts about his son on Facebook, never speaks about him (though how can he - he knows nothing about LO) also he got engaged to his new gf of 5 months!! That man is unbelievable!!
I like the fact he's out of mine and LOs life but at the same time I'm hurt that he can't even be bothered with LO.
It really is his loss but one day I'll have to tell my boy the door was left open and he chose not to be a part of his life. I hope he doesn't feel rejected.

I know it hurts like crazy what he's done to you and people are prob saying it gets easier but I can say from personal experience it does.
I was scared I'd see FOB when I looked at my baby - he has his eyes but I love him so much I don't think of that prat.
There are days which are harder than others but that's just life.

During pregnancy I got asked out twice - one of my male friends has been so brilliant and really picked me up when I fell.
He wants us to be together - maybe it will happen but I told him that I'm still not over SD and that I want to concentrate on being a mum - that is my priority!
There is decent men out there. We just got unlucky with a couple of douches but then again I don't regret getting with FOB because then I wouldn't have my baby!

I think you are doing well - you should be very proud of yourself!

xxx

 

[lemontree12]

i have thought of the time when i have to explain to my little girl about why her daddy wasnt interested. i will always be honest with her (well as much as she can handle until shes old enough to fully understand)
but he will have to hardest job, if she ever tracks him down he will have to look at a young lady in the face and explain why he done what he done. id hate to have that job

x

 

[MommaAlexis]

The idea that he can swoop in at any time and I'd be considered a "bad mom" for not letting him see her infuriates me. you abandoned your other two daughters and now me and Lara and people tell me I have to let you see her? Good luck. you don't get a second chance to hurt her. It's not even an issue right now as he generally isn't interested but omfg if he ever shows up on my doorstep.