*LONG* please help :( dont know who to talk to about this...what to do about this??

[sjcbaby]

Hi everyone..

I joined here awhile ago and everything was all hunky-dorey with my relationship (i thought) im currently 33 weeks pregnant with my first.

since about christmas I have been paranoid about my relationship I had a gut feeling that something wasn't right, partner has been increasingly losing physical interest in me...I feel more like a good mate now. he has constantly commented on other women during this time in a "jokey" way and I've let it slide, but have been suspicious of it.

I've been having these reoccuring dreams for months now that he's cheating on me, being unfaithful in some way. I have never been in a relationship where the guy has been faithful to me and today I woke up with that sick feeling that something wasnt right. he is very protective of his computer account, does a lot of things in private, and 'clicks off' things when i'm near.

So I went onto his computer account. looked into his pictures: porn, that doesn't surprise me, pictures of my best friends holiday snaps in their bikinis though? - anger and betrayal and sadness doesnt even describe. these girls are like sisters to me.

I check his internet history.......porn porn porn...a website dedicated to escorts which I looked at and which he has used and met up with women..since we've been together and just the other week he was on there. Another website he visited the other day called "affairs and dating" - he searched for that one specifically.

my gut feelings have been right and i am absolutely distraught, disgusted and numb. I dont know what to do, what to think. I didnt know this side to him at all and I just want some advice on this. I dont feel guilty about prying into his stuff at all I'm glad I know this now.

we live together and decorated the nursery just the other day

what would you do? what should I do?

 

[shiawase]

First of all The same thing happened with my LO's dad. What you do now is up to you, no one can tell you really, have you confronted him about it?

 

[billy2mm]

confront him. talk about it. this might be something you 2 can work out it might not be. only you and him know the answer

 

[tiffyvplusmet]

you have to do what you think is best for you and ur child. no one else matters. talk to him about ur feelings...if he seems unwilling for change then u can do better with out him

 

[gemabee]

u need to talk to him about it... this could be solvable.
if he's jus been lookin at porn nd girls in their bikini's then i don't see the problem... if he's actually been cheatin on u tho then u need to have a proper discussion.
men often don't know where to put themselves when their partner is pregnant... they might stop findin their partner attractive (which is understandable cos i know how bad i looked when i was pregnant )... nd jus because he's lookin doesn't necessarily mean he's touchin.
don't write off ur relationship... sit down with him first.
xx

 

[chels24uk]

hey hun. I agree with everyone else. I had a similar problem with my ex and the PC. To me, porn is no big deal. You need to find out if he has cheated though and just try to get to the root of why hes looking at these sites. If hes not willing to talk, or tries to turn it on you for looking into his private stuff, id say he def has something to hide. You shouldnt feel guilty for looking, sometimes its the only way you find this stuff out. If after you have spoken, and your gut says hes lying, then you need to decide whether you can get trust back for him or not. There's no relationship with no trust. Good luck! xx

 

[LaDY]

xx

 

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[BeautifulD]