Abigailly
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Well I've just sat and watched my little girl drive off with my now ex for the first time
It's horrible.
It's a bit of everything that's ended us. We're atleast 'on a break'.
Me and him were only together a few months when I fell pregnant. Bit of a whirlwind, we were practically living together, away on romantic weekends all the time. He blew hot and cold the entire pregnancy, was so excited, then wanted DNA, then was kissing my bump. Never came to either scan, only one appointment (at 38 weeks). At around 35 weeks he became all supportive, this was around the time he felt it moev so I put it down to that.
He was incredible at the birth, stayed in hospital with me all day for the 5 days I was in. Is a ever doting dad to Niamh, always playing with her etc. We got on great. Fair enough during his paternity leave he was a bit hit and miss but he wasn't convinced she was his. I proved him wrong anyway. I got a DNA done for her and they're 99.996% sure she's his
Things got better and better, we booked to go to France on holiday, it all went great.
BUT he's just blooming useless and completely thoughtless!!! Not one morning on holiday did I get a sleep in, he NEVER bathes her when he's over (I live with my parents, him in his own house 10 minutes away), very rarely feeds her, changes her sometimes but not often.
I thought we were goign ok (although I was suspicious of his ex getting involved. He was living with her when we got together, but moved out once we were official), but he doesn't want us moving in together, yet doesn't want me getting my own place as he hopes we'll move in together when he earns a bit more... he's earns 35k
. So I didn't really see us as having a future.
Then last night me and N were at his, I went out to get us dinner, came back and he said "she was fine but she was so cross I HAD to bath her" as if bathing her wasn't something I do every night
Then this morning, after N been up every hour, she got up properly at 6 like she does every morning, so I got her out of bed, thought he'd come down and give me a hand as he says he hates missing mornings as they're her best time. So I played with her for an hour, at 7 I went in and told him I was off out and walked to the shop because I discovered he'd not bought her any breakfast in when I told his so many times he needed some. Came back, he still wasn't up. Woke him, said I'm about to give Niamh her breakky, he 'Okayed' and rolled over. So did all I had to and at half 9 went up stairs absolutely fuming, told him I'm done everything while he layed in bed like a slob. And do you know what he said??
"Abi, its only half 9, its a Saturday and I'm tired'.
Well that was it, I lost the plot, went absolutely tits up and gave him a whole load of home truths and stormed out in tears.
And that was that. HE then said he wanted N this afternoon and he would see the solicitor on Monday.
I'm so sorry that's all so long. I just needed to get it all out. But the whole point of this thread is to say hi! And that I'm sorry, but you may have to put up with a lot of questions from me depending how the next few weeks pan out.
It's horrible.It's a bit of everything that's ended us. We're atleast 'on a break'.
Me and him were only together a few months when I fell pregnant. Bit of a whirlwind, we were practically living together, away on romantic weekends all the time. He blew hot and cold the entire pregnancy, was so excited, then wanted DNA, then was kissing my bump. Never came to either scan, only one appointment (at 38 weeks). At around 35 weeks he became all supportive, this was around the time he felt it moev so I put it down to that.
He was incredible at the birth, stayed in hospital with me all day for the 5 days I was in. Is a ever doting dad to Niamh, always playing with her etc. We got on great. Fair enough during his paternity leave he was a bit hit and miss but he wasn't convinced she was his. I proved him wrong anyway. I got a DNA done for her and they're 99.996% sure she's his
Things got better and better, we booked to go to France on holiday, it all went great.
BUT he's just blooming useless and completely thoughtless!!! Not one morning on holiday did I get a sleep in, he NEVER bathes her when he's over (I live with my parents, him in his own house 10 minutes away), very rarely feeds her, changes her sometimes but not often.
I thought we were goign ok (although I was suspicious of his ex getting involved. He was living with her when we got together, but moved out once we were official), but he doesn't want us moving in together, yet doesn't want me getting my own place as he hopes we'll move in together when he earns a bit more... he's earns 35k
. So I didn't really see us as having a future.Then last night me and N were at his, I went out to get us dinner, came back and he said "she was fine but she was so cross I HAD to bath her" as if bathing her wasn't something I do every night
Then this morning, after N been up every hour, she got up properly at 6 like she does every morning, so I got her out of bed, thought he'd come down and give me a hand as he says he hates missing mornings as they're her best time. So I played with her for an hour, at 7 I went in and told him I was off out and walked to the shop because I discovered he'd not bought her any breakfast in when I told his so many times he needed some. Came back, he still wasn't up. Woke him, said I'm about to give Niamh her breakky, he 'Okayed' and rolled over. So did all I had to and at half 9 went up stairs absolutely fuming, told him I'm done everything while he layed in bed like a slob. And do you know what he said??
"Abi, its only half 9, its a Saturday and I'm tired'.
Well that was it, I lost the plot, went absolutely tits up and gave him a whole load of home truths and stormed out in tears.
And that was that. HE then said he wanted N this afternoon and he would see the solicitor on Monday.
I'm so sorry that's all so long. I just needed to get it all out. But the whole point of this thread is to say hi! And that I'm sorry, but you may have to put up with a lot of questions from me depending how the next few weeks pan out.
and welcome
