Looking for a buddy after lossat 13 weeks

[hanrh]

Hi all
I am looking for someone to chat to who might be going throug a similar thing. Could do with some support...

I found out my baby was very poorly at my 12 week scan on 30th October. Unfortunately we lost our little angel the following week at 13 weeks.

It's now been 6 days since my d&c. Bleeding seems to be turning to light spotting - which I'm hoping is positive.

I am just feeling so empty without my baby and want to be pregant again like now!

Would love to chat to any ladies who want to share this wait for our rainbow baby together x

 

[tcinks]

So sorry for your loss. I too lost my baby at weeks about a month ago.

The days will get better but it will take time. I didn't have a d and c, it was natural. But I'm still bleeding a month later! I think you typically stop sooner with the surgery but also there can be more complications? I don't really know. I'm just awaiting the bleeding to stop and hcg to go down so we can try again. Are you planning to try right away?

Talk to me anytime! I'm on here a lot. And there is just a lot of support and encouragement here in general.

 

[hanrh]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It's shocking how many women go through this when you feel the danger zone is over!

I think I spoke too soon about the bleeding, it seems to be back in full force today! how are you finding things?

I would like to try again as soon as we can. We are awaiting results from tests we had when we found out baby was poorly so I think the doctor wants us to wait until we have discussed that. How about u? Will you be trying soon?

Thank you so much for your reply, I'm finding talking to people has really helped! X

 

[tcinks]

The bleeding is very light, but consistent. Some days I think it's about to stop...but there it always is! I didn't think I'd be bleeding for 30+ days. :/ frustrating but I'm just holding onto hope that it will be over soon.

I want to try as soon as the bleeding stops and hcg is down (its at 42 last I checked , so getting close.) I tested with a home pregnancy test today and it's still positive. I've heard some women get pregnant within just a few weeks after mc, and I was hoping that would happen to me. But nope. So I'm trying to be patient, but it's hard. :/

was this your first child? It was for me.

 

[hanrh]

Poor you! 30 days is a long time! It's definately a constant reminder of the loss which is awful.

Yes you seem to be very close on the hcg levels which is positive. Maybe when they are 0 the bleeding will stop? I agree, I had read it was a really good time to get pregnant straight after, however I'm not sure how people manage it. BDing is the last thing on my mind at the moment!!
Yes this was our first, very much wanted baby. We tried for a long 7 months (felt like a lifetime) which makes me feel very stressed at the thought of having to go through it all again!
Did you try for long before your bfp?

 

[tcinks]

No, I got pregnant the first month tried. We were so shocked! I'm really hoping it will be like that the next time, but I know generally it can take a while.

I'm sorry you feel so discouraged at the the thought of BD/getting pregnant again. I'm sure as the days and weeks pass it'll get easier. At first for me, I told my husband I never wanted get pregnant again, I was heartbroken and scared. But we both so desperately want to have children. It would be hard to go through this again of course, but I think it's worth it for a chance at a healthy baby! Most of the time, mc are random occurences that don't happen again. Do you have any idea what caused yours? How many kids do you and your husband want to have ? I know it is hard to think about now , but it helps me to have something to hope for and look forward to still.

 

[hanrh]

Wow you were very lucky! I hope it is the same for your and for me next time. Wouldn't that be lovely! I think we deserve it after all this stress we have gone through!!

I think when the bleeding stops and my body starts to get back to normal I'll be more encouraged to try again. Like you, we are desperate for a child.

Our baby was sadly diagnosed with patau syndrome, a chromosomal abnormality which generally results in mc or still birth (I think the rates are 95%). How about you? Did you find out what happened?

We only really want 1 maybe 2 children. How about you?

I've had a really bad day today and have hardly been able to get out of bed. I took a hpt this morning to see if my hormones were back to normal yet, and I think seeing that second line still set me off.

 

[amybby0813]

Hi, we also lost our baby last week at 13+3 we had to make the decision to terminate after finding out our little man had abnormalities at our 12week scan I'm heartbroken and the thought of trying for another terrifies me but I really want to, we already have two healthy children x