Looking for help/support!

[YoungMa]

,Hi, my name is Brittney I'm 18 years old and I'm 24 weeks on Wednesday.
I'm just looking for some support and help in some situations right now!
For starters, the last time I had an appointment was at 12 weeks!! I was supposed to have an appointment on February first.. And long story short, I now do not have an appointment until march 22nd!! I'm so frustrated. That means I will be 26 weeks before I see a doctor. Sorry.. But I had to vent about that.. Because I don't think that's right at all.

I'm having troubles with my boyfriend understanding me. You know, all the hormones getting to me and he doesn't understand, typical male! But anyone know of good ways to get them to understand. He does really cute things sometimes but other times I'm just hurt by his actions/words. He seemed like he was going to love this baby more earlier on.. Now he is saying some rude things. He doesn't know that I know he says these things to his friends.. But being the pregnant protective mommy I am.. I have my ways! I found out he text his friend saying "oh and with this new girlfriend of yours.. Don't forget to wear a good condom". Ouch! :'(

His best friends girlfriend and I.. Don't like each other I suppose. And that seems to be a big deal, understandably. But his best friend will not say a word to me because his girlfriend and I don't get along. However.. My boyfriend is being a jerk. He says he doesn't like his best friends girlfriend like I mean at all! And yet he always tells his best friend to tell his girlfriend he says hi. And I don't know.. Maybe it's just the hormones taking over but that actually really hurts me.. :-\ I hate this feeling. I hate the way he can treat me sometimes.

Oh.. Btw.. My boyfriend and I live together, in my parents basement.. We turned it into a apartment... We have our own bathroom and living room, bedroom for us and one for the baby as well.. And soon we will have a kitchen. I love my boyfriend more than anything, he is a big part of my life and soon to be a big part of our babies life. We have been together for 3 and a half years. I'm almost 100% sure he will be an absolutely fantastic father but how do I get him to be more understanding. We already have have a puppy and he has taken over great responsibility for the puppy when he can because I find it harder on the ice, I'm afraid I might fall (clumsy).
If you have read this entire thing.. Wow, thank you. Lol. Hope to get so excited help/support from everyone. If you have anything you want to talk about, I'm here for you! I'm very understanding and there really isn't much I judge about people. Thank you for your time!

 

[wellsk]

Didn't want to read and run!

I'm sorry they cancelled your appointment and you've had to wait, what a pain! Hopefully everything is going fine though. For many 1000s of years they didn't have appointments to see doctors, your body knows what it's doing. So everything should be all well and good

Sorry your boyfriend is up and down, maybe he's finding the idea of becoming a father hard to deal with. I think any man would at any age, it's a lot of adjusting! You're seeing your partner go through extreme changes, you might have money worries, and he wonders if he'll be a good father. Probably all the same concerns you've got. But men tend to bottle up a lot more than women.
I would try not to worry too much about it, maybe ask him and make sure he's okay and reassure him that things will be fine.

As for his best friends girlfriend, he could just be being polite, it doesn't really sound like anything much. I think you might be overthinking it

Good luck!

 

[YoungMa]

you!
Yeah, It sucks.. I have had one ultrasound.. At 9 weeks. Have been weighed twice, and blood pressure taken twice have not had anything else done. So it worries me a bit. But that is true!

I think your right, he probably is finding that hard. He's worried that he's going to have to give up the things he 'loves' (video games), I told him that he doesn't have to give them up but may have to cut back a little to take responsibility. Yeah, your probably bang on with that.. Because when I was upset with him couple times I have said 'wow.. Your gonna be a great father' completely sarcastically and rudely(bad choice).

I'm the one who worries about the money.. He however throws sit all away. but he has been working his butt off. 6 days a week. :O

Thank you for the advice.

Haha no apparently I said something bad about his best friends girlfriend.. And she says she wants an apology and all this other Crap.. But she doesn't want to unblock me on Facebook so that I can. Lol. She lives in Toronto. He told my boyfriend to get me to apologize through his Facebook and I said no.. It's coming from my facrbook
. :-\ but no. Nothings changing.. Cause I don't even know what I did. But am willing to apologize for whatever through my Facebook.

Are you pregnant? How old are you?

 

[wellsk]

Yeah, you have to be careful with what you say in fights. You could be backing up what he might be secretly thinking in his head. I'd just try and be as reassuring as you can and take a breath before you say something as a reaction and think, 'how would I feel if someone says that to me?'.

He sounds like he's determined though? Particularly when he's working so hard? You may have to rein in the spending though and remind him that he's got a little one on the way. And like you said yourself, he won't have to give up video gaming, but his priorities will have to change.

I don't think men think about it before the baby is here, they often don't look at the future and don't think well in hypothetical situations.

As for your boyfriends friends girlfriend, it sounds pretty ridiculous and I'd just avoid/ignore if you can?

No, I'm not pregnant and I'm 22.

 

[haydenmummy]

Heyy
I'm hillary 20 I have a 3 an half year old son and a 14 week old lil girl I know how u feel with the OH myn ws sort off the same he just didn't grow up and didn't understandd how hard and stressfull it is having a baby but it soon hit him once our son arrived sleeploss nights and a screaming baby nappies and bottles he soon learnt was a lil late but it soon sunk in I didn't realise how hard and stressfull it was gunna be to have a baby but after a weeek of having him I was fiine and in the swing of motherhood I was 16 whenn I had my son and me OH are still together and goingg strong and had another baby it will sink in to him soon when he realises its to late to change it if u get what I mean hehe

Hope all goess well with u and baby if ya need to chat pp me xx congrats xx

 

[jozylynn896]

My boyfriend was really rude with what he said too but now at 34 weeks he is so nervous and excited for our little boy.

Its just scary because guys don't know how to react to these things whereas women have a natural instinct to love the fetus right away.

Maybe try switching where you're receiving your care because that does sound rediculous.

Good luck

 

[teenmommy15]

hey im bethany and im 15 due june 18th with our baby girl when are you due? cause were not far apart ill be 25 weeks tomorrow my boyfriend was really rude and insensitive to my feelings as well and finally it got to the point where i couldnt ignore anymore cause my hormones are getting even worse i just told him how i felt and what i was going through and how he could help and he has done a whole lot of approvement im happy to say so maybe if you just talk to him everything will work itself out it just takes longer for boys to get used to the idea then us pm i would love to talk since were not that far apart do you know the gender of your baby yet?

 

[YoungMa]

Wellsk,
Thank you for your help! yeah, sometimes when things are heated you just say all the wrong things.. it really doesn't help anything! He is pretty determined! and things have been a bit better lately. ended up going in to the doctor because of pain, my family doctor.. haven't seen ob yet (soon though!) Thank you!!

Hillary,
I feel like I don't know much about babies, in reality I probably know more than most teen moms.. but I am so worried that I'm missing some important facts and details!! lol.
Thank you!

Jozylynn896,
Yes, i am hoping that he will become more excited as time goes on. He was pretty excited at the ultrasound we just had yesterday but they didn't tell us the gender.. she said she 'didn't look for it' :/ kind of frustrating!!! lol.
Thank you!

Bethany,
hey! my original due date was June 26, as of yesterday my due date is June 16!! We were really hoping to find the gender. If my doctor doesn't know we will probably be going for a 3D ultrasound for a gender assessment! Hopefully we will find out soon! I will pm you!
Thank you!

 

[teenmommy15]

ahh your due 2 days before me how exciting ah that must be the longest wait of your life lol i got mine at 19+1 yeah good luck awesome hope to hear from you welcome!!

 

[jozylynn896]

The lady that did my first ultrasound was a total c*nt and was so tude to my OH and I .

 

[teenmommy15]

that sounds awful. i would have been pissed and told her to shut the fuck up and stop ruing my ultrasound.