Hey all, im Amy, im 20 years old and have a 1 year old little boy 
Ive been with my OH for just over 4 & a half years and he was my first boyfriend. Weve had our ups and downs like any other couples, but usually great, get along really well, but about 5 weeks ago he changed. He started a new job and was coming home acting cocky and smart, nothing like him at all. Then he started saying he didnt know what he wanted bla bla bla. we managed to work through it, was very tough done a lot of crying
. And now all of a sudden out of the blue again, hes feeling down and said to me Wednesday night he doesnt know what he wants, whether he wants us to stay together or just be parents to Theo, or he didnt know whether he just wanted to live apart. So at the moment my head is all over the place 
We have spoken and both think its worth trying to work through (again) but i said to him if it happens few weeks down the line i emotionally cannot deal with it anymore so we agreed. Hes been staying up his Mothers since Thursday night. Hes popped in to see me and the baby and we took him out yesterday so i thought we were getting somewhere. Then i checked his Email account.....
I felt something wasnt right this morning so i went on his emails and seen hes been joining up to dating websites. Listed as "single, no kids, and looking for 1 to 1 sex" WHAT THE HELL???!!! im soo pissed right now, I text him saying "hey you okay" and it was just blunt texts back.
so i said to him "Look, do you really want to make this work? i feel like you dont and your just doing it to keep me happy i feel like shit!"
He text back: "I do want to make this work aim, why woudlnt I! I just needed a break im not up to anything im just trying to not run away and loose everything over a stupid feeling! I love you both to much to do that xx"
Do i tell him what i seen?? or will it make it worse? should i just keep checking his emails and see if theres more or if hes sent girls messages? the one he made last night i went on and checked and theres no messages from or to anyone, THANK GOD.
Sorry for the long post, Im really in need of support right now, and where are my friends when i need them? nowhere to be seen. I just love him so so much and couldnt imagine being with anyone else, sleeping next to someone else or even talking to someone like we talk, my mother seems to think i feel like that because he was my first boyfriend so havnt experienced anything else.
Ive been with my OH for just over 4 & a half years and he was my first boyfriend. Weve had our ups and downs like any other couples, but usually great, get along really well, but about 5 weeks ago he changed. He started a new job and was coming home acting cocky and smart, nothing like him at all. Then he started saying he didnt know what he wanted bla bla bla. we managed to work through it, was very tough done a lot of crying
. And now all of a sudden out of the blue again, hes feeling down and said to me Wednesday night he doesnt know what he wants, whether he wants us to stay together or just be parents to Theo, or he didnt know whether he just wanted to live apart. So at the moment my head is all over the place We have spoken and both think its worth trying to work through (again) but i said to him if it happens few weeks down the line i emotionally cannot deal with it anymore so we agreed. Hes been staying up his Mothers since Thursday night. Hes popped in to see me and the baby and we took him out yesterday so i thought we were getting somewhere. Then i checked his Email account.....I felt something wasnt right this morning so i went on his emails and seen hes been joining up to dating websites. Listed as "single, no kids, and looking for 1 to 1 sex" WHAT THE HELL???!!! im soo pissed right now, I text him saying "hey you okay" and it was just blunt texts back.
so i said to him "Look, do you really want to make this work? i feel like you dont and your just doing it to keep me happy
i feel like shit!" He text back: "I do want to make this work aim, why woudlnt I! I just needed a break im not up to anything im just trying to not run away and loose everything over a stupid feeling! I love you both to much to do that xx"
Do i tell him what i seen?? or will it make it worse? should i just keep checking his emails and see if theres more or if hes sent girls messages? the one he made last night i went on and checked and theres no messages from or to anyone, THANK GOD.
Sorry for the long post, Im really in need of support right now, and where are my friends when i need them? nowhere to be seen. I just love him so so much and couldnt imagine being with anyone else, sleeping next to someone else or even talking to someone like we talk, my mother seems to think i feel like that because he was my first boyfriend so havnt experienced anything else.
