LO's birthdays and exes

[ALY]

Hun i wouldnt let him have her at all
i dont let hollys dad have her cos he is the same as your ex and SHE is your daughter so you do wat you want with her hun and if he doesnt like it tough

 

[AppleBlossom]

He is expecting to come round now... what do you think would happen if me and Grace just sat and played with her presents upstairs until he got bored and left?

 

[ALY]

You have been more than reasonable with him hun but id still not let him come over
but im just nasty
you do wat you think is right and if thats not letting him take grace then he will have to have her another day

sorry if this sounds harsh

 

[xxannxx]

If your LO is anything like what mine was like at that age, your ex will get fed up and leave pretty quickly. When my LO was small, my ex wouldh've came round once or twice during week to see him, but as long as I was there LO never showed him much attention. He would always come over to me to play and if I left room would follow me or cry after me. After an hour at most ex would get fed up sitting watching TV and leave.

 

[AppleBlossom]

I really really don't want him to have her, he doesn't deserve it for a start. If I turned my phone off and pretended I wasn't in there isn't anything he could do is there? Thursday isn't even his day to have her. I'm guessing if he got no repsonse from knocking/ringing me he would eventually leave. I just feel like even after him being a dick I am STILL doing him favours. Grace won't miss out on anything because she isn't used to seeing him in the week anyway

 

[xxannxx]

I don't think that feeling of being the 1 doing the favours ever goes away I'm afraid!!! I broke up with ex when LO was only a few weeks old and now he's almost 3 and still wonder at times if he would even see LO if it wasn't for me. In fact the few times if I haven't been able to re-arrange days for certain reasons, then he hasn't!!! The only difference is that now, after this length of time, I don't feel the need to meet his plans, its his responsibilty.

 

[mz_jackie86]

i think u should tell him your way or the highway hun its her birthday and he prob jsut doing it to be a brat anyway!!

Hope she has a lovely birthday! xx

 

[demonmadcat]

it's things like this that let me know i'm doing the right thing, even though i've had a lot of opposition..
I told Lily's dad that he wasn't having a party as she wouldn't have a clue what was going on.. instead i'm taking her to scarborough for the weekend.. her first time in an hotel.. i've said we'll be on the beach on her birthday, and he's welcome to join us for the day..
You could do something similar.. tell him what you're doing, then tell him he's welcome to join in.. then it's all on your terms, and it's him that looks bad if he turns it down...
I don't want to spend a minute away from her on her 1st birthday.. She may not remember it in years to come, but I will...
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