loss of other babies is stopping me enjoying this pregnancy.

[sincereveneer]

Hi, Im new to this. Last year i lost two babies- no fetal heart beats at 12 week scan. Consequently i had to have surgical evacuations causing me extreme upset. On a brighter note, we have been blessed at having another chance at being parents again in summer. This should be a joyous time but due to my history of recurrent miscarriage i am unable to enjoy this pregnancy through worrying so much. I am now 16 weeks but seet to have been plagued with viruses and generally feeling unwell. My work are far from being supportive and shake their heads with distatse due to me taking time off. I am finding it increasingly hard to juggle work and home life not to mention the most important thing- sustaining my pregnancy. I felt tipped over the edge last week and saw my doc. She signed me off for a week and has done tests (blood and urine) as i feel very lethargic and emotional. Im back tomorrow for the results but im very worried that the results will come back fine. My head is pounding on a daily basis and i am very emotional as well as feeling poor health. I feel pressure off work wanting to know when i'll be back but how can i do my job if im all over the place. Feel like im going mental, am i?

 

[SabrinaKat]

please go down to the pregnancy after a loss section -- the ladies there completely understand how you feel! I also had a mc and two possible chemicals before my LO was born in early February, so understand so very well myself -- I've posted loads down there, both during and post-pregnancy, so please, please, please believe me - YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

best wishes (and just take it one day/one hour at a time! and take care of yourself!)

 

[3xscharmer]

You are not alone, pregnancy after loss is very scary and it's not just at a certain time either, it's throughout the entire pregnancy. I thought once I got past 12 weeks I'd be okay, but with DD I did NOT rest easy until she was here! You will get through this honey, try not to worry about what work/ppl say and concentrate on yourself and your baby, these are the most important things...there are plenty of jobs out there but only one baby so don't stress the little stuff and try to just enjoy this moment and relax as much as you can, anything that can wait can wait until another day when you feel better! Sounds to me like you need a spa day, they have places specially designed for pregnancy massages - you might look into that or yoga to help you relax more! Good luck and keep us updated on your results!

 

[robbo1]

Hi there sorry your struggling I feel exactly the same after 2 losses I'm also 16 weeks just back to work this week reduced hours after struggling with pregnancy symptoms for few weeks. I don't really have any advice just didn't want to r & r see my post a bit further down about being 16 weeks and not being able to feel excited or relax and read sabrinakats advice she was very helpful xx