lost baby yesterday, have a few questions please :-(

[mel82]

hi girls, I'm so sorry for everyone's loss. I miscarried yesterday and it's been so hard for me and DH. I had really bad cramps and bled lightly but today it's getting a little heavier (not as heavy as a normal period).

I had a few questions for my obgyn but i guess they're so busy they can't give me a call back and now i have to wait until monday, so i thought you guys may have anwers for it:

1. Can I wear a tampax? When I got there i told them i was pg and bleeding and said I was using a tampax and they had me taken it out because I wasn't supposed to use one. I'm confused if i should not wear one when I'm pg or when i'm miscarrying.
2. How long am I supposed to bleed? Can I help speed up the process or do i have to wait? I hate it, because it's like a reminder of my loss.
3. Is there any extra vitamins i can take to prevent this or help me go thru it? Can I take ibuprofen for my cramps?
4. When is it ok to TTC again? I feel bad for trying to get over it so fast but I understand things happen for a reason and maybe my little one wasn't as healthy as other babies. Should I wait until the bleeding stop and then wait a few cycles?

Thanks for your help

 

[honeybunch2k7]

1. My hospital told me to use pads.

2. I bled for about 10 days, I'm not sure what the norm or median is. I'm sure others will chime in.

3. Well, since you are bleeding you may want to make sure that you have iron. I don't see the harm in taking ibuprofen, but once again I'm sure other ladies will give their opinions soon. Oh yes, and I'm a believe in Vitamin C as well. I would say to make sure you get your rest and get the physical and emotional support you need.

4.Whenever you feel. Most docs recommend one cycle, but that's only for dating purposes.

 

[haaza123]

1) They tell you not to wear tampons to prevent any infection plus to allow any bits to flush out.

2) Bleeding varies. With my first mc i had a erpc and i bled for 3 weeks. With my other 2 mc's i bled for 4 days with another 2 days of spotting but it all varies from person to person and depending on how far gone you were etc.

3) I was told to take painkillers too for the last two mc's, i had really bad stomach cramps and back pain the first two days and after that it wasnt that bad.

4) When you feel ready to try again both physically and emotionally. The doctors told me to wait for a period and then try.

xx

 

[charliesmom]

Do not use tampons.

Bleeding varies from pregnancies. My first mc (natural at 10 weeks), I bled for 2 weeks & spotted for 1 or 2. Second (natural at 5 weeks), I bled 1 week and spotted for 4 weeks.

Yes, it's ok to use pain killers.

They recommend 2-3 cycles to allow your uterus to fully recover. I waited for 3 cycles after the first mc... this time, I'm only waiting for 2... because my 1st cycle after the mc was soooo weird (I didn't even know it was a period).

 

[Jessa]

1) My doctor said that I was okay to wear tampons. It does increase the risk of infection, but I cannot stand wearing a pad so I wore tampons instead.

2) Like charliesmom, I bled for a little over two weeks and then spotted for another 2 weeks or so. I got my period about a week after that.

3) If you're in pain, I'd definitely take something for it.

4) Like honeybunch said, it's safe to start trying again right away, even before you get your period. Some doctors will tell you to wait until after you've had at least one period so that it's easier to date the pregnancy, but that's what an ultrasound is for. Try again as soon as you're emotionally and physically ready.

 

[JASMAK]

I bled for about 10 days with my last m/c, but, I think my second one, it was very light...and only a few days. I actually wondered if I was still PG and did a PT (which was negative of course). I was told to use pads, but, did wear the occasional tampon, which just made my cramps worse, so if you are having cramps, I would not recommend it. Go ahead and take pain killers. Sorry you are going through this. I always wait until my next normal AF before TTC again.

 

[SJK]

so sorry for your loss x

 

[nicole136]

Ibuprofen can make the blood thinner and make the bleeding heavier. Try something like co-codamol ar opiate based painkiller and paracetamol.

so sorry honey xxxxx

 

[todteach]

So sorry for your loss hun. Sending you big . If you need anything else, please let us know.

1. Can I wear a tampax? I was told not to use tampons for 4 weeks. If you have had a D and C you may resume intercourse in 2 weeks.
2. How long am I supposed to bleed? Some women will only bleed for the length of a period. I, however, bleed for sometime after due to complications.
3. Is there any extra vitamins i can take to prevent this or help me go thru it? Can I take ibuprofen for my cramps? I took tylenol with codeine along with advil for my cramping. Whatever is going to numb your cramps. Hot water bottle, screaming, yelling, crying, etc......
4. When is it ok to TTC again? Whenever you feel physically and emotionally ready. Doctors tell their patients to wait atleast one menstrual. However, my mom became pregnant with me after a miscarriage, and didn't wait for her period to return.
Also: Please contact your doctor if you develop a fever, heavy vaginal bleeding, or increasing abdominal pain.

Sending you love. Big

 

[scrubgrub]

1. Can I wear a tampax? No you shouldn't, you'll have to wear pads again-- which really sucked for me. I got some Instead cups as well for my first period afterwards, as I bled a lot on that period and it helped.
2. How long am I supposed to bleed? It depends how far along you were, and each woman is different. I bled for about 7 days.
3. Is there any extra vitamins i can take to prevent this or help me go thru it? Can I take ibuprofen for my cramps? Take what you need. I continued to take my folic acid supplement.
4. When is it ok to TTC again? We waited for one period, and then started again, but others don't wait at all. My OBGYN said it was good to wait, and take the prenatals so my body could get healed, and build up my folic acid.

But most of all, I'm sorry for your loss. and

 

[DebsHopeful]

Hi Mel,

Again I am so sorry for your loss.
I would second the girls in saying it is probably better to use a pad (they are just so uncomfortable) but since your bleeding will be more clumpy than normal and for your body to heal you need to get it all out.

I was prescribed tons of pain killers after my D&C and ERPC so would believe that if you need them they are fine.

The fact that your doctor is making you wait until Monday is just terrible. My first gynea was really not great and didn't do any blood test to check and see that my HCG count had gone back to 0 and as such 4 weeks after my D&C I was at 124,000 HCG.
My advice to you and anyone out there unfortunate enough to lose a little one is to insist on a HCG blood test and if you have to wait for one, you can check it yourself with a pregnancy test. You were about 6 weeks pregnant so you will probabaly take at least 1 or 2 weeks for you HCG to go down.

As for trying again, I think we all understand that. You need a little one to love and to give everything you have to offer. Once your bleeding has stopped and you have confirmed a 0 HCG, you can start trying right away. The waiting for your first period is only from a dating factor and if you have confirmed a 0 HCG this is a confirmation of your new starting date. The lining of your uterus might be a little thin and the egg may not have enough to get embedded the first time around
but as Todteach already said, everyone is different. You may not lose to much lining and if you don't need a D&C, you probaby won't and in this case you most certainly could fall pregnant before you get your next vist from AF.

I am sending you a really big and praying it won't be too long before you get another .

 

[mel82]

Hi guys,
I'm feeling much better now. I just wanted to say thank you for all your support and replies, I really appreciate them and have been really helpful during this hard and confusing time.
When I was at the ER I had a blood test done and my hcg levels were at 16 so I guess I'm kind of back to normal. This morning I took another HPT just to see if my hcg were up again and - thank goodness - it was negative. I never thought a negative HPT would make me happy! (it's so ironic)

I think I went from bleeding to spotting today, when I woke up there was just a brown line in my pad (sorry if tmi) so I'm glad my body is strong enough to take care of things by itself without needing any medicine to get rid of leftovers (is leftover a bad choice of a word? I'm sorry if it is, but you know what i mean).

Now I just have to wait and see if i continue bleeding this week, and then see if my period gets back to regular. I think I'll wait at least a couple of weeks before trying again.

Thanks again for all your kind words

 

[DebsHopeful]

Hi Mel,

I know you are going to wait and it probably is the best choice but just to let you know that as soon as your HCG goes to 0, this is when I have been told you ovulate.

You will know when the time if right for you.
It will be three months tomorrow since I lost my baby boy but this wait wasn't by choice it has just taken this long for my body to get back into the game, it really isn't in any of our hands, it is up to the man above to chose when our little angels are ready for us but when the time comes for us, we will spoil them like mad and the wait will all be worth it.

Glad to hear you are feeling a lot better.

Big hugs,
Debs

 

[Gabrielle]

Hey mel, just came to check in on you. I sent you a pm the other day but didnt hear back. I'm glad your feeling better about all of this, and also that your body is able to take care of itself.
Again i am so sorry for you loss and i wish you the best of luck for ttc in the future. I am so proud of you for being so strong about all of this and keeping your head up! your a beautiful young lady and someday you will have your little one in your arms. Take care and i'm here if you ever want to talk.
How is your hubby doing with the loss?

Lots of hugs to you and your family

~Gabby~