starnurse76
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Hi everyone,
First time on here. dont know why i am on here really... Our little boy had Edwards Syndrome - a chromosomal disorder where the life expectancy is very very low not to mention heart defects, brain problems etc - we decided not to let our little Adam suffer and had to terminate the pregnancy. That is in a nutshell.. what we had to go through, oh my god, i keep reliving it over and over in my head and i feel utter sadness. Taking that tablet to stop my baby growing was... Oh god ... the hardest thing in the world. My little baby, I had only heard his little heart beating a few days before that dreaded 5 month scan when we were given the news. The physical characteristics were so apparent there was no question... but god did we hope. Oh god we hoped, we prayed. All those nights in front of the fire in the heart of winter, my husband and i clutching each other and crying our hearts out for son.
He was born on Nov 12th, 3pm. No heart beating, no cries. No eyes opening. I havent stopped crying ever since.
My husband is devastated. It has hit him so hard, we end up arguing a lot. He is angry, frustrated. his name is russell and he is my life. I love him more than life itself and he feels the same about me. So it kills me that i couldnt give him a healthy child. I blame myself a lot.
Because we are so desperate for the pain to stop or at least lessen, we half heartedly DTD but in our minds, our little Adam is still very much alive. And that is what we have to deal with first before we can think of moving on and having another baby.
I am a muslim, and Russ is a christian. We have been through an awful lot to get together and got married (happiest day of my life) in 2007. We have had a lot to deal with since then as well, bullying at work etc. It seemed at last this baby would mean our luck was changing. Sadly, it ended in utter devastation.
Russ and I are concentrating on finding ourselves again. Grieving hasnt stopped even after 5 months. We are both back at work ages ago - my husband went back 1 month later and i stayed off for 4 months, only recently returned. Work has helped a lot.
I guess i am on here to have you all pray for me. I guess in a way im appealing for prayers! I have lost faith in God you see. I cant forgive him. Not yet. Please pray we will get through this together and are blessed with another child soon enough.
God bless to you all who have suffered a similar fate and i pray you all find happiness soon.
HUGS,
Shamima xxx
First time on here. dont know why i am on here really... Our little boy had Edwards Syndrome - a chromosomal disorder where the life expectancy is very very low not to mention heart defects, brain problems etc - we decided not to let our little Adam suffer and had to terminate the pregnancy. That is in a nutshell.. what we had to go through, oh my god, i keep reliving it over and over in my head and i feel utter sadness. Taking that tablet to stop my baby growing was... Oh god ... the hardest thing in the world. My little baby, I had only heard his little heart beating a few days before that dreaded 5 month scan when we were given the news. The physical characteristics were so apparent there was no question... but god did we hope. Oh god we hoped, we prayed. All those nights in front of the fire in the heart of winter, my husband and i clutching each other and crying our hearts out for son.
He was born on Nov 12th, 3pm. No heart beating, no cries. No eyes opening. I havent stopped crying ever since.
My husband is devastated. It has hit him so hard, we end up arguing a lot. He is angry, frustrated. his name is russell and he is my life. I love him more than life itself and he feels the same about me. So it kills me that i couldnt give him a healthy child. I blame myself a lot.
Because we are so desperate for the pain to stop or at least lessen, we half heartedly DTD but in our minds, our little Adam is still very much alive. And that is what we have to deal with first before we can think of moving on and having another baby.
I am a muslim, and Russ is a christian. We have been through an awful lot to get together and got married (happiest day of my life) in 2007. We have had a lot to deal with since then as well, bullying at work etc. It seemed at last this baby would mean our luck was changing. Sadly, it ended in utter devastation.
Russ and I are concentrating on finding ourselves again. Grieving hasnt stopped even after 5 months. We are both back at work ages ago - my husband went back 1 month later and i stayed off for 4 months, only recently returned. Work has helped a lot.
I guess i am on here to have you all pray for me. I guess in a way im appealing for prayers! I have lost faith in God you see. I cant forgive him. Not yet. Please pray we will get through this together and are blessed with another child soon enough.
God bless to you all who have suffered a similar fate and i pray you all find happiness soon.
HUGS,
Shamima xxx