Spinsmadly
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I had an appointment with my midwife last Thursday and I was a little worried I was measuring small, I had lots of anxiety this pregnancy but every time we did u/s or checked hb all looked well. I had bleeding at 10 weeks or so but ultrasound never saw a reason for it.
I was incredibly sick this pregnancy with hypermeisis from 5 weeks to when we lost her. I had 2 other kids to care for and it was impossible.
Anyway at my appointment at 19-20 weeks we didn't get a heartbeat. so we went to the ultrasound and the minute she put the machine on and i saw no movement i knew she was gone. they measured her at about 17 weeks. I had just had an ultrasound at 15 and all was perfect and i heard the heartbeat about a couple days before we lost her I guess. I chose to take the meds at home with the assistance of my midwife and very supportive friends on saturday. they stayed with me all day and night until she came and I held her as did my husband, she was tiny and perfect. i had knit her some things as did my friends and we buried in a nearby cemetery a couple days later with all her things and a picture of our family.
I can't stop blaming myself, she looked so perfect, I keep thinking it must have been something I did or didn't do. I keep wondering what I could have done differently or should have.
I have two other kids, 3 and 1, boys, this was going to be my little girl but now I feel so guilty that I even cared if it was a girl/boy, I just want my baby back and healthy and alive.
I feel like I've been miserable forever and it's only been a few days and it feels like it will never get better. I am tired of being miserable every time someone asks me how I am doing and I feel like they are going to get tired of it. I was so sick during my pregnancy that I couldn't do much with my kids and now that i am not sick anymore I feel like I should want to spend more time with them but the awful part is , I really don't. I want to just be alone.
Still the boys are distracting during the day and so is whatever else I can fill the day with, chatting with people online, tv, etc. But once its night time and it's quiet and everyone is sleeping like nothing happened, I just stay awake and cry and think. As if I can wish her back into existence by crying.
I was incredibly sick this pregnancy with hypermeisis from 5 weeks to when we lost her. I had 2 other kids to care for and it was impossible.
Anyway at my appointment at 19-20 weeks we didn't get a heartbeat. so we went to the ultrasound and the minute she put the machine on and i saw no movement i knew she was gone. they measured her at about 17 weeks. I had just had an ultrasound at 15 and all was perfect and i heard the heartbeat about a couple days before we lost her I guess. I chose to take the meds at home with the assistance of my midwife and very supportive friends on saturday. they stayed with me all day and night until she came and I held her as did my husband, she was tiny and perfect. i had knit her some things as did my friends and we buried in a nearby cemetery a couple days later with all her things and a picture of our family.
I can't stop blaming myself, she looked so perfect, I keep thinking it must have been something I did or didn't do. I keep wondering what I could have done differently or should have.
I have two other kids, 3 and 1, boys, this was going to be my little girl but now I feel so guilty that I even cared if it was a girl/boy, I just want my baby back and healthy and alive.
I feel like I've been miserable forever and it's only been a few days and it feels like it will never get better. I am tired of being miserable every time someone asks me how I am doing and I feel like they are going to get tired of it. I was so sick during my pregnancy that I couldn't do much with my kids and now that i am not sick anymore I feel like I should want to spend more time with them but the awful part is , I really don't. I want to just be alone.
Still the boys are distracting during the day and so is whatever else I can fill the day with, chatting with people online, tv, etc. But once its night time and it's quiet and everyone is sleeping like nothing happened, I just stay awake and cry and think. As if I can wish her back into existence by crying.