Oh darling, it was not ur fault.....pls stop blaming urself. I know that baby was healthy and u decided to have the amnio, but they gave u a 1 in 15 chance of downs. You were both amazing parents to even go through amnio......u wanted to know so that u could educate and prepare urself for baby just in case he/she did have downs.....
If u knew that baby was healthy, u woulda never consedered amnio.
My story is a little different from urs, but when u read, u will see that I was truly at fault for the loss of my baby (now I am bawling).
That day I was going to doc and my husband honked the horn.....there were 42 stairs to get downstairs to the car. I was in a hurry to get to the doc and guess what? I was wearing my ugz boots and I slipped. To make a long story short, that night my water broke and blodd started pumping out of me as if I had been stabbed. E veryone kept telling me that maybe it was meant to happen and that maybe the baby had to go to be an angle becuz she would be born with downs, or some chromosomal defect......
Well, we had the baby tested and guess what? Baby was as healthy as could be. We then had the remains cremated.....
What kills me even more is that becuz we knew that the stairs were almost deadly for a pregnant woman, we were going to be moving in two weeks time. I was almost five months pregnant when this happened.
Sweetie, u cannot blame urself for this.....u were both amazing parents to be that u cared enough to even ask for amnio. How were u to know? It is just nasty things that happen in nature that steal our hearts and break us up like this....but i will tell u one thing.....it has been exactly one year now since my loss.....it will never leave ur heart, but it does get better over time.....trust me.
ps: i hate saying the words: 'i am sorry for ur loss' cuz it does nothing for the person, but what i will say is that i will pray for u tonight , I pray that God will give u strenghth and courage and will and power to wake up everyday and face the world.
Kisses,
Parisa
Parisa