Lost

[USMC Wifey]

I lost my little sea monkey last night at 5 weeks 6days... I am sooo sad, I feel like I could have done something different...

What has everyone else done to start feeling better??? Please help.

 

[eclipse_xo]

So sorry for your loss hun, and really there was probably nothing you could of done. Everything happens for a reason, it just wasnt meant to be. Keep positive, you can always try again. Just take some time to relax, mourn and talk about it with close friends and family. I got a puppy a few months after i had my first mmc.. it took away that need i had to nurture. Find something that takes your mind off of things, a hobby perhaps?

 

[korrinalex]

I am so sorry. I am afraid it just takes time, especially as your hormones are ruling everything at the moment. Personally I curled up on the sofa with a big comfy jumper and a blanket and took it very easy for a couple of weeks, not knowing what to do or think, so doing nothing. Make sure you talk it over as often as you want to with a close friend or sister as this helps to get it straight in your mind. The worst thing I did to myself was put pressure on myself to conceive as soon as possible to take away the loss. I only conceived again when I stopped doing this. Give yourself time.
I too wished for a long time that I had done things differently, but if the baby was meant to be, it would withstand just about anything. Unfortunately something just wasn't right - most often chromosomes. Nurture yourself and take your time to heal emotionally. It will get better.

 

[Lucina]

It just takes time and giving yourself tons of ttc. There was nothing you could have done differently and sadly its just a cruel trick of nature. Take it easy for the next week or so and give your body and mind time to heal. Sending you lots of

 

[Peril]

Aww hun i am so sorry. After my losses I curl up on the sofa in warm comfy clothes, with a blanket/duvet and do what i feel like doing. Sometimes that is just sobbing, other times just watching mind numbing tedious programmes to distract myself.

Don't put pressure on your self to get back to 'normal', that doesn't help, you just end up crashing a little later, and its often worse. Also as has been said don't put pressure on yourself to try and conceive again, i found when i was pressuring myself it didn't happen, as soon as i stopped trying it happened.

Just take your time and do what makes you feel better...

xx

 

[hb1]

so sorry for your loss - as the other ladies say - accept that there is nothing you could have done to stop this happening and take time to heal. Get lots of support from those close to you.

take care

hx

 

[EJW147]

Usmc wifey, I am going through the same exact thing right now. I lost my little bean 2 days ago at only 5 weeks 5 days. Its really hard I was so excited to get pregnant with my first, now I'm just trying to keep my head up. I go see my doctor tomorrow and of course I have a million questions. If you wanna talk more about it, message me. I hope its true what they say, time will make it better and we'll go on to be moms to healthy babies!

 

[Pretty Please]

Oh no honey I'm soooo sorry you loss of your sea monkey. There was nothing you could of done to change it - its soooooo rubbish.

For me (it sounds terrible) drank loads of alcohol and then cried buckets loads.

Its only time honey and talking to your friends / OH / BnB hopefully will make you feel better.

Big hug to you - we are all here for you xxxx

 

[Lucia]

I am so sorry. It can be very hard trying to heal from a mc, but you will. Things do get better with time. When I lost my little ones - I planned vacations so I had something to look forward to. It really did help me get through the hard times knowing that my hubby and I would be in paradise within a month or two.

 

[Waiting2bMommy]

so sorry for you loss hun