Lowest point of my life!!!!!

[Glitter_Berrie]

Thanks guys for your help, I'm patient I'll wait for that right time but as you know from my very first post up there I'm going through a very brutal and emotional time right now I've got my entire family knocking me down and the choice of words are very bad ughh why do others care about your own personal life?

 

[No Doubt]

I'm sorry about everything you are going through glitter berrie. I know it's not fair and all the comments don't make it any easier. I have family like that and unfortunately, I'm not speaking with them...their choice, not mine, but things finally hit the fan one night and that's where it ended. And honestly, it's been one of the best things for me...huge stress reliever with no drama. I say that to answer your question. People care so much about your personal life becuase there life sucks. Sorry but it's true. My mom's life sucks and she tried to take out her anger and frustration on me to make herself feel better...not having it. Have you tried talking to the people that say these things to you? That may be...scratch that, it will be hard, but I think you feel better about it. It will clear the air and let them know how you really feel about their comments. Hopefully your family will be a bit more open to the conversation and it won't end up the way mine did. Another option is just to completely stop talking to them about it. Eventually they will start asking how things are going and you can just tell them you'd prefer to not talk about it. They will really want to know at that point and ask if there is something wrong...this is a great invitation to tell them why you have been avoiding the convo with them.

As for the hubby he really should do the SA. I know he doesn't want to, but things can change. There are plenty of people who get pregnant or have kids and then can't anymore for whatever reason. If he's uncomfortable with going in he can always do it at home and just rush the sample up to clinic or wherever he would go. Did he have any surgeries or anything like a vasectomy and then have it reversed? Sometimes that can have an affect.

Other suggestions that may help... Have you tried Preseed, a fertility friendly lubricant? People have had a lot of success with that. Is your multivitamin a prenatal? If not maybe try one of those? Do you temp or use opks, or something else to find out when you are supposed to O? I'd assume you are, just asking.

Good luck hun, and if you need to talk some more we're here!

 

[Armywife84]

Do you have insurance to cover fertility testing?

You've had an ultrasound to check for PCOS, have you had blood tests done as well? I would also recommend getting a lap and dye to check for endometriosis and if your tubes are open. Even though DH has 5 children, he still has to have a SA done.

Lastly, if you can't afford IUIs, IVF..then you can start saving every penny towards it. We can't afford IVF either, that's what we're going to have to do. Or hope it miraculously happens in the next few years.

 

[kassiaethne]

sorry for the short answer before, I had been on my Ipad in bed but hadn't been able to type out what I wanted, just didn't want to leave you with nothing. I'd probably keep up with the soft cup, its only been 3 months and well, it can't hurt for the extra boost of help. also mixed with that jell the lady above a few posts maybe a good combo? and as to your family asking about people who care about whats happening in your life. Of course we are able to care because most of us have gone through or are going through the same thing. so its easier for us to understand the despair that we all can be prone to. especially when you see everyone around you getting pregnant.

When I was first pregnant, my husbands sister announced she was pregnant at the same time. and then I lost my baby, and she still is pregnant. so every time she gives new or says something. I am all oh my babies would be there. Why does she get to keep hers and I don't? and then I feel horrible for that thought, and am glad she is pregnant cuz shes in her late 30s. But still, deep down inside me I'm jealous. And of course a month ago a not so friend friend announced she was accidentally pregnant and was so scared and wasn't going to stop smoking till the second trimester (because apparently to her nothing effects the baby this early) and then I'm all WTF HOW CAN SHE HAVE A BABY AND NOT LOSE IT AND I LOST MINE AND CANT GET PREGNANT AGAIN. HOW IS THIS FAIR.

then all the phone calls and people slip in, pregnant yet? any happy news? awe don't think about it and then it will happen....sure don't think about something that you're dieing to have....super easy.

and people who aren't in the situation, or have never been. can't be very consoling. and don't understand what you are truly going through. I've had people say maybe you just aren't meant to be a mother, HOW IS THAT HELPFUL. I dunno but in their mind they are trying to be.

So always feel free to talk and vent in here, because you'll never find a better group of like minded understanding people. who can at least sympathize and be a shoulder that truly understands. and if you ever need someone to vent at we can always swap horror stories and I'll always listen.

 

[Glitter_Berrie]

Thanks for your posts everyone, and no I do not have insurance and I don't have the money for a lap and dye (see the first post).......ughh I'm just going to cut my family out of my life for now this is ridiculous. I had blood tests done before and normal, no pcos thank god for that, what kind of parents would tell their child to marry someone else to have kids ASAP? (read first post)
Im sorry but I just have to vent thanks for all your help and advices

 

[No Doubt]

Vent away hun... Maybe you don't need to cut your family out completely...maybe just when it comes to ttc. I hope that all gets better for you hun, but I know where you are coming from. Do what you feel is best for you and your family.

 

[Armywife84]

I've read your first post.

You or your DH don't have a job that offers health insurance? But how did you get the blood tests and ultrasound scan covered? It seems as if you've had some fertility testing. IDK why they wouldn't thoroughly test you. A lap and dye would be covered if you had insurance.

My first step would be to obtain a job that offers semi decent health insurance then go from there. Some insurances will cover a certain amount for IUIs, IVF, and even adoption.

No need to apologize for your vent, we all need to. In fact, there's a specific thread on here just for that.

 

[Glitter_Berrie]

Thanks again guys I love the support and help here I felt so down yesterday to the point where it was creepy, I mean imagine your parents telling you to marry someone else just to have kids no thanks I'm not ditching my husband over that and now they want to cut me off telling me he isn't worthy omg just because of not having kids yet, oh btw my husband is self employed so no health insurance there, im not working at the moment and looking for a job, I was lucky enough not to be charged for my ultrasound the dr told me "oh hunny don't worry about it" that was so kind of her, I didn't see that coming it was unexpected.

I just started royal jelly couple weeks ago, I'm going to look into other supplements perhaps go back to Using soft cups, I'm not obsessing over ttc but I'll do what it takes to boost my fertility and Dh as well for the time being. I'm sorry for the long and sad venting here but I'm starting to feel better you guys are awesome