Maintaining "baby-led" approach with three under two

[Fizzyfefe]

How the heck am I going to do it?

With Hunter, I never did any sort of schedule or training. I took his cues for everything. He ate when hungry, slept when tired, was held for naps, etc. I don't really label myself, but I feel like my parenting style may be sort of a combination of attachment, RIE, and whatever feels right in the moment.

With the twins coming, literally everybody tells me I'm going to need a strict feeding and sleeping schedule for them. Otherwise, I won't get any sleep or breaks or have time for Hunter. I just don't see how to maintain the sort of lifestyle to which Hunter is accustomed with a rigid schedule like that. I mean, I don't plan my life on a schedule, so how can I expect my childrens' lives to be scheduled?

What are your opinions? I just don't know what to think and am feeling a little overwhelmed with it all.

 

[donnarobinson]

Sorry in no help I have three aged 4 2 and 5 months but I love routine and can't fiction properly if it's messed up im sure ull manage just fine tho Hun go with the flow whatever suits u best will be just fine X

 

[lau86]

I don't think it's that helpful for people to be telling you what you're going to need? Especially before your babies are born! I agree with Donna whatever works for you will be best

 

[Fizzyfefe]

Thanks, ladies. And I agree - comments from others are usually unwanted/unwarranted/unhelpful, despite the fact that they think they're right.

I really hope it all works out once they're here for real... I'm scared and trying not to get worked up about it.

 

[DaisyDreamer]

It will be challenging but you will find a groove. Everyone in the family is going to adjust, esp Hunter (aside from you of course ) All I can suggest is try to make one-on-one time with H after the twins are born so help ease with the adjustment. And snuggles too.

Everything else will fall into place, babies are unpredictable!

 

[donnarobinson]

I was terrified about baby number three , he was a very happy surprise but I couldn't imagine having three children esp as number two was hard work but he came and he is a pure joy he is the most happiest baby ino! He just slotted in I honestly couldn't imagine life without him sure it gets hard sometimes but it does with 1,2 etc you will be just fine
Take each day as it comes don't expect to much and enjoy every second X

 

[LoveCakes]

It's so hard to predict as you could have 'easy' abides or not so easy ones. Personally I'd just see how it goes and if your current style isn't working try a change

Also I know there's a twin part of the site. I've never posted in it but they may be able to help with questions about routine and Twins