Making me choose between them

[Dream.dream]

So I just found out I'm having # 2 , I was split up with the baby's dad but since I'm pregnant we are talking again and trying to see if we can maybe work it out

But my family is dead set against it , they hate him and think I should have an abortion and move on so I don't have to have him in my life . They are being really forceful and are making me feel really down. They keep telling me how disappointed they are and how they think I'm throwing away the potential I have .they also don't have a nice thing to say about the dad and its making it so hard

I feel like they are making me make a choice between them and the baby and its dad , I feel like all I want to do is cry .

 

[sammiexsue]

im sorry ur going through this.. I read and had to say something.

 

[Dream.dream]

Thanks it's hard I don't want to be a single to 2 if I don't have to , but at the same time I need my family as well

 

[sammiexsue]

i feel u completely...

 

[Kate&Lucas]

That's not on. Ultimately it's your decision and they need to trust you to do what's right by yourself and your children.
I can see why family might want to intervene, for example in the case of domestic abuse etc (I don't know your history). However they need to support you because whatever your decision, it's not worth them losing you and your children. If you can give him a second chance they certainly can too.

 

[ravenmel]

I was in a similar boat when I got pregnant with my 2. The best advice I can give you is forget about everyone else for a moment and really think about this baby. Don't think about him, the family etc just how you feel about the baby and being pregnant etc.
Don't think about being single with 2 and how oh so bad it will be, trust me there was worst things that can happen to you.

I thought about how I would cope alone and how it would be if we worked things out and also how I'd feel if I didn't continue with the pregnancy, how would that effect me and my future.

For me, I wanted the baby and was happy about my lo having a siblings I just wasn't happy about the situation I'd be bringing baby in to but that was down to myself and my ex.

Your family love you but at the end of the day they need to stay out of it, it's your life they can't live it for you. I wouldn't talk to them anymore about situation if they are not their to listen to your concerns but just offer negative advice, don't get them control over your life. You are the one that has to live with or without OH as must as they can advice you they're not you. With the ex it may or may not workout only time will reveal the answer to that.