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[hopefulmama]

Wiggler, wild, and lucky... I am horrified 100x more than before about the child birth thing. OMFG, i got tears in my eyes reading it all. Since before I was pregnant my husband and I always thought doing a planned c-section was the best choice, my ideas changed a bit, but now i don't know about all this inside vaginal tearing and 30-50 stitches.. that sort of put the nail in the coffin for real birth. I know that hurts as well but i am still welling up thinking of your posts in my head.

 

[lisaf]

hey, one of my friends had a super fast labor/delivery and had to be cut to get the baby out... the other had a super long labor/delivery and had NO tearing or cutting at all!
So its not a guarantee!
The recovery from a c-section is SO much worse than the tearing issue! You can't even lift many things for a while after, can't do most of the things like walking soon after delivery that speed along recovery.
There are techniques to stretch things down there when you are close to going into labor and during the labor process that can diminish/minimalize tearing.

I'm totally terrified of it myself, but I'm much more scared of being cut open for a c-section

 

[mummy3]

wow lots of pages to catch up with!

My first I had to have a forceps and episiotomy, it was painful and it did get infected, but I would do it 3 time over rather than have another c-section. I hated every second of being cut open, it felt weird and they did something wrong with the spinal so I felt I couldnt breathe then after being home a week I had to spend a week back in hospital as it got infected inside, like an absess.

My second birth was completely natural with no tearing/stitches/grazing, I actually did'nt find it painful to give birth to him and was up and about 15mins after delivery. Extra bonus,it didnt even hurt to pee with him

If you do get problems peeing the peri bottle is great, just squirt it (or get OH to squirt it) when you pee and it makes a big difference. here they send you home with a bottle lol.

Brandi, let us know how you get on!

 

[lisaf]

Thanks for sharing such varied experiences mummy3! Glad to know the hospitals here will give you the bottle! I can't believe the stuff they make you bring yourself in the UK! (though when they charge you $8 for an aspirin in the hospital, I guess that explains it, lol)

 

[Wiggler]

Hopeful, recovery for a c-section is soooo much worse, and they keep you in hospital for days (I hate hospitals) I was home about 8 hours after giving birth, and hope to be home sooner this time if i don't have the baby in the middle of the night.

Lisa - I am deffo doing perineal massage this time, also going to be drinking Raspberry Leaf Tea from 32 or 34 weeks

I also heard you can get special maternity pads that you put in the freezer before you wear them and the cold soothes the area - they sound amazing

...$8 for an aspirin!!!!! OMG! you can buy a pack of aspirin here for about 20p!

Does anyone have any wonderful plans for today. I might cook today, the weather is really dropping now and I think OH would love a nice hot lunch

xxxxxx

 

[wild2011]

hopeful, honestly its an amazing experience, and literally minutes after you forget it, ive not had a c section, but my friends/mother has and i can 100% say the recovery is sooo much worse. the only time id consider a section or ask for one is if i were expecting multiples. i was home 8 hours after first, 2 hours after second, and 3rd was born at home, up in the shower within 10 minutes of each labour, and walking the length of the ward with screaming baby anxious to go home to get some sleep.

 

[Wiggler]

Grrr, My darling son decided while I was in the kitchen making a drink that it would be fun to grab one of mummy's DVD's and snap it in half! I hadnt even watched it yet!!

But on the plus side, I now have an excuse to go to HMV and buy some new ones

 

[wild2011]

hahaha kids eh! ive done nothign again yet, its making me feel depressed that ive not got enough go in me to do my daily jobs. i have a friend visiting today who's 4 weeks fuirther along than me, she eats loads like every 2 hours, and i cant wait to tell her she needs to make her own grub, i really cant face the kitchen. boooo x

 

[Wiggler]

aww hun! *flying pounce hugs* I really hope you feel better soon x

 

[cheree89]

I am so sorry for all of you suffering with MS. I haven't had a bit. If it makes you feel better, I have a horrid cold - my sinuses are killing me (and I hardly ever get sick - weird).

I definitely want a vaginal birth and no cutting. I heard they don't do episiotomies as much anymore and that healing from tearing is actually easier? Not sure if it is true or not - just something I heard on the rumor mill.

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Yup, I agree with the labour thing. Been through it twice already, and while it's the worst thing in the world while it's happening, you don't remember it at all once you hold your baby. That's why women do it again and again.

I did Intelligender today. Got my results. I keep saying I'll find out for sure in 26 weeks (I'm a lemon today), but the truth is, I'll find out in 6 and just not tell anyone. Well, I'll tell you ladies, assuming my family doesn't track me down and try and find out the sex.

Without further adieu, Intelligender has predicted....

 

[wild2011]

I am so sorry for all of you suffering with MS. I haven't had a bit. If it makes you feel better, I have a horrid cold - my sinuses are killing me (and I hardly ever get sick - weird).

I definitely want a vaginal birth and no cutting. I heard they don't do episiotomies as much anymore and that healing from tearing is actually easier? Not sure if it is true or not - just something I heard on the rumor mill.

i healed just fine from tearing, a few days i was right as rain and apart form a slight sting when visiting the toilet, u'd never have known.

sorry to hear about the horid cold.

i have hyperemesis , if i could suffer with average ms i would lol.

 

[wild2011]

Yup, I agree with the labour thing. Been through it twice already, and while it's the worst thing in the world while it's happening, you don't remember it at all once you hold your baby. That's why women do it again and again.

I did Intelligender today. Got my results. I keep saying I'll find out for sure in 26 weeks (I'm a lemon today), but the truth is, I'll find out in 6 and just not tell anyone. Well, I'll tell you ladies, assuming my family doesn't track me down and try and find out the sex.

Without further adieu, Intelligender has predicted....

 

[cheree89]

Yup, I agree with the labour thing. Been through it twice already, and while it's the worst thing in the world while it's happening, you don't remember it at all once you hold your baby. That's why women do it again and again.

I did Intelligender today. Got my results. I keep saying I'll find out for sure in 26 weeks (I'm a lemon today), but the truth is, I'll find out in 6 and just not tell anyone. Well, I'll tell you ladies, assuming my family doesn't track me down and try and find out the sex.

Without further adieu, Intelligender has predicted....

cool! I hope Intelligender is right for you! I am hoping for a girl too, but I have a feeling I am having a boy. OH is convinced baby is a girl though. I would be happy to be wrong!


Wild - yes, I feel really lucky to have no MS. I just feel so bad for you all. The cold feels better now that I am sitting up. I may have to try to sleep in the recliner tonight. With regard to the tearing, I think the faster/easier healing is one reason they aren't doing episiotomies as much anymore. I hate to say it, but perhaps we are sort of made to tear and heal?

 

[wild2011]

they say mothers instinct tends to be right, im kind of hoping not in my case as i have been thinking i have twins lol , i seriously think one more is enough for me DD

 

[cheree89]

I had a feeling I was having twins too! However, I had a dating scan already and just one baby! I guess that bodes well for my intuition being wrong (maybe I AM having a girl?).

 

[wild2011]

possibly hun, what made you think u were having twins? for me this is my 4th and im showing quicker, which i know u do with each pregnancy but i never have to this level, the sickness is hightend, we have 3 sets of fracternals on my mothers side too and my mw's first words were lets check how many were dealing with first lol. so im blaiming her for putting it in my head. i never had this feeling with any of my lo's and the more i thought about it the more im praying i only have 1 bundle of joy lol x

 

[wild2011]

as for the girl bit, i had severe severe sickness with all my girls

 

[cheree89]

It was just a feeling I had really. I am not showing yet (just bloat), but I do have a retroverted uterus, so that may be why. I was/am having quite a bit of cramping. I am older and I know twins are more likely when you are an older mom. My OH's aunt just had twins and she was only a year older than me when she became pregnant with the twins. She actually had triplets to start, but one didn't make it (no fertility meds).

I knew there was a chance I wouldn't have MS, because my mom never did (regardless of the sex of the baby).

 

[wild2011]

yeah everyone varies, as with me being sick this time im still hopeful it could be either gender, my mum had sickness with both too.

yes they say older mums, and thos who have had several babies are higher risk of having multiples