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aww lucky i hope you feel better!!! sorry you're feeling so emo today!!

So my husband has taken it upon himself to make the decision that we will be having a live in nanny and she will move in a few weeks before me giving birth to get comfortable with us and the house. As i am very appreciative to be fortunate enough to have this option, i am a little pissed he's gone and made the decision on his own and is using the daughter of the nanny he grew up with. So, she doesn't speak english well, and as it will be convenient at times to have someone around who's been doing this awhile to help me and when we want to go out or travel etc, i just feel like my opinion wasn't taken into consideration and sort of stepped over.
 
Speaking of done with work, my husband just found out yesterday that he and 200 other people are losing their jobs the same week I am due. This completely complicates our separation/divorce process because now we're both considering giving the marriage another chance. Guess we'll see what happens.
 
Went shopping today to find some maternity clothes and only came back with a t shirt. New look hardly had anything and dorothy perkins was so expensive!!!!

No idea where to look now
 
inge- im sorry you're having to deal with all that extra stress on top of already feeling stressed with pregnancy.
 
brandi- so sorry to hear that, i know that must be a very tough decision/situation.
 
Ahhh Inge hunni!! Why dont you write them a letter, ask them to send an inspector round. Or give them a ring yourself... dont wait for a man to do a job we could do in half the time ;)
 
Lucky- I know they will take notice but its convincing the oh. he thinks because they said theres nothing they can do to help means just that. Me and my mum are going to the citizens advice centre tomorow to have a chat about housing so hoping to get soem nifo for him that will persuade him to get a move on!
Brandi - my oh has to move to a new store in March and he will lose about £400 a month as he wont get his expenses paid (travel and things) so with my job cutting hours and him losing money its not looking good.
hope it works out for the best for you :hugs:
 
haha New I'm soooo jealous!! I'm gonna try too knock off a day a week but I think I'll run out of vacation by February.
 
Oh Hopeful hun, Im really sorry. Im sure he just thinks he is doing the right thing by you and the baby, but its not nice to be left out of the loop. This is your baby too!! xxx

Brandi, nightmare!! Jobs are so insecure lately, I hope it all works out hun xxx
 
new- ya i just can't believe i wasn't asked, if he wanted to go the nanny route i'd rather pick the person and not be told.Especially prefer someone who speaks english well
 
hopeful- He should have gotten your opinion first. I would have been mad if my husband made a decision regarding our child's care without me. At least you will hopefully get sleep in when the baby comes.

Brandi- Hope everything works out for the best.
 
I get just over 7 weeks annual leave and I dont think I have used any yet, hmm maybe a day or 2 I dont remember lol I'll have 2 weeks at Christmas, and 1 week in the Feb school holidays then I got another 4 weeks to have bewteen now and maternity leave in March wooppeeee lol If I dont get too fed up with work I hope to take them end of Feb beginning of March then let the maternty leave follow straight after, but dont think my work will go for that lol
 
He's been there for 11 years. When I graduate school, my starting salary would be the same (within $2000) as his finishing salary. We are considering switching household roles until the kids are in school, in which case he'd start looking for something new. The only issue is, there's the baby, thus, conditions under which this would happen, and that's the barrier. My condition is that we attend long-term counselling to overcome our resentment and betrayal felt by the other so we don't continue the marriage where we left off, but at a better place, but his is that I give the baby up for adoption, which isn't something I have considered for a long while, and don't feel as if I could consider at this point of the pregnancy.

I know that whatever decision is made, it will be the right one...or so I hope. I just don't want to see him struggle financially. There's no way he'll find a job that pays him what he's paying now. I want to help in any way I can.
 
Yes, a nanny is a HUGE thing its permanent care for your baby and you really should have been in on the decision making! I understand your concerns about the language too. This baby will be billingual, but I'll expect any care provider to be fluent in both languages, especially as English is my only language, its important the baby understands both well.
 
Aww seems like everyone is having a rough time at the moment ((big hugs))

I'm not making dinner tonight now, OH is, the last thing I fancy doing right now is standing in a kitchen rushing round.

One week and one day until me and OH have been together 3 years, and we are skint so can't even get him a card. I'm going to make him a nice one though and on the day suprise him with lots of home baked goodies!
 
so ive missed 4 pages, lol i posted started to reply again and then my doppler arrived, and i got all excited.so ive been playing with it :))
 
Well i speak, english, french, and italian fluently, and pretty decent spanish, but my husbands 1st language is spanish, but speaks english fluently and grew up going to international english schools. I just don't like the idea of having a nanny who will only speak spanish to the baby, since children are much more adaptive to learning other languages and don't want it to be speaking more spanish than english at first. Just really annoys me.
 
Wiggler said:
Aww seems like everyone is having a rough time at the moment ((big hugs))

I'm not making dinner tonight now, OH is, the last thing I fancy doing right now is standing in a kitchen rushing round.

One week and one day until me and OH have been together 3 years, and we are skint so can't even get him a card. I'm going to make him a nice one though and on the day suprise him with lots of home baked goodies!
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making the card yourself will feel a mor personal loving touch then a shop bought one. Its like when kids make a card for their mums birthdays or mothers day and the mother is always thrilled with it because its a personal touch iykwim?
 
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