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[new_to_ttc]

Oooooo here is normal practice to see the MW, MWs are lufferly here, and in my experience have a lot more time to explain things than a dotor. Doctors seem very medical and matter of fact, MWs are about the care and feelings and emotions and whats happening etc

 

[Tonnilou]

Good afternoon ladies,

I had my scan today and saw a little blob with a heart rate of 147. Unfortunately the blob has taken residence in my fallopian tube instead of my uterus. It's been a rough day for DH and I after 9 years of ttc and now this. I'll be having surgery tomorrow to remove the tube. I wish you all happy and healthy pregnancies and blessings in the future.

Ohhhhhhhh hunnie I was so so so so very sorry to read this. I know there is not alot to say that will help but I send you and your DH so many hugs and truly hope you get your happy ending soon. Thinking of you in my prayers.

Much love and you know where we are if you need us.

 

[hopefulmama]

Ya I called my DR office and they said to lay low and if it persists to come to office on monday, but it sucks to play this waiting game til then. Especially since in June I had a miscarriage, so that makes me extra paranoid. Dr says to relax and stay stress free but thats hard when you are worried.

 

[lisaf]

Ya I called my DR office and they said to lay low and if it persists to come to office on monday, but it sucks to play this waiting game til then. Especially since in June I had a miscarriage, so that makes me extra paranoid. Dr says to relax and stay stress free but thats hard when you are worried.

Its impossible to avoid the mental stress... but try to keep it from affecting you physically as much as possible. I'd say take a bath... but ... hmm.... a glass of wine.. oh wait..
What are we pregnant ladies allowed to do again?
Meditation? Go out for a nice dinner... go into denial about anything going wrong just to make it through the weekend... Treat yourself to a massage or a pedicure maybe?

 

[luckyme225]

Lisa- I'm using a midwife this time around. I used an OB/GYN last time and it was fine and everything but to them pregnancy is more clinical. My appointment would always start an hour late for a monthly 10 minute appointment. My insurance is going to cover the use of a midwife.

 

[charlotteb24]

Evening (or whatever time it is out there over the pond!)
All this talk about hearty home food is making my hungry! I have a massive toad in the hole cooking and roast potatoes with onion gravy! mmmm...

ttcfurrever- i'm so sorry for your news, thats a real real shame and I wish you the best of luck in the future ttc. your day will come hunny and i'm so so sorry that you couldn't share the journey with us xxx

Forgive my ignorance as I am from the UK, but what is thanksgiving actually all about? is it like Halloween? I know its celebrated around the same time, but i have no idea what its all about! lol!

I'm just so exhausted all the time at the moment, its not even funny! saw the MW for the booking appointment only to find they had booked me in for the wrong appointment and that the MW will ring me again to pay me a home visit to actually do my booking in! arghh!!

Whats everyone up to today? xx

 

[lisaf]

Lol..ok, forgive my elementary-school version here: Thanksgiving is supposed to be a celebration of when the Pilgrims first came to this country and were starving.... the Native Americans welcomed them with a feast. Something like that anyway, who knows what the official version is anymore or what actually happened but this is the Disney version of it. So Thanksgiving is a day of feasting basically and is a time for big family get-togethers. I believe its timing is related to the harvest.
Very different from Halloween which is costumes and candy and scary/spooky stuff.
Halloween is Oct 31st and Thanksgiving is the last Thursday in November.

 

[cheree89]

Hey cheree - I kind of like the idea of a MW too (and am in the US)... how did you find one? Does insurance cover it? How is the care different?

Hey Lisa - I googled to find a midwife.

I think the rules vary from state to state, but my state just recently passed a law that allows birth center births outside of hospitals. The midwife I chose delivers exclusively in hospitals as was the norm in my state (at least until this law was passed). Insurance covers it, since they are a certified medical professional (nurse). The care is different in that they promote a natural approach (natural birth - but medicine is still an option, breast feeding, skin on skin contact, etc.), no waiting like at the doc's office, appointments are generally much longer since they take the time to actually talk to you, etc. Also, the midwife I am using attends most if not all of your labor - instead of just coming in to catch the baby. They also help coordinate pregnancy groups and new mommy groups through their office. The midwives I am going to share an office with a family medicine practice and they work with high risk doctors should something require you to transfer care to a more specialized doc.

In talking to them, I was happy to have all of my questions answered. There was no charge for the consultation. She spent about a half hour with me. I told her my history of MC and the fact that I am of "advanced maternal age (dun, dun, dun)". She was not concerned in the slightest.

 

[lisaf]

thanks cheree - there is a birthing center opening here soon... I'm still trying to make my mind up about it.
Our hospital here is in the dark ages or something, I heard they don't allow midwives and our friends who just delivered there said they don't allow any photographs during the pushing!?!? WTH? What about people who want to film the birth? They just don't allow that? (I don't want any photographs down there, lol.. but I'm just saying.. how can they just not allow it?!)

 

[cheree89]

thanks cheree - there is a birthing center opening here soon... I'm still trying to make my mind up about it.
Our hospital here is in the dark ages or something, I heard they don't allow midwives and our friends who just delivered there said they don't allow any photographs during the pushing!?!? WTH? What about people who want to film the birth? They just don't allow that? (I don't want any photographs down there, lol.. but I'm just saying.. how can they just not allow it?!)

That sounds crazy! I am sure it is a liability thing - they don't want their mistakes on video.

That is strange that hospitals won't allow midwives. There are loads of midwives that deliver at hospitals here. Some hospitals even have their own midwife staff.

I just feel more comfortable with someone who has the same views on labor and post birth being there to deliver my baby. I really want the first person to be interacting with my baby to be me - not nurses rubbing them down, putting stuff in their eyes, etc.

That being said, I would be a little afraid to birth at home or at a birthing center. I have a low platelet count, so I am afraid of bleeding too much. In reality though, having a baby is a totally natural thing and we should all be able to have a healthy baby at home (or even healthier, given the amount of disease in hospitals).

 

[lisaf]

cheree - I have 2 friends who just gave birth in our local hospital, one had a perfectly normal delivery etc but had a horrible experience with the staff (their baby wasn't getting any milk for 2 days despite the lactation consultant coming by and giving them the OK that they were doing everything right... and they had repeated concerns about her urine in her diapers and the infrequency of her wet diapers and that got ignored until she stopped going all together and they finally bothered to pay attention and realized the baby wasn't getting any milk ... and now she has issues with her supply being too low etc). So that story makes me want to run screaming to the birthing center. The other couple ended up with their baby in the NICU and the mom had an infection of some sort ... I don't know what happened and it very likely wasn't the hospital's fault in any way... but that scares me and makes me not want to be outside the hospital when giving birth.
Our hospital did pass a patient's bill of rights about 2 months ago that gives parents the right to immediate skin-to-skin contact instead of medical attention and screening no matter WHAT the circumstances. And a few other rights etc...
We'll have to see if they allow midwives once the birthing center opens since they'll have competition, lol!

 

[lisaf]

Oh... I should add that the not allowing midwives might also be a liability thing, but we have INSANELY strict security at the hospital because we had a baby stolen not too long ago... so that might also be why.

 

[hopefulmama]

Its impossible to avoid the mental stress... but try to keep it from affecting you physically as much as possible. I'd say take a bath... but ... hmm.... a glass of wine.. oh wait..
What are we pregnant ladies allowed to do again?
Meditation? Go out for a nice dinner... go into denial about anything going wrong just to make it through the weekend... Treat yourself to a massage or a pedicure maybe?

Ya I would DIE for a glass of wine right now, but as you said what can pregnant ladies do again? All the fun is taken away, though my Dr did call me in a rx for Ambien to help me sleep because I am not at night and she said Taking half of a 5mg (lowest dose) isn't going to hurt anything, and staying awake is going to be more hurtful via stress etc than getting some good nights of sleep. I used to take ambien because I slept horribly then i quit taking it when I was pregnant in June, so tonight will be my first night in months that I will sleep well.
Also a pedicure is on my checklist for tomorrow, I live in NYC and it hasn't stopped raining here with hurricane like winds since Wed. Thank god tomorrow will be the first day where its 60 degrees, sunny and a great day to go to the park with my dogs and husband. First thing will be mani/pedi before i get roped into other things.

 

[lisaf]

Its impossible to avoid the mental stress... but try to keep it from affecting you physically as much as possible. I'd say take a bath... but ... hmm.... a glass of wine.. oh wait..
What are we pregnant ladies allowed to do again?
Meditation? Go out for a nice dinner... go into denial about anything going wrong just to make it through the weekend... Treat yourself to a massage or a pedicure maybe?

Ya I would DIE for a glass of wine right now, but as you said what can pregnant ladies do again? All the fun is taken away, though my Dr did call me in a rx for Ambien to help me sleep because I am not at night and she said Taking half of a 5mg (lowest dose) isn't going to hurt anything, and staying awake is going to be more hurtful via stress etc than getting some good nights of sleep. I used to take ambien because I slept horribly then i quit taking it when I was pregnant in June, so tonight will be my first night in months that I will sleep well.
Also a pedicure is on my checklist for tomorrow, I live in NYC and it hasn't stopped raining here with hurricane like winds since Wed. Thank god tomorrow will be the first day where its 60 degrees, sunny and a great day to go to the park with my dogs and husband. First thing will be mani/pedi before i get roped into other things.

I'm jealous of your weather... we had record high temps on Monday.. 106 degrees officially so I would love some rain! LMAO!

 

[hopefulmama]

I'm jealous of your weather... we had record high temps on Monday.. 106 degrees officially so I would love some rain! LMAO!

Ya all of my friends in LA have been telling me about it or have been rubbing in my nose how they were dealing with the heat by going and getting margaritas.. just not fair. Good thing you guys haven't had any fires yet like previous septembers/octobers.

 

[lisaf]

I'm jealous of your weather... we had record high temps on Monday.. 106 degrees officially so I would love some rain! LMAO!

Ya all of my friends in LA have been telling me about it or have been rubbing in my nose how they were dealing with the heat by going and getting margaritas.. just not fair. Good thing you guys haven't had any fires yet like previous septembers/octobers.

Oh I know, my inlaws are still rebuilding their house from the November fires 2 years ago.
No margaritas for me! I think your LA friends are crazy.. .maybe more people have airconditioning down there than they do here... NO AC in 100+ degrees? No margarita in the world big enough!

 

[ProudMary83]

Hey ladies . . I've been a little absentee on here lately. I hope you are all doing well. I had to be my Rhogam shot and my flu shot today. One on the left hip, the other on the right shoulder . . I'm a bit sore. I didn't like that Rhogam shot!

 

[lisaf]

How many weeks are you Mary?
I'll need a Rhogam eventually but I don't know when its needed.

 

[ProudMary83]

9 weeks 2 days. Usually you would get the first one at 28 weeks, then one after delivery if the baby has a positive blood type. They wanted me to get one early because I had some spotting during week 8.

 

[lisaf]

gotcha.. yeah I haven't had any spotting yet but my doc did mention if I had any that we'd have to run some blood tests (I think he was assuming I didnt' know my type and my husband's type)