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[stardust22]

24/7...I have a serious phobia about stretchmarks! like you say. weight can be shifted with hard work and diet. I have some stretchies from my teens and a few on my boobs but I have been oiling up twice a day for over a year now.

I am glad I am 35 now.I am a little less worried than say 10 years ago. My bikini days are well and truly over

 

[24/7]

OH is bio-oiling me every evening to try and do anything to help me keep them away!! xx

 

[stardust22]

Aw bless him!! I panic bio oil isnt the best for me. Another friend used just the cocoa butter cream so I use bio oil in the evening and then the other one in the morning and even have a top up mid day if I can. I know it wont help!

I work in a maternity ward and have seen some serious stretchmarks and it still baffles me the way it all works. I.e. one lady had none with her first baby. she gained 4 stone and was huge. she was covered with her second and gained only 2 stone? I think how quick you gain it can make a difference too.

 

[24/7]

I hate the smell of cocoa butter, so thats out for me!! I've lost 4kg so far, so I just hope it goes back on slowly, and not like a balloon blowing up!! xx

 

[stardust22]

I hate the smell of cocoa butter, so thats out for me!! I've lost 4kg so far, so I just hope it goes back on slowly, and not like a balloon blowing up!! xx

I know I am going to EXPLODE! I dont want to but I just know without my spin classes, gym and swimming 5 times a week I am destined to get large. I miss my exercise so much and its only been 7 weeks. I am too scared to do anything because of my history

 

[24/7]

I hate the smell of cocoa butter, so thats out for me!! I've lost 4kg so far, so I just hope it goes back on slowly, and not like a balloon blowing up!! xx

I know I am going to EXPLODE! I dont want to but I just know without my spin classes, gym and swimming 5 times a week I am destined to get large. I miss my exercise so much and its only been 7 weeks. I am too scared to do anything because of my history

Exactly!! Before pregnancy my job was walking, all day every day, and now it is just sitting, and I hate it!! I want to be busy, it makes me feel sluggish!!

In your job, do many people not get stretchmarks? xx

 

[Soph22]

Hi all-
I'm at home today on doc's orders due to spotting this morning. Will call the office when it opens for an ultrasound/scan. Trying to not be terrified, but...
I'm having trouble missing so much work. I missed 2 days last week due to sinus infection and now this! I guess I should just hope it's only today I have to stay off of my feet.

Hope everyone else is having a better day.

and I hear you on the stretchmarks! I've always been able to lose weight when I really work at it, but I don't want the stretchmarks as a reminder of how big I was! definitely worried about boob deflation as well.
oh, there's so much to worry about!

 

[luckyme225]

I know how you ladies feel, I'm afraid of gaining weight and my stretch marks coming back, or getting more. I had the perfect bikini body this summer and I'm already starting to fill out. I can barely squeeze into my size 4 shorts. I wish I could work out or something but with my hematoma hanging around my uterus, I can't. Word to the wise, no amount of bio-oil or cocoa butter will help prevent stretch marks that much. If your going to get them, your going to get them. I remember all of us girls on baby and bump trying everything my first time around and most of us ended up with stretch marks. I do think they help with the stretching/itching you get from your growing stomach though. The good news is that they will eventually fade.

 

[luckyme225]

soph- put your feet up and drink lots of water I had spotting and baby is OK. I know what you mean about missing work. I think my work is going to hate me by the time I leave.

 

[hopefulmama]

YA i lube my self up on bio oil 2x a day and use stri-vectin and la mer on my ass, thighs and stomach.
How many of you are planning on breast feeding? Thats my biggest hope for weight loss, all of my friends who have had babies lost like 3/4 of the weight from breast feeding and sticking to pilates and yoga through out pregnancy and going back to it when they could after giving birth.

Have I mentioned, I am terrified of giving birth? That's the scariest thing to me. My dr told me that since i do a lot of yoga/pilates that my core is strong and i have good breathing techniques so that will help a lot. Whatever helps i am all for.

 

[lisaf]

The weight fears are totally natural... and they're only a bad thing if the fears keep you from gaining the weight the baby needs. Maybe look up in a pregnancy book the breakdown of all the weight gain. One of the early things that causes weight gain is blood volume since our volume starts to go up. It may also be bloat/constipation at this stage so don't worry that it will be there forever.
If you're slim now and good with your exercise and stay in shape through your pregnancy then you will have an easier birth and recovery and find it easier to get back into shape (a few weeks off here and there for medical reasons are not going to make you totally out of shape).

As for weight loss with breastfeeding, my mom breastfed all 3 of us kids, and she said I was the only one she lost weight with... that I was just a hungrier baby. You have to keep your calories and fluid intake up while breastfeeding or else you may dry up your supply and should probably be especially careful about that in the first few weeks as the milk supply gets established. Find a lactation consultant who can help!

I do have to laugh that I'm thrilled to finally have an excuse for my stretchmarks... my boobs grew so fast in high school that they got covered in them... I finally have a reason! I have a few just from being fat too that I'll be happy to claim were caused by this baby
They do have that new Mederma cream that is supposed to diminish the signs of stretch marks (its 'clinically proven' according to the commercials ) so at least if you get them, that may help speed it along.

I do worry about the deflated boobs.. mine haven't really been perky (at a certain point gravity wins when they're this big) but they have been full and not flat. Oh well though, not much I can do about it.

 

[24/7]

I have really struggled with the psychological side of being pregnant, and one of my huge worries was breast feeding, it made me feel like I was under so much pressure, and I spent many an evening crying over how under pressure I felt. So we decided that we will plan to FF, and if after the birth I'm feeling strong enough, then I will give it a try and see how it goes. I know BF is best, but I felt under so much stress, which would not have been good for trying to cope with a newborn, so am just going to go with FF, and see how I feel. I feel guilty, so please nobody try and change my mind, I know BF is best, but right now it isn't for me. xx

 

[new_to_ttc]

Im not a small lass, was with Joshua lol, but I have worked super hard to lose weight before I fell pregnant and I have been really worried about it all going back on. I have currently lost 4lb this week yay!! But it may go back on next week I seem to be a bit up and down! With Joshua I was so small and I gained very little weight until 3rd tri, infact extremely little but once he was here that was it... boom it all came on and didnt go. I was flat chested... as soon as I had him my boobs filled and have never gone back they are huge already and I can feel them filling out already. Everything about this pregnancy is already so different. Im losing weight, feeling better.. yet my trousers are tight, my tops are pulling a bit and although Im too big to be showing a bump I can definitely feel myself getting harder and rounding off I didnt do too bad with stretchmarks last time, used mandarin oil every day, but this time Im not worried about them, I just dont want to balloon in weight.

Hopeful, giving birth is the scariest thing for any woman hun, Ive been there and done it but doesnt make it any less scary. But, honestly the end result is worth every minute of it hun. I wont tell you it didnt hurt, it must have done, but I can tell you that its all a blur and I dont recall the pain. Even at the time I remember experiencing so many emotions that the pain paled out to insignificance. Its all magical babe, and we are the stronger sex and our bodies can break through the scariest things to produce the tiniest little bundles of miracle xxxxx

 

[lisaf]

Hey, I understand the guilt feeling 24/7!
I am on a medication that has unknown risk but that I need to be on to function. I have no choice about being on it while pregnant, but when it comes to BFing, there IS an alternative that may be better in my case. But I'm struggling so hard with the guilt of it.
Right now I'm thinking I can't take my medication anyway during the first few weeks, so I will try to BF for at least that time, but that I'll have to FF sooner than I'd like to.

My friend who is BFing her 3 week old baby told me she wished she had an excuse like I do, lol.. cuz she just wants to quit but won't be able to take the accusations of all her pro-BFing friends.

 

[luckyme225]

I plan to breastfeed to help lose weight. Though with breastfeeding I was always super hungry in the beginning. My favorite part about breastfeeding is big full breasts, haha. Automatically makes you look a bit slimmer.

As for giving birth I don't remember much about it. I think your memory is kind and erases it for you. I don't think it was as bad as I though it would be, well after the epidural that is lol.

 

[new_to_ttc]

24/7 the decision is yours and NO ONE ELSES!! I was so lucky when I had Joshua because my midwife supported me every step of the way. She said if I was half as worried as I came across then my milk supply wouldnt be sufficent for the baby and I should do what I felt most comfortable with. I was forced into giving 1 feed on the breast at the hospital as I had a retained placenta, but he was then given a bottle while I was taken to theatre and no pressure was ever put on me.

No one can make the decision for you hun, and dont let anyone bully you into something you dont want to do. Breast might be best, but you know what a hell of a lot have formula and do perfectly well. My Joshua is not a sick child, never has been (except from a condition induced by medication) and he is very intelligent. I dont know how many times people tried to bully me to say he would be a sick baby etc etc... total rubbish!!!

As it is, I am thinking of BF this time, but its not for definiate, just something I am considering but whatever I choose to do will be my choice and no one will be able to convince me otherwise.

hun you stick to what you're comfortable with xxxxxxxxx

 

[24/7]

Thanks girls. Luckily OH is very happy whatever, and is ready to stick up for me if they start putting too much pressure on.

It's funny really, I was BF and have coeliac, which is apparently meant to be prevented by BF, and both my FF brothers don't have it, so not everything works out even if you do BF!! Like all mums I want what is best for our baby, and if that is FF then so be it, happy mum equals happy baby in my book. xx

 

[luckyme225]

2/47 don't feel bad for how you choose to feed your baby, you know whats best for you and your LO.

 

[stardust22]

I hate the smell of cocoa butter, so thats out for me!! I've lost 4kg so far, so I just hope it goes back on slowly, and not like a balloon blowing up!! xx

I know I am going to EXPLODE! I dont want to but I just know without my spin classes, gym and swimming 5 times a week I am destined to get large. I miss my exercise so much and its only been 7 weeks. I am too scared to do anything because of my history

Exactly!! Before pregnancy my job was walking, all day every day, and now it is just sitting, and I hate it!! I want to be busy, it makes me feel sluggish!!

In your job, do many people not get stretchmarks? xx

Loads!! I honestly see plenty of ladies who dont get them! more than actually do i think. So that is good news hey

 

[24/7]

I hate the smell of cocoa butter, so thats out for me!! I've lost 4kg so far, so I just hope it goes back on slowly, and not like a balloon blowing up!! xx

I know I am going to EXPLODE! I dont want to but I just know without my spin classes, gym and swimming 5 times a week I am destined to get large. I miss my exercise so much and its only been 7 weeks. I am too scared to do anything because of my history

Exactly!! Before pregnancy my job was walking, all day every day, and now it is just sitting, and I hate it!! I want to be busy, it makes me feel sluggish!!

In your job, do many people not get stretchmarks? xx

Loads!! I honestly see plenty of ladies who dont get them! more than actually do i think. So that is good news hey

Well I like the sound of this!!
Got a much bigger bump today compared to yesterday, after a big dinner!! xx