May & June 2022 Munchkins

[Bloblo]

Morning!!!
Do u guys think this is an issue or am I just being obsessive and OTT???
I can't really see any progression in my FRERs from 15dpo. I did do another digi this morning and it's flipped to 2-3 weeks which makes me feel better. Today's FRER looks exactly the same at 18dpo as it did at 16dpo.
Please help a crazy lady out

Ps I have no idea why my photos always upload sideways. Very annoying xx

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The progression will slow after 14dpo, so all normal! These tests are not really designed for progression, but I get how hard it is to stop. I like to continue testing until I see the hook effect, but this time managed to stop myself at 18dpo only because I ran out of tests.
But no, please don't worry about progression on hpt's! Way too many variables that can impact that!

 

[Bloblo]

Physically, I'm doing ok. Finding the HB daily with my doppler. Got my genetic testing scheduled for November 8th. Mainly just business as usual.
Mentally, I'm stressed af. Quick back story, at 2am on Saturday morning, my SO discovered our hot water heater had a leak. A couple techs were able to come out and fix it at noon, but there's several sq ft of floor boards that are gonna need to be torn up. Saturday was also DS2's BDay party. During the party, 64yo, alcoholic FIL had a seizure and we had to call an ambulance. They ended up taking him to the hospital and released him that evening. As far as we know/can tell, it seems it was cuz of alcohol withdrawl; he hadn't had anything to drink all day. Then, just after midnight, SO woke me up to tell me 90% of the basement had no power. We also discovered there was no power to the fridge and dishwasher on the main level. We were able to plus the fridge and our chest freezers into different outlets and Thank God the washer and dryer are still working. We had electrician out today to do diagnostic and he'll be back on Friday to hopefully fix everything. Also, between waking up for work on Friday and going to bed on Saturday, I literally only gone one hour of sleep in that 38 hour span. Thinking about it all still makes me exhausted and shaky, but I keep trying to stay calm and remind myself this is out of my control right now and it'll be fixed soon. -.-

So much stress! Thinking of you, hoping all settles soon

 

[MrsT116]

The progression will slow after 14dpo, so all normal! These tests are not really designed for progression, but I get how hard it is to stop. I like to continue testing until I see the hook effect, but this time managed to stop myself at 18dpo only because I ran out of tests.
But no, please don't worry about progression on hpt's! Way too many variables that can impact that!

Thank you

 

[Babybump87]

I'm doing ok. My nausea is back and I am pretty tired. I have my first midwife appt next week. I am trying to decide if I should schedule a gender ultrasound next week or wait another week when I will be 14 weeks. Im really impatient so I'm leaning towards next week. I found out at 13 weeks with my last baby and it was easy to see.

Always sooo exciting getting gender scan ! We won’t find out ourselves until 20 weeks x

 

[crazy4baby09]

So much going on! I hope everything gets sorted soon and you will be able to catch up on rest. I know how stressful having the water heater go is. Last year our water heater rusted out and flooded our basement, we had to get rid of a good amount of things that got water damaged. Thankfully we have carpet down there and my husband bought and industrial fan the goes under the carpet to dry it. He also used a shop vac to get up all the standing water. Between both of those things it took about 5 days to finally get it dried out down there.

 

[Sander]

Oh MrsT if you go to near the very beginning of the thread I posted almost the exact same thing lol. Same advice - eventually the dye varies and the tests aren’t good for progression anymore! I would test for hook effect at some point too - that always stops my testing.

Prettyinink - what a disaster! I’m so sorry, that’s a terrible few days. Hope your FIL is ok!

Glad you’re able to go on leave Bloblo! Although it’s not technically time off when you have kids already Hopefully you can get some rest.

 

[YoshiPikachu]

Currently dealing with my husband who doesn’t know that I’m pregnant. Been staying at a DV shelter for almost 2 weeks. My husband is super unstable and emotionally abusive. He sent me 25 text messages yesterday saying, 1 threatening email, called - 10 times and left 1 threatening Voice Mail. I haven’t answered him at all. I’m so glad I left when I did because it would be a nightmare having to live with his abuse while pregnant. I don’t plan on telling him at all. He doesn’t need to be around a baby at all.

 

[Babybump87]

Currently dealing with my husband who doesn’t know that I’m pregnant. Been staying at a DV shelter for almost 2 weeks. My husband is super unstable and emotionally abusive. He sent me 25 text messages yesterday saying, 1 threatening email, called - 10 times and left 1 threatening Voice Mail. I haven’t answered him at all. I’m so glad I left when I did because it would be a nightmare having to live with his abuse while pregnant. I don’t plan on telling him at all. He doesn’t need to be around a baby at all.

Oh wow so sorry your going through this but amazing you had the courage to leave him ! I hope things get better for you . I agree he doesn’t seem like the kinds of person I would want around my newborn either !

Stay safe hunny xx

 

[Bloblo]

Currently dealing with my husband who doesn’t know that I’m pregnant. Been staying at a DV shelter for almost 2 weeks. My husband is super unstable and emotionally abusive. He sent me 25 text messages yesterday saying, 1 threatening email, called - 10 times and left 1 threatening Voice Mail. I haven’t answered him at all. I’m so glad I left when I did because it would be a nightmare having to live with his abuse while pregnant. I don’t plan on telling him at all. He doesn’t need to be around a baby at all.

So sorry that you are in this situation. Good on you for being brave enough to leave! You can always rant here, it's a safe space Wish I could do more to help, but please know that I am thinking of you.

 

[Sander]

Oh my goodness Yoshi I’m so sorry you’re going through that! So glad you’re able to be at a shelter and hope things calm down soon. Big hugs to you and your little ones

 

[YoshiPikachu]

Thanks. My kids are with their dad’s family so I don’t have to worry about them. They have a different dad. I’m going to try and file a police report today so I can get a restraining order and get taken off of the lease of the apartment.

 

[Babybump87]

Thanks. My kids are with their dad’s family so I don’t have to worry about them. They have a different dad. I’m going to try and file a police report today so I can get a restraining order and get taken off of the lease of the apartment.

So glad you don’t have to worry about your children must take so much pressure of you . I hope the police report goes well and you find somewhere else to live soon .

Yes for sure we are all here too !

I love these pregnancy groups and BnB in general . Everyone is so nice and supportive x

 

[MrsT116]

Currently dealing with my husband who doesn’t know that I’m pregnant. Been staying at a DV shelter for almost 2 weeks. My husband is super unstable and emotionally abusive. He sent me 25 text messages yesterday saying, 1 threatening email, called - 10 times and left 1 threatening Voice Mail. I haven’t answered him at all. I’m so glad I left when I did because it would be a nightmare having to live with his abuse while pregnant. I don’t plan on telling him at all. He doesn’t need to be around a baby at all.

Oh Yoshi that's terrible!! I echo what the others have said, well done for getting out of there and looking after yourself for you and your baby. I hope you can get the restraining order sorted quickly

 

[YoshiPikachu]

My Shelter advocate helped me set up an appointment for Friday to have someone help me file for a restraining order.

 

[PrettyInInk42]

MrsT - We assume he's alright, since he was discharged. Him and my SO are not on the best terms and any news we hear about him is usually from SO's aunt. We haven't really heard anything, so I guess no news is good news?
Probably won't take long to deal with the floorboards. They're not real wood, so I'm just gonna rip up what's warped, since it's all in just one small hallway and maybe put down one of those carpets that you'd have at a front door for the time being.
I heard the HB for the first time at 8w4d.

Bloblo - Sorry about the nausea, but yay for early mat leave. How long does the government allow you to be on leave?

Yoshi - Sorry so that you're having to deal with all of that. Good for you for leaving and getting help ASAP though. Sending you lots of love and thoughts.

 

[Bloblo]

Bloblo - Sorry about the nausea, but yay for early mat leave. How long does the government allow you to be on leave?.

I'm know this'll make you all consider moving to Poland We get 100% paid pregnancy leave for the full pregnancy (we can take it whenever we want or feel bad). Then 80% paid maternity leave for 1 year after giving birth. And then if you want to have unpaid leave, you can take 3 more years with job security (they have to reemploy you on the same or better conditions and cannot fire you within 6 months of your return from maternity leave). So my plan is to return around September of 2023 (I also have some normal vacation leave saved up as we get 26 days of that per year and it contonues to accumulate during maternity leave too).

 

[YoshiPikachu]

My husband is going down. He threw out almost all of my stuff illegal because it hasn’t been long enough that he can legally do it. Now he’s trying to illegally sell my electronics.

 

[crazy4baby09]

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with all of this! I hope everything gets worked out soon with the restraining order and your things.

 

[Babybump87]

I'm know this'll make you all consider moving to Poland We get 100% paid pregnancy leave for the full pregnancy (we can take it whenever we want or feel bad). Then 80% paid maternity leave for 1 year after giving birth. And then if you want to have unpaid leave, you can take 3 more years with job security (they have to reemploy you on the same or better conditions and cannot fire you within 6 months of your return from maternity leave). So my plan is to return around September of 2023 (I also have some normal vacation leave saved up as we get 26 days of that per year and it contonues to accumulate during maternity leave too).

Wow that’s amazing !! The UK is bad compared to Poland !

 

[Babybump87]

My husband is going down. He threw out almost all of my stuff illegal because it hasn’t been long enough that he can legally do it. Now he’s trying to illegally sell my electronics.

Oh dear so sorry lovely ! I hope you can get some of your things back ? He’s getting himself into more trouble ! You will be fine though things will work out for you!