Maybe you ladies can understand me

[PixieM]

I'm sat here right now crying because i realised I was due to give birth next week to the baby i lost and although i hadn't forgotten i did put it to the back of my mind and tried to just look ahead and stay postive which has ended up with me now sitting by myself crying my eyes out in what is almost confusion.

I am crying because i never knew what i was having and for what it may have turned out to look like and grew up to be, I know if i hadn't lost it i would be pregnant with this little one now and that she on her own is a little miracle but i still can't help but wonder and mourn what i lost.

I haven't spoke to my husband about the one we lost since fathers day (uk) as we found we were pregnant again a week or so later and i didn't want any negativity around this baby but i'm just upset i guess also that no one has remembered or said anything.

can anyone relate to this at all? x

 

[dextersmum]

absolutely hun just because you are pregnant again doesn't mean you forget about your previous pregnancy. I went to see my midwife regarding my current pregnancy and when she was putting my details on the computer she said oh somebody at the hospital must have done it as it is already here. Only for me to see my record showing I am 25 weeks however I lost that baby and was only 7 weeks with this current pregnancy. Talk about a kick in the teeth.

It is ok to be sad about your previous pregnancy and don't forget your hormones will be all over the place at the moment too so be gentle on yourself

 

[heres2hoping]

I totally get it. I was supposed to be due this week too with my first miscarriage. And to make matters worse for me, my SIL is due this week so that is all the family talks about. Nobody remembers that I was due the same time It is really hard. I too am pregnancy again, for the 3rd time. Just found out this week, so I am actually 4 weeks today. Everyday day seems like a life time to get through. I have started to gather quotes and write them in book. When I am feeling overwhelmed I read them. I will never forget my two lost babies. I think about them everyday. I think that is healthy. Some days are just a bit harder than others. You are not alone

 

[PixieM]

thank you x

 

[Kellen]

I experienced this too. I was due on my birthday in October. It was really hard and I didn't feel like anyone around me understood why I was depressed. I felt selfish for celebrating my life when my baby never got the chance to experience life at all. I also felt a little guilty about becoming pregnant 4 months after my loss. I am slowing moving on, but it is still terribly hard, especially when people around you don't want to acknowledge your first pregnancy and only remember your current one.

 

[smokey]

The way I like to think of it to keep me sane is I didnt say goodbye to my last baby I just said see you later.
I like to try and think that its the same soul that maybe wasnt ready last time so everything that child would have been in life is what this one will be if that makes sense.
Like you say if it wasnt for your mc you wouldnt be pregnant with this child so everytime you look at your child you will see something of the other one and it may not seem like it now but that will make you love your child even more then you thought you could because of those odds that ment they might not have been here