mc 2 days ago...pregnancy long awaited

[jen35]

Hi, I'm new to all of this and feel like i'm gonna go crazy. I had a mc two days ago at 10wks tho the baby only measured 7wks, it had a heart beat last week before i started losing it.. on mothers day

It passed naturally and to be honest it was the most traumatising thing i've ever had to go through and nobody seems to understand. My partner has been great but I know he's wondering when I'm going to stop crying.

I just feel like our future has been turned upside down, all our plans have been snatched and I can't begin to deal with that. We have waited so so long for this pregnancy as I have cycstic ovaries and in mid thirties. Will I ever feel normal again?

 

[natasja32]

Aw hunny,im so sorry for your loss. Its going to take some time,but hopefully the girls here can help. I to have suffered the loss of my little boy born sleeping on the 13th march this year.He was only 3 days away from full term. The girls on here have helped me alot already.We are all here for you when you need us.

 

[chella]

Hi, I'm new to all of this and feel like i'm gonna go crazy. I had a mc two days ago at 10wks tho the baby only measured 7wks, it had a heart beat last week before i started losing it.. on mothers day

It passed naturally and to be honest it was the most traumatising thing i've ever had to go through and nobody seems to understand. My partner has been great but I know he's wondering when I'm going to stop crying.

I just feel like our future has been turned upside down, all our plans have been snatched and I can't begin to deal with that. We have waited so so long for this pregnancy as I have cycstic ovaries and in mid thirties. Will I ever feel normal again?

Hi Ya,

Im so sorry for ur loss, i had my mc induced on 12th march , 1st scan baby had a heartbeat but was very week and then 2nd scan baby had died i was 8wks , Its hard to start off with but have found so much help on here and also few friends who have been thru this too, But u hav to giv urself time and dont rush let each day go as it comes dont push urself to please ne one, i have good days and bad days or both one min im ok then next min im in tears its like a tap on/off .

Everyones different on how they cope and how long it takes to feel theirseleves again, but u will get there and u will get the good news u long for soon just may take time, im still hiding away from ppl even when i pick up at school so im no way near back to me again.

sending u loadsa and pm me wen ever as ive found it good to talk,

Rachy xxx

 

[becky77]

so sorry for your loss, my only advice is give yourself time and do what ever you need to cope , cry , talk, shout or eat chocolate. there is no right or wrong way, and people who have not been through it dont know how you are feeling as its something you have to go through to understand. talk to any of the girls on here any time you need to , they really helped me and are so understanding.
look after yourself xx

 

[jen35]

I feel better to have told someone and that you lovely people really understand. I hope we can all find some peace someday. Thanks girls

 

[DiddyDons]

so sorry for your loss

Donna xxx

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[toby2]

Jen i found my natural m/c very very traumatic too,as i know lots of others did and i am so sorry you have been through this-its such early days for you and its so hard to try and make sense of something which doesnt make sense
for you,you wont always feel lik you do right now,it does lift and like others said yo will have good days and bad days-talking on here really helped me as i found that most people in my life thought i should be 'over it' by two weeks,not that they werent understanding just that they didnt know as it didnt happen to them
dont let go of your dreams,there is still time for them to come true

 

[dan-o]

Oh goodness, I am so sorry.
I had a D&C with mine, but still ended up passing all the tissue they missed naturally a few days later. I sympathise totally, the pain, grief & mess is unreal, my OH thought I was going to bleed to death!
I felt exactly the same as you, like all my plans & dreams had been snatched away.
I'm also in my 30's & TTC my first, so I share your concern about the bio clock ticking away. I'm so sorry this had to happen to you.

Huge for you sweetie, we are all here for you xxxx

 

[pennypoptart]

Sorry to hear what you've been through jen. I had a MMC a few weeks back, and had a medical removal. I'm just about beginning to feel "normal" now, a fortnight after the operation... not sure if you ever return to feeling completely "normal".

I think what I forgot to allow myself to do at first was grieve. You feel a weird set of emotions with MC. Nobody really talks about it- despite the fact that so many women go through this horrendous situation, so when it happens, you don't know how you're meant to react, who you can talk to, or what to do.

In a way, I wish people did talk about it- so that you could say to people "i've miscarried", and they'd share their experiences too. It is losing the closest thing to you... it is your baby. I suppose for some people it is just too hard to say outloud.

Anyway, what I suppose I'm getting at, is that you are not alone. We're here to support you. I felt so alone when it happened to me, and without the people here I wouldn't be half as positive as I am now.

Sending you massive and wishing you a speedy recovery, and hopefully a quick BFP for your sticky bean. x x x

p.s. your OH will understand you crying, don't worry! If anything, my hubby just felt terrible that it was me that was physically going through it and not him. x x

 

[Omi]

Hi Jen,

just wanted to say sorry this all happened to you

....but also to tell you you will get through it and being 35 is by no means a barrier for you and your OH to have your family.

I had 2 mc's last year, and yes, although its tough and something you dont want to wish on your worst enemy, you do get out the other end and you will be able to get on with life, love and ttc- i promise you!!

As already advised..take good care, allow yourself to do what ever it is you want, sleep, cry, get drunk, eat a tub of ice cream- whatever you need to do is fine!!

Oh, and im 39 by the way- you're a young'un compared to me

, Omi xxx

 

[Las78]

Hun, I'm so very sorry for your loss.

I totally understand how you feel, I gave birth to my little boy, a very longed for Son at 16+5 at home on my own - it was just awful, I never thought it would come to that even though after 10 weeks of bleeding they told me I may be threatening miscarrage. The emotions you feel afterwards are unbelievable and I too couldn't stop crying for a good 2 weeks.

I have always wanted a little boy, I had so many dreams for him, he would've been a proper mummy's boy and to have that taken away so suddenly was devastating. I still now 6 weeks on, know how many weeks I would have been and go through stages of longing for him.

I'm 31 this year and have one ovary, it seems to take me ages to fall pregnant although I've been told having one ovary shouldn't affect it. I too, like you worry about time passing me by and feel very impatient which is why I have decided to TTC before my 1st AF.

As hard as it is hun, you will feel ( a different kind of) normal again, it just takes time to heal, you won't forget and there will be times that are easier than others but it does get better with time.

Keep talking to your partner, he needs to know how you're feeling to support you through this. My OH said to me (only once I'd regained some normality) that he was hurting a lot but needed to be strong for me so didn't want to show it (I took it that he didn't care as much) and that knowing how much he was hurting he couldn't imagine how I was feeling as the baby was part of me and he wouldn't talk about the baby only because he didn't want to upset me. I think it is very hard on them too and I'm sure your partner doesn't expect you to not be crying hun.

Don't give up your dreams and hope, you will get your sticky bean and there's alot to be said for being an older mum, I find having had my 2nd baby at 28 that I enjoyed her much more and was a lot more relaxed and patient than my 1st at 21.

Take care of yourself and if you ever need to talk or just someone to listen please PM me x

 

[mandy81]

Aww hun i'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[Tattybear]

So sorry for your loss
The ladies on here have been absolutely fab and really helped me come to terms eith my my m/c.
I tried for 3.5 years before finally getting the news i have waited so long for , but unfortunatley our baby didn't make it past 6.5 weeks. I went in to hospital on mothers day to have the medicinal method of removal. I am starting to come to terms with it all now & am returning to work later this week as i think i'm going crazy been at home. Things will get better just have to look to the future its the only way.
Anytime you need to talk i am here xxxxxxxx