mc 8 weeks ago , ttc and got positive result , but am now terrified

[dottydebs]

had my mc 12th nov 2011 at 6 wks after a perfect pregnancy 6 yrs ago i was shocked it was so unexpected, however in the space of two weeks both my friends had one ...i think this has made me even more scared knowing how often it happens, i started trying straight away , was so excited at thought of getting preg...got my positive result on sat , am now coming up about 5 weeks....and i am petrifried , I dont feel positive at all , just waiting for the blood, not talking about the pregnancy because i dont want to get my hopes up ..people say i ahave to stay positive but i am just trying to protect myself form the hurt again ...and im even more worried it will happen further on this time ....these stories make me not feel so alone..thanks for sharing ...when will i know my baby is growing ok , i mentioned to doc about early scans he was so dismissive and said "one miscarriage means nothin even if u have 3 we still would not think there is anything wrong but may look into it..." "you could have a scan in the morning and something could happen in the afternoon " i left even more scared than when i went in .please help !! xxx

 

[Smiler79]

HI hun

So sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks in oct 09 and it took me another 6 months to get pregannt again. I am now 38 weeks and still worry. Think i will until the minute I have my little on e in my arms.

I had the same reaction when I asked for an early scan with this pregnancy. Did end up getting one at 8 weeks but that was because I had a bleed.

No one can make your worries go away but with each little milestone things get a litle bit easier. It is impossible to think about 40 weeks when you are only 5 weeks so try and break it down into smaller steps. The time of your last loss, 12 weeks, 20 weeks etc.

There are lots of people on here to talk to and we are all happy to support you in any way we can. Feel free to private message me if you want to talk some more.

Sending big hugs xxxxxxx

 

[dottydebs]

thanks so much it is so reassuring to hear ur fabulous news , i am so pleased for you ....i was a terrible worrier with the first , but this is causing me such panic, i just feel so negative and cannot imagine a baby at the end , i keep just expecting a mc ....once i pass the 6 wk i may feel more positive , god its like mental torcher...i remnind myself every day i have a perfect wonderful little girl and some poor people on this have had horrific losses much worse than mine...i just want this fear to subside ...am very new to this so not quite sure on how to work it yet ....love to u and ur precious baby bump xxx

 

[AndreaBat]

Hi hon

I had a m/c at 8 weeks last year June. We waited 2 months and then tried again and fell pregnant 3 months later. Every day is a worry, every weird twinge or pull is a worry but now i have got to the stage where prayer and faith get me through each day and ive realised no matter what if im meant to carry this baby to term i will - if not there is a reason for it and no amount of worry is going to change that. I wish u all the best for a happy healthy pregnancy.

 

[dottydebs]

i think because its so recent i remember it so vividly ...however first one was a surprise and ,made us realise we were ready and im going to be 30 this yr so just incase their were any problems we thought it best to try asap , so pleased it happened quickly ...however on day before i found out i was at a leaving party drinking ...i feel so awful incase i harmed the pregnancy even although i was still going out and drinkin up until 7 wks when i found out with my daughter...i have been ill since sunday and lost my voice with all the coughing which has left me in agony ...i was also worried about all the coughing damaging ...every little thing is now such a drama...its afecting my mood and i hate it ..i want to go back to happy mummy to my little girl..thanks for all the support girls , this site really helped me during miscarriage , just never felt ready to join xx

 

[bluey]

Hi dottydebs! You & I have matching stories. I too mc'd on 12th Nov just short of 6 weeks & am now pregnant again & just past 5 weeks. My first pregnancy was worry-filled, but only because I am a worrier by nature!

I'm trying my best to think calm & positive thoughts about this pregnancy, although I think getting past the stage I was when I mc'd last time will be a big mental hurdle for me.

I think also reaching a stage where I have real identifiable symptoms will be a reassurance for me.

Lots of love & sticky baby dust to you. xxx

 

[dottydebs]

wow almost exact dates ... so strange to think of someone actually going through same thing at same time ...i too have no symptoms ...breasts tender with mc however ...i keep just grabbing them and pulling them hoping they will be sore , my fiance thinks im mad lol....what is your due date bluey ?X

 

[dottydebs]

hi andreabat ...i too am finding the odd prayer is about all i can do , and like u say if something is wrong then it will end , natures way .....all we can do is hope and pray , not really that religous but it certainly gives some comfort x

 

[dottydebs]

also how do u guys gets all these great wee counter things ...im clueless xx

 

[bluey]

Morning dottydebs! I'm due 14th Sept. You?

I must confess I've also been guilty of giving my bb's a bit of a prod every now & then to check whether they're sore or not!!!

You can get counter by googling pregnancy tickers - you put in your dates & pick what design you like, then it gives you a line of code that you can copy & paste into your signature. HTH

 

[dottydebs]

well i am due according to doc 19th sep , but going by online calender dates 17th sep , and today i am still prodding the boobies ....and i believe i have found a very mildly tender spot and today i actually felt positive and smiled about all this...probably tender because i am actually physically abusing them , so my ignorance is showing here i got as far as the copy paste html address , but where do i post it ....signature ????? confused.com x