Dona
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I want to share this touching story with you.
I am still mentally and physically recovering from a m/c which happened in April - I was 8 weeks. Just like others, I had my names picked out for a boy and a girl - the girl being named Alice after my Husbands Mum who died when he was 14. At that time I wanted and had always wanted, a girl. I have been married for 11 yrs and we choose Alice in the first year of our marriage. However, after the m/c calling my next baby Alice just didn't seam right. I guess I thought that the baby that I lost was Alice if it was a girl.
I then started to fantasise about calling my next child Violet after my Great Grandmother, someone who I was very close to when she alive. However, i could see that my Hubby was sad that I no long wanted to and emotionally, couldn't call our next child Alice. This was tearing me apart inside. I had my emotions to deal with and I felt I was letting my Husband down and now my Great Grandmother.
Anyway, went to a Medium and guess who came through - Both Violet and Alice. First thing that the medium told me was I was grieving for a baby I had just lost. He also said it was a girl and her name in the after world was Holly. I don't like that name and never have done but there was a reason for that. Violet (my Great Grandmother) then spoke to me and said she was named Holly so that I can still use the name Alice for future and that I was not going to disappoint her in doing so. I was really upset by then.
After I came out I felt sad but at peace. I am still trying for a baby and I am not fussed if its a boy or girl. Seemingly its going to be a boy which I have already named him Archie. If its a girl she will be called Alice Violet! I am very sceptic about all this but if it can make me feel at peace with myself then i am happy I went.
xx
I am still mentally and physically recovering from a m/c which happened in April - I was 8 weeks. Just like others, I had my names picked out for a boy and a girl - the girl being named Alice after my Husbands Mum who died when he was 14. At that time I wanted and had always wanted, a girl. I have been married for 11 yrs and we choose Alice in the first year of our marriage. However, after the m/c calling my next baby Alice just didn't seam right. I guess I thought that the baby that I lost was Alice if it was a girl.
I then started to fantasise about calling my next child Violet after my Great Grandmother, someone who I was very close to when she alive. However, i could see that my Hubby was sad that I no long wanted to and emotionally, couldn't call our next child Alice. This was tearing me apart inside. I had my emotions to deal with and I felt I was letting my Husband down and now my Great Grandmother.
Anyway, went to a Medium and guess who came through - Both Violet and Alice. First thing that the medium told me was I was grieving for a baby I had just lost. He also said it was a girl and her name in the after world was Holly. I don't like that name and never have done but there was a reason for that. Violet (my Great Grandmother) then spoke to me and said she was named Holly so that I can still use the name Alice for future and that I was not going to disappoint her in doing so. I was really upset by then.
After I came out I felt sad but at peace. I am still trying for a baby and I am not fussed if its a boy or girl. Seemingly its going to be a boy which I have already named him Archie. If its a girl she will be called Alice Violet! I am very sceptic about all this but if it can make me feel at peace with myself then i am happy I went.
xx
It takes time and lots of sex!
