meeting tuesday but petrafied

[WhisperOfHope]

i have a meeting on tuesday to discuss a elective section due to pelvic/ hip and back problems, but terrorfied about it, everything you see is "you have more chance os seriouse complications or you baby will be sick or have more chance of dying within the next 3 yrs after birth" and then getting from people oh you wont bond with your baby you cant lift your baby, you will get pnd etc my head is fried it was my frauen arzt (gyney) that has referd me as icant even do a pap smear without my hips going on me

 

[Bundle of joy]

I'm having a section due to fear of labour. I sound so wimpy but its a personal choice of mine and I'm due to have one in 23 days. Very excited about it but also really scared. Obviously I have had all the negatives of people saying how dangerous it is compared to normal labour and all the things that could go wrong but that's a small percentage plus everyone's body is different. You will be fine xx

 

[Scuba]

My first daughter was a vaginal delivery.. My second daughter an elective c sec.. I was TERRIFIED of the section but it was amazing! I bonded so much quicker with dd2, held her for skin to skin in recovery - was offered skin to skin while I was stitched up but hubby did it instead as I was worried I might drop her as table was tilted a lot to the left!! I was able to bf from the start, we had latch problems but they were rectified, I expressed a lot too until my milk dried up, so minimal problems there!
Controversial to say but some people, my consultant included, claim that while a section carries more risk to mum, it's less risk to baby.. Now I'm not saying that's my opinion as I don't know enough to say either way, but it helped me through the weeks in run up to birth!!
You and baby will be fine relax and enjoy your birth experience xxx

 

[LDC]

Remember that with the risk side of things, they have to tell you that so that if on the off chance anything happens you can't sue them! Unfortunately, that just sparks the fear. Mine was an emergency section due to a non progressive labour and they told me the risks just as I was about to be wheeled in, but this was also the same when I was just about to have my epidural during active labour.

The way I see it is everything has risks...someone could tell you thae risks of walking to the shop; you could get mugged, you could get hit by a bus, you could fall over a loose paving slab and break your leg. Realistically EVERYTHING has risks.

I have never heard of the risk to the baby thing before, so I'd be likely to dismiss that information, and yes of course there are potential risks to you as it's a major operation, but that doesn't mean that it's going to happen. I had an infection, but that was cleared up by a few days antibiotics.

I have bonded with my baby better than I could have imagined and I breast fed right away. I didn't hold her until an hour after she was born due to the position of the bed, but my OH had her right next to me and I could touch her. I was more than happy with this as it gave him some special time that he'll never experience again. The midwives weighed and measured her right in front of me and also stuck to my birth plan which I thought was grea, especially seeing as it was an e emergency section (we were team yellow and I wanted OH to tell me the gender).

I also haven't read that PND is any higher with c section babies and don't worry I could lift my baby... And she was a whopping 10lb 1oz! Yes it's difficult with your stitches but after a couple of days I had to remind myself not to do things like lifting washing etc because I felt like I was doing well. I ate straight after the operation and I was up and walking within two hours.

Please don't worry, I found it to be a really positive experience. I am electing for another section when we try for anyother baby in a few years and I was crapping myself before at the thought of maybe needing one!

Good luck Hun, you'll be fine.

Xx

 

[WhisperOfHope]

thank you ladies

 

[April76]

Please dont worry, i had to have a c section due to my hips. I have one leg slightly shorter than the other which caused me a lot of problems. I also developed spd during the last half of my pregnancy.

Dont listen to all the scare stories. The hospital need to get you to sign all these papers and tell you the risks. It is incase you try and sue them.

I was beyond terrified when i went for mine, the theater staff were brilliant, you will be well looked after.

Dont worry about not holding your baby, i got to hold mine straight away and cuddled him for an hour in recovery before they take you up to the ward.