men who had circumcision in adult life.

[ozysanj]

I know there was a circumcision thread and has been locked on this forum.
I have no intentions to try to reincernate it at all.

I was really wondering what circ'd men were thinking /feeling after having it in their adult life,for a long time and was going to search it for myself anyway.

Cause i was born and lived in a country where circ. was done for religious reasons.so most of my partners were cicr'd but in the end i married uncirc'd man,i never asked him to get it done.But i would love it,if he did, as it's more hygenic,better looking and more satisfying

now i am expecting a boy,and i was doing research to convince my husband to get it done for our baby boy.
anyway,long story short i have a link about it,i wanted to share with the interested forum members.these men talk about their experiences in life in 2 parts:before and after circumcision

https://www.circinfo.net/men_circumcised_as_adults_tell_it_as_it_is.html

 

[pixeldust]

Given that is a pro-circ site, I wouldn't trust anything on there as far as I could throw it. You're only going to read positive stories about male gential cutting and its benefits on that website.

If you are looking for stories that are going to back up how you already feel about it, then you'll find them there. If you want to make an informed decision, you'd be better off looking at a range of neutral websites.

https://artofmanliness.com/2009/02/22/clip-the-tip-pointcounterpoint-on-male-circumcision/
https://www.parenting-boys.com/Pros-and-Cons-of-Circumcision.html
https://nymag.com/health/features/60158/

 

[hpjagged]

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[Chelsea.ann1]

I know a few men who weren't circumsized and they're so embarrassed by it. (never seen, but was discussed out of curiosity) They said they'd 100% opt. for circumsicion in their sons. One guy even said he dispises his mom for not doing it.

Men I know that have said they'd continue to do it with their sons.

I feel the decision should be left to the father of the child.

No it may not be "natural" and yes it may be considered "cosmetic".

But face it, we live in a world with a lot of societal pressure. That's the way it is... So the way I see it by circumsizing my son I'd be relieving at least one aspect of stress from his life. I don't support superficiality, no. However, I am a realist and I do see things for what they are not JUST what I wish them to be.

EDIT - might i add i didn't talk to the boys at once wasn't a big peewee group convo!!! lol just a few questions here and there.

 

[Wildfire81]

My husband said he did not even know it was an issue..of course our son will be. He is, and says thank you to his mom that she had it done. Everybody is different!

 

[PitaKat]

I feel the decision should be left to the father of the child.

I agree with ya there. My husband feels like Wildfire's husband does, it's never been an issue for him, he is happy that his parents had it done when he was a baby, and wants the same for our baby if it is a boy. However, if he didn't agree with circumcision, I would still let him make the choice about it and support whatever decision he made.

 

[Chelsea.ann1]

I feel the decision should be left to the father of the child.

I agree with ya there. My husband feels like Wildfire's husband does, it's never been an issue for him, he is happy that his parents had it done when he was a baby, and wants the same for our baby if it is a boy. However, if he didn't agree with circumcision, I would still let him make the choice about it and support whatever decision he made.

Exactly.

 

[xxchloexx]

I've never seen one that was circumcised.. Its not done in Ireland.. If you have it done you are definitely the minority.
I would never do it to my baby, I dont buy into the whole "its cleaner" thing.. When a baby boy gets his nappy changed you dont pull that skin back to clean as it would just irritate the child.. by the time it needs to be pulled back and cleaned he will be washing himself.

Dont try make your husband get himself cut ... you married the man because you loved him not because of his penis.. Stick with him the way he is. If my husband asked me to get an operation on my vagina because he thought it was the norm I no what i would tell him..

like a PP said , look on sites that arent pro circ.. So you get feedback that is negative and positive.. Like anything in the world there is going to be negative feedback so you might want to read that.. If it seems to good to be true it more than likely is.

 

[Kat541]

Given that is a pro-circ site, I wouldn't trust anything on there as far as I could throw it. You're only going to read positive stories about male gential cutting and its benefits on that website.

If you are looking for stories that are going to back up how you already feel about it, then you'll find them there. If you want to make an informed decision, you'd be better off looking at a range of neutral websites.

https://artofmanliness.com/2009/02/22/clip-the-tip-pointcounterpoint-on-male-circumcision/
https://www.parenting-boys.com/Pros-and-Cons-of-Circumcision.html
https://nymag.com/health/features/60158/

Your sites are biased against it. They are not neutral.

Circumcision began as a religious procedure, and I feel the question is equivilent to asking if you should follow a religous practice. No one could make that decicion for you.
I do feel if you are hesitant, don't do it. Your son can have it done anytime should he feel it is the only way he can be saved and get into heaven.

And I will admit, I couldn't be more turned off by an anteater-penis. If my husband wasn't cut, I wouldn't look at his penis until it was totally hard. I expect some skinny, long tounge to come flicking out of those un-cuts.

 

[Lulu1982]

Oh my word ... If my OH said he wanted me to have surgery because it would make certain parts of my body "better looking and more satisfying " I'd knock him into next week!!

ps ... I am in the UK and have never come across a real life circumcized willy ... I think it looks wierd!!

 

[WelshOneEmma]

Oh my word ... If my OH said he wanted me to have surgery because it would make certain parts of my body "better looking and more satisfying " I'd knock him into next week!!

ps ... I am in the UK and have never come across a real life circumcized willy ... I think it looks wierd!!

Same here - never seen one and not sure I want to either. My hubby is clean in that area so again don't think much of the cleanliness comments. I personally wouldnt do it for my son (unless medically needed) but I suppose each to their own. Just be prepared to explain why to your son. It doesnt appear to be a common op on the NHS over here.

 

[hpjagged]

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[Srrme]

My husband is circumcised, and wishes he wasn't. Neither one of our sons are circumcised.

I don't think there's a huge problem with cleanliness as long as proper hygiene is taught. Whether or not a boy or man is circumcised, if they don't clean themselves properly, they're at risk for an infection, etc. The foreskin is there for a REASON.

 

[pixeldust]

Given that is a pro-circ site, I wouldn't trust anything on there as far as I could throw it. You're only going to read positive stories about male gential cutting and its benefits on that website.

If you are looking for stories that are going to back up how you already feel about it, then you'll find them there. If you want to make an informed decision, you'd be better off looking at a range of neutral websites.

https://artofmanliness.com/2009/02/22/clip-the-tip-pointcounterpoint-on-male-circumcision/
https://www.parenting-boys.com/Pros-and-Cons-of-Circumcision.html
https://nymag.com/health/features/60158/

Your sites are biased against it. They are not neutral.

Re-reading I can see the second one is, the other two most certainly are not, thank you very much.

 

[ozysanj]

Oh my word ... If my OH said he wanted me to have surgery because it would make certain parts of my body "better looking and more satisfying " I'd knock him into next week!!

ps ... I am in the UK and have never come across a real life circumcized willy ... I think it looks wierd!!

Obviously I wasn't clear enough or some ladies haven't read my first post properly.I was not asking if you think I should get my son circ'd or not.I believe it's the best option, and I was searching real life experiences to support my view in front of my hubby and shared the info I found,in case anyone would be interested.


Well,I NEVER asked for my DH to get it.but would be happy if HE decides to have it.I never suggested him even to consider for himself.
I see you only quote only what you understand from the whole thing.there were 3 adverbs,the missing one is hygienic .And with my first hand experience and the other experiences I have read,they are true.
Ps.DH is very clean and showers twice everyday.so it's not about his lack of cleanliness.

Plus,if you never tried the both options, you can not have a fair comparison in between two.I haven't slept with the whole world but I had partners both circ'd and uncirc'd.so I have more than just an idea.

 

[amipregnant]

my husband was circumcised due to medical reasons when he was 14. He remembers it a a horrific painful experience. I do prefer his willy to previous partners as it is much nicer but im sure i would have loved him the same if he hadnt been. i am not going to get inot the arguement of circumcising babies.

 

[Elucida]

I would never make a decision like that for my child. It's their body, their choice. If they want to do it further down the line then that's up to them but it's not my body, my child is not a possession to do with as I please.

That said, I find a lot of the anti-circ stuff very, very shaky at the best of times. Circumcised men aren't a bunch of mangled, sexless freaks. Having been with both, I actually prefer circumcised and have never known sensitivity to be an issue at all. However, I wouldn't mind being with either... it's not a huge deal, really. I think the anti-circ movement can be really extreme at times (it actually put my ex off of having one and it damaged him irreparably in avoiding it) and the only point I feel I can identify with fully is that your child's body is exactly that, theirs. Not yours.

 

[blessedmomma]

ozysanj- it was an excellent article written by men who have had it both ways in adult life.

 

[Lulu1982]

Oh my word ... If my OH said he wanted me to have surgery because it would make certain parts of my body "better looking and more satisfying " I'd knock him into next week!!

ps ... I am in the UK and have never come across a real life circumcized willy ... I think it looks wierd!!

Obviously I wasn't clear enough or some ladies haven't read my first post properly.I was not asking if you think I should get my son circ'd or not.I believe it's the best option, and I was searching real life experiences to support my view in front of my hubby and shared the info I found,in case anyone would be interested.


Well,I NEVER asked for my DH to get it.but would be happy if HE decides to have it.I never suggested him even to consider for himself.
I see you only quote only what you understand from the whole thing.there were 3 adverbs,the missing one is hygienic .And with my first hand experience and the other experiences I have read,they are true.
Ps.DH is very clean and showers twice everyday.so it's not about his lack of cleanliness.

Plus,if you never tried the both options, you can not have a fair comparison in between two.I haven't slept with the whole world but I had partners both circ'd and uncirc'd.so I have more than just an idea.

As opposed to quoting what I understand, I quoted that part of your post which jumped out at me and gave my opinion on that. I am fully clued up on the concept of hygiene.

The reason I chose not to comment on that particular part was because I simply don't believe that it is true.

 

[emma33]

this is always going to be a topic for hugh debate... it isnt the norm in the uk unless for religious or medical reason, from what i know its more the norm in the usa.. so maybe its a case of agree to disagree because were all going to have our very strong views about what we think about it, i have had 2 sons so far neigher was done as its not the norm here so wasnt something i ever thought about to be honest, to me it seems unnatural to take a part away thats there BUT on the other hand if i was in the usa i might have a diff thought on the matter , this i will never know but as i say agree to disagree and hope the ladies that need the info they require can find the info from doctors etc just my 10pence worth x