men who had circumcision in adult life.

[bubbles123]

I'm in the UK and as previously mentioned very few are circumcised here. However, my friends brother unfortunately had to be as an adult for medical reasons. He said afterwards (well, he told his sister and she told us in the pub!) that it was very uncomfortable for a long time afterwards and that even putting on trousers was difficult but once the skin became desensitised things got better. He also said sex felt different afterwards and that, whilst it was still good, he didn't feel as much.
The foreskin protects the skin of the penis and the skin underneath is therefore very sensitive as it is not meant to be exposed, except during sex. If a penis is circumcised, this sensitive skin is suddenly exposed all of the time, which is why it can be so uncomfy for a while as the skin has to desensitise and get used to being exposed and rubbed around against clothing etc. This might also explain lack of feeling after circumcision. That's probably why my friends brother felt uncomfy for a while. So, if your hubby does decide to get it done, he may be walking around with a pillow in front of him for a while!

 

[Kaisma]

I personally wouldn't get it done for my baby even you didn't ask it

I have had both kind of partners, and I wouldn't say there's a different in satisfaction even the guy was circumcised or not. Also I don't believe in whole "being more hygienic" thing...

 

[ZombieQueen]

I understand that some people are against it, but I feel people need to calm down on this subject, we don't go off and argue about other religious beliefs or personal choices.

My husband is and my sons will be as well. That's mine and my husbands choice. I have experienced both and as a woman i prefer a man who is, my husband is glad he is, not that he would know any different, but from a cosmetic stand point he is glad he is.

 

[rwhite]

Please think about it this way - if your son grows up and as a teenager or adult is unhappy that he has a foreskin, then he can make that decision to have it removed if he wishes, but if you make that decision for him he can't just think to himself "Oh boy, I'd quite like my foreskin back now" and have it magically reappear. It's an irreversible operation and one that I feel should be up to the owner of the body it's being done to.

 

[rwhite]

And I will admit, I couldn't be more turned off by an anteater-penis. If my husband wasn't cut, I wouldn't look at his penis until it was totally hard. I expect some skinny, long tounge to come flicking out of those un-cuts.

That's a little shallow and ridiculous don't you think?

 

[alaskagrown]

My OH is circumcised and if we were having a son, I'd choose to get him circumcised too. I honestly thought it was a standard procedure and didn't think there was so much controversy behind it. I have never seen an uncircumcised penis and I actually had to look it up on the Internet to see what it was!

However, this forum is made up from people mostly from the UK and I've found that my perceptions, beliefs, and standards differ quite a bit from those abroad.

 

[luci and bump]

My OH has quite a tight foreskin, and was recommended to have it cut, as it can make sex uncomfortable for him, as it can hurt to pull it back. Because it doesn't pull back easily, when it does pull back, its very, very sensitive. It took a while to figure out techniques that don't cause him discomfort or pain (especially with oral sex) but now we've worked it out, it isn't a problem.
He was offered a circ when he was a teenager apparently, but he said no, he didn't want to lose sensitivity, and he didn't want to go through the pain of it!
If our LO is a boy, I won't even contemplate it for him, I'm sure it must be pretty painful, and as it isn't important in my religion or culture, I'm going to leave it for him to decide. If he has the same condition my OH has, it will be his choice when he's older, and my OH and I can help and advise him if need be, when he is old enough to decide

 

[JessPape]

I would NEVER as my husband to cut his skin off ever, nor would I expect my child to be cut. My husband showers once a day, he doesnt smell. Ive meet uncut guys though that didnt look after themselfs, and well they did have issues. But like i said they didnt look after themselfs, i don't believe its my choice to decied anyways.

 

[overcomer79]

My OH is and wishes he wasn't. I let him make the decision and despite my family demanding my son to be, we chose to keep him intact.

 

[Sunshine12]

Oh my word ... If my OH said he wanted me to have surgery because it would make certain parts of my body "better looking and more satisfying " I'd knock him into next week!!

Well said. The suggestion that someone wouldnt look at their husbands penis because of the way it would look if uncircumcised is one of the most immature things Ive ever heard. Id love to hear reactions of women if their husbands were to say that they refuse to look at their breasts because they are too saggy. Ridiculous!

I went out with someone that was circumcised and he resented his parents for having it done.

 

[TattiesMum]

My husband was circumcised at the age of 21 as a result of a split foreskin that then got infected ... he mainly remembers the horrendous pain from the split/infection rather than any trauma from the op itself and doesn't have any issues at all in respect of his 'lost' foreskin (any more than I have issues with my 'lost' tonsils )

He's obviously had sex both as an uncirc'd and circ'd adult and claims there is no difference whatsoever in his enjoyment - I'm not in a position to be able to judge that myself, so I have to take his word for it

My first husband was uncirc'd so, like a previous poster, I've experienced both and to be honest there is very little difference from a woman's point of view ... every penis is different anyway so there really isn't anything that (if you were blindfolded and hadn't touched with your hands) would make you just know from how it felt iykwim.

 

[Sew_Sweet]

I am in the US (midwest) and we are not having our son circumcised. I expect to get questioned on that from a few people because yes, it is the norm here. From what I understand the popularity is decreasing - but mostly on the coasts. it is still very standard in the midwest.

To me it is nothing more than cosmetic and superficial. And cosmetic to what standard? In fact almost every negative response to uncirc in this post is superficial and cosmetic. That says more about the poster IMO. I've seen both, I've "experienced" both. I have no preference either way. It's not like the male penis is all that attractive in either form IMO so why F with it and potentially screw it up even farther? Like others have said - it's way too "sensitive" (pun intended!) of a procedure to make that kind of decision for another person who someday will be able to make an informed decision on their own. I don't buy into any argument that it would hurt a grown man any worse than it would hurt a newborn baby. And I'd say a baby has gone through enough trauma right after birth to have to deal with that too. We aren't religious in any form so no reason for us to do it there.

Someone also made the comment that other boys might tease him in the locker room. This is a a real argument... really? First, I kind of doubt this would happen. Do high school boys really want to draw attention that they are studying each others manly parts during shower time? Yeah, probably not.

So what's left? Cleanliness? As if cleaning a penis is difficult? I'm no expert but I can't imagine it is rocket science. So - what if someone were to propose that removing the labia of female children would make it more cleanly? Yeah I imagine it would. It'd be dryer and less moist - less bacteria etc etc. OR a person could just learn to properly clean themselves like we all do.

The more I think about it the more ridiculous it gets.

 

[Chelsea.ann1]

Great arguments... I can honestly say I have totally rethought the decision of ever circumsizing a son in the future. I used to just think it was normal, it was just what you did.. But there are some valid pts. here... It really is FOR NOTHING. &someone mentioned if you just felt it, without your hands, you couldn't tell a difference. That's true!! I still plan to leave the decision solely to the child's father, however if the circumstance arose where i didnt' have his father to ask.. I'd say no..

Just to add. I personally do know someone that was made fun of for years for being uncircumsized. In 8th grade this kid sent a pic to a bucnh a girls (he's dumb!) & girls obviously have big mouths told everyone i remember him recieving SO much shiiiiiiit for notbeing circumsized.. do i understand this? nope.

But it was just one circumstance. I just remember blatently all the crap the whole 8th grade class gave him... Mind you he was a jerk nobody liked him anyways..

 

[Sew_Sweet]

Heh - well that kid kind of set himself up to get made fun of no matter what. That happened to be the thing they decided to pick on him for since that is what the photo was after all.

 

[Chelsea.ann1]

Heh - well that kid kind of set himself up to get made fun of no matter what. That happened to be the thing they decided to pick on him for since that is what the photo was after all.

Exactly.
He still to this day is a "man whore" so obviously girls didnt' mind too much..

 

[Sew_Sweet]

Sure they don't - it's his novelty. "Hey wanna see this?" (since chances are they haven't)

 

[Chelsea.ann1]

probably true!

Either way it's stilll a peniss!!!!!!!!!! Gets the same job done!!!

 

[amjon]

DH is not circumcised, but we were just discussing it the other day. He said he would like to (once he gets health insurance) because his skin is very tight and DTD is sometimes painful for him. He would probably just get enough cut off to make it loose enough to not be painful.

 

[Lucky2BMummy]

My husband and i have been having this conversation - he is done (religious reasons) and is worried he wouldn't know what to do if our son wasn't done ie how to clen it etc. The only thing we have to go by is his uncle who got it done at 19 years old.
He said that i likes it more now that it's done and wish he'd had it done when he was a baby. We talked with him and his wife who said that sex felt better for him before he was done, but better for her after it was done lol..
We're still on the fence but want to talk to more people who have had it both ways as i dont think you can make a decision without knowing both sides (as girls we dont know what it feels like, what they go through, pros cons etc)

 

[JessPape]

I think if the skin is to tight than that is a medical reason to get it done. As for them having the skin there, making it quicker for a man to get off,I do not agree with. I say that because my husband is uncut and was a virgin when we meet. Yea, he was quick to get off when we first meet, but what guy wasn't? You got to learn to control yourself in bed, and thats what having stigma to last longer comes from. As for cleaness, my husband has a shower once a day, and unless he came home covered in oil from his job, i have no issues going down on him, he doesnt smell. Ive seen cut guys that stink worse. It all comes down to the guy, and what the parents think is right. thats all, and thats the only opinion that matters, what they PARENTS think is right, not anyone elses.