Men!!!!

[imaginary8x]

Ok, so Amy was gonna see her dad to day for the 2nd time, but just before I was about to come over he tells me how his new gf is coming over so I told him "she isn't meeting Amy and how about another day?" to only get a message sent back telling me "if I want to be like that then he won't be free for the next 2 weeks!"

Pissed me off so much!!! How could he put his new gf before his daughter?

Vent over.

 

[CLH_X3]

He probs don't even see it like you do, putting gf b4 lo .... He probs sees it as a way ur trying to control him by saying ur not coming over cuz her

It's like he's doing tit for tat...sighhh

And it most likely get worse

 

[nervouspains]

Men just dont get it do they?
I would just say 'I dont want any girls in my daughters life until you have been with them for at least 6+months' ...surely thats fair? If not, hes a pr*ck obviosuly and doesnt deserve to mess you- or your daughter's life around xx

 

[LittleMadam]

Some men can be selfish p***ks. Don't let it get you down. Enjoy the time with LO. If and when he deigns to get in contact for a visit, be sure to tell him how busy YOU are over the next two weeks.

xx

 

[Sandie_Cali]

Ok, so Amy was gonna see her dad to day for the 2nd time, but just before I was about to come over he tells me how his new gf is coming over so I told him "she isn't meeting Amy and how about another day?" to only get a message sent back telling me "if I want to be like that then he won't be free for the next 2 weeks!"

Pissed me off so much!!! How could he put his new gf before his daughter?

Vent over.

That is what I was saying in your last post, he is putting the girlfriend first above your daughter and showed it by his actions.

Don't play into his stupid games and well when two weeks go by and your busy or made plans dont accept his first offer. Make sure you set your boundaries and dont let him walk all over you.

BTW you did good in telling him that and what you did. He needs to realize that he needs to get to know your daughter and be there for her, before he brings in someone who will probably not last but a month or so.

Take care of yourself and your beautiful baby girl.

 

[bloodbinds]

If it were me, i'd let him make all the effort.

If he wants to see his daughter he should do doing everything in his power for that to happen. So he can come to where you want him to, the date you want him and without any other people there. If he wants to see his daughter then he should whatever he can. If he doesn't he is obviously not a great dad to begin with and you can tell him to bugger off!

 

[teal]

I'd be annoyed as well! I agree that he should be doing everythign in his power to see his daughter! xx

 

[emilylynn18]

UGH, what a pig! >
Men are so dumb... How any guy thinks he can put his GF over his daughter or son is beyond me...

 

[Lisa151720]

Babe you need to set some boundries and regular access if thats what he wants, but make it on your terms and whens best for you. If he wants to see his daughter so bad he will meet your demands and as for the gf i agree with most this gf could not be around in 4 months like yourself so there is no need for amy to meet her not unless they've been together a while and its serious.

Make him come see amy every wednesday & saturday for example start from there and tell him he comes on his own to bond with his daughter not show her off to his gf like a trophy like you say he didnt want to know to begin with why now???

Good Luck Sweetie been there myself, hassle over access and maintanence men can be so pig headed but kids aren't toys.

xx

 

[alexisandmias]

It is so sad. My ex did this too. They think they are punishing youby doing that when all they are doing is hurting their children. I hope eventually he changes his attitude. I know that once my ex realized that he wasn't bothering me his attitude has changed a bit. Good luck!

 

[Pricey]

Can you all back off with the stupid "men" comments... its 1 MAN your all talking about, for god's sake, not all of us.

Oh, and just to say, is it acceptable for you to say his new gf can't meet her, but it will be acceptable when you meet a new bf to let him into her life?

Just putting it out there, because noone has seemed to pick up on that.

 

[Perdita]

Can you all back off with the stupid "men" comments... its 1 MAN your all talking about, for god's sake, not all of us.

Oh, and just to say, is it acceptable for you to say his new gf can't meet her, but it will be acceptable when you meet a new bf to let him into her life?

Just putting it out there, because noone has seemed to pick up on that.

Actually - lots of women here have the same or similar experiences so you can maybe understand why we feel that way??? And reading other posts from similar threads introducing kids to a new boyfriend is taken seriously and some women only see their new partners when kids are away! Everyone makes their own rules but the thing about sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander definitely applies!