Messaged FOBs Sister

[Mummy1995]

None of FOB fAmily have met DD, he hasn't contacted me for almost 4months now apart from he said 'this is my new number in case you ever need to contact me' as if! I'm sorry but if he's washed his hands of us then we've done the same to him and even if the worst was to happen (pray it doesn't) I probably wouldn't tell him - call me a bitch but he's not involved so it wouldn't effect him.

Anyway back to the point. I've been speaking to my friend who is family friends with FOB and his family. I found out FOBs sister has been wanting to meet Isabella. She's only 16 and had no way of contacting me, so I've messaged her tonight letting her know she's welcome to come and meet Isabella or I can meet her somewhere. So just waiting for a reply now.. if I get one :/ every time I've contacted his dad in the past I've not had a reply (apart from once) and ended up getting a text from FOB telling me to back off and stop contacting him. :/

Wish me luck please lovelies xx

 

[Ceejay123]

Awwh I hope she replies x

 

[Dezireey]

Yeah, I hope she replies hun. Don't worry if she doesn't though. hugs xx

 

[babycrazy1706]

Best wishes!!!!! Xx

 

[teal]

Good luck xx

 

[Dream.dream]

Awe I hope she answers . Even if the dads a jerk its nice for the kids to have some contact with the family so they can at least know where they come from.

Good luck

 

[Mummy1995]

I wish I'd never done it now. She read it and then blocked me. So my heart has been broken into pieces again :'( I just want my baby to know her family, why it that so hard for them to understand? :'(

 

[Mummy1995]

Actually sat here crying, I don't see why they can't be the bigger person like me and my family can be and just get over the fact we hate each other so my innocent little baby doesn't get effected by their childish and pathetic ways. :'(

 

[Ceejay123]

Awh, chances are she read it out to her brother and got told to block you x

 

[Mummy1995]

I don't even know what to do

 

[teal]

I'm sorry to hear she blocked you. At least you can tell your daughter you tried.

 

[Ceejay123]

I'd just leave it now honey. They don't deserve to be in your daughters life, it's their loss not yours.

I'd personally block every single one of them, and try to move forwards

Have you claimed csa against fob? X

 

[Mummy1995]

no I haven't but I don't think he's working anyway x

 

[Ceejay123]

no I haven't but I don't think he's working anyway x

You should - just because he shouldn't be allowed to get away with it scott free. If he's not working it'll come out of any benefits he chooses to take , usually £5 a week which is rubbish but at least he doesn't have it. as soon as he starts working you're entitled to 15% of his wage to look after his daughter, if he gets a full time normal job - say £1000 a month, that's £150. Money you could even just put into a savings account for her if you feel funny using it. X

 

[Mummy1995]

Plus if he's paying won't it give him rights to her? :/ x

 

[Mummy1995]

Don't even think he's on benefits as his parents give him everything he wants x

 

[Mummy1995]

Urgh my friend who told me what his sister said just told me FOB sent her the message I sent to his sister and then blocked and deleted her.. x

 

[Ceejay123]

Urgh my friend who told me what his sister said just told me FOB sent her the message I sent to his sister and then blocked and deleted her.. x

Awful man

And no, it doesn't give him any rights at all! Paying or not paying.

Is he n the birth certificate. That's what gives him rights,

I really would go to csa, teach the jerk a lesson. Even if he not earning, as soon as he is it'll be easy enough to start receiving money as there'll be a case open x


Edit - my oh has a Son from a previous relationship , has been through court etc to fight for rights, x

 

[Mummy1995]

Okay thanks! Nope not on the birth certificate, I let him know when I was registering her and he never replied or turned up! Makes me so mad that there's decent men out there who can't have a child or are denied access and people like him given it all on a plate and decide to eff off! I keep debating with myself whether to message him or not and tell him to let his family decide themselves :/ x

 

[Ceejay123]

Okay thanks! Nope not on the birth certificate, I let him know when I was registering her and he never replied or turned up! Makes me so mad that there's decent men out there who can't have a child or are denied access and people like him given it all on a plate and decide to eff off! I keep debating with myself whether to message him or not and tell him to let his family decide themselves :/ x

It's up to you sweetie. The only way he can get rights is to go to court, or to have you sign the birth certificate with him now. Court would make him jump through hoops as she doesn't know him too, so he's kind of shot it for now.

If it'll give you peace of mind sweetie do it, but it may cause more drama than it's worth. I can see how desperate you are for him to want your daughter, it's heartbreaking . Definitely go the csa route, he shouldn't be able to be a jerk and get away with it scott free! X